Abandon the if, seize the moment

Federico 2022-03-24 09:03:06

Rewatched the movie again yesterday. Today, I read an article in New Concept English 4, and saw the usage of English subjunctive sentences headed by If only, if only means "as long as", which means an unreal state. Likewise, "If Only" shows exactly this surreal plot.
In the movie, the hero Peter Wyndham (Nicholls) and his girlfriend Emily (Jennifer Love Hewitt) are an ordinary couple. Peter is a clerk in a company and is busy with work. Emily is American, studying music in London. The two are busy with their own lives and rarely have time to be alone. Especially Peter was so busy with his business that he forgot his girlfriend's graduation concert and didn't care enough about his girlfriend. When his girlfriend asked to go with him to the United States to meet his parents, he refused because he was busy. He also rarely opens his heart to his girlfriend, and never tells his family to his girlfriend. On the night of the graduation recital, after the two quarreled in the restaurant, his girlfriend left sadly. Peter, who came to apologize, did not choose to get into a taxi with his girlfriend, but just watched her leave. However, in less than a minute, the taxi collided with a truck at the intersection in front of the street, thus separating the yin and yang from his girlfriend.
The grief-stricken Peter woke up the next morning and found that he had returned to the previous day, his girlfriend was safe and sound, and the events he experienced yesterday were re-occurring like a movie, but the sequence or characters changed a bit. Peter's initial disbelief started to try to undo yesterday's mistakes. If it happens again, Peter chooses to put down all business, go back to his hometown with his girlfriend, confide in his father, whom he has been reluctant to mention, prepare surprise gifts for his girlfriend's graduation concert and so on. In short, he tried his best to use all means to restore his love with his girlfriend, and his girlfriend was deeply moved by it. When the two walked out of the restaurant and were about to take a taxi, Peter didn't hesitate to get in the car even though he knew what was about to happen. Use your body to protect your girlfriend when the truck is about to hit. In the end, it was Peter who left forever this time.
Although there are no ups and downs, the meaning of the film is intriguing. In reality, many people, including ourselves, are just like Peter. When we have it, we don't know how to cherish it. When we lose it, we understand the importance of love and the value of people around us. Sometimes we are accustomed to the kindness of our relatives, friends, or lovers, but we forget to give our own care. Or, we are accustomed to hiding our pain, only sharing our happiness, and unable to be honest with each other. Everyone knows that, whether it is family, love, or friendship, everyone needs to work hard to manage it. Peter in the film is faced with such a problem, he asks himself, "I love her very much, but I don't know how to love her". How to love, how to manage a relationship. I think the movie gave a clear answer - no grudges, no perfunctory, just put into action and love.

The word "if" is used a lot. For example, you will hear such babble, "If I worked hard at the beginning, I would have been admitted to X University", "If I was born in a rich family, I will be XXXX" and so on. Even if Peter in the film used this "if" to make up for his previous mistakes, he always left regrets. Because the appearance of "if" itself means that the tragedy has occurred, and the fate is destined to be unchangeable.

Abandon what if, seize the moment.

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Extended Reading
  • Arch 2022-03-19 09:01:07

    Whether it is a production or an actor, I always feel that something is lacking.

  • Derek 2022-03-27 09:01:15

    Not as pretty as I thought

If Only quotes

  • Ian Wyndham: Close your eyes. Happy graduation.

    Samantha Andrews: Oh my God.

    Ian Wyndham: Some of the charms are old and some are new. That's a musical note, a violin. This one is a flower, what is no sense of matter at all, except it was exquisite much like yourself. Let's see... the train that we took today. And... that's the Eiffel Tower that you've always wanted to see. And... this frying pan, cause you are the only person that I know that can actually do the flipping thing. And... this one's a heart... my heart... it's yours now.

  • Ian Wyndham: I guess what I'm trying to say is... I want to soldier on. I really do. Okay?

    Samantha Andrews: No.

    Ian Wyndham: No what?

    Samantha Andrews: I don't... want to soldier on.

    Samantha Andrews: Ian, if I were to stay in London now, it would be for you. For us. And I would do that in a heartbeat if I knew we were really special.

    Ian Wyndham: We are.

    Samantha Andrews: Really? You never tell me how you feel or talk about yourself. You don't want to meet my family. You forgot my graduation. We run into my favorite student and you act as if he has something contagious.

    Samantha Andrews: Ian, I know you have the best intentions, but I feel like I'm a really high second priority to you. That hurts. And the worst part is I'm starting to get used to it.

    Ian Wyndham: I don't understand.

    Samantha Andrews: I know. That's what kills me.

    Samantha Andrews: If there had just been one day Ian, one day where nothing else matters but us.

    Ian Wyndham: I adore you.

    Samantha Andrews: I don't want to be adored, I want to be loved.

    Samantha Andrews: I can't do this anymore.