I found that it is easy for them to have sex with a person, but it is difficult to say "I love you" to a person.
For them, the word love is very serious and heavy. In other words, for them, sex is far less careful than love.
In the first episode of the first season, Carrie proved that she can do just sex without love. Not to mention Samantha, she is simply a female master of the practice school in Manhattan, New York. Even Charllote, the show's most conservative, dignified, and classy traditional male dream lover, would have sex on the third date.
However, Samantha is easy to get laid, but not easy to get involved. In her original words, "I'm not a relationship person". If Sam is a weirdo and not representative, then let's talk about Miranda , After Miranda met Steve in the bar, he took him home, maybe because he was in a bad mood that day, maybe because Miranda hadn't "have sex" for a long time, no matter what the reason, they were in love anyway. , but Miranda didn't want to have any further contact with Steve at that time, and refused to leave the phone. That is to say, for them, the generation of sex does not need to be considered too much, which is a normal physiological need, but the generation of a romantic relationship takes much more time and thought than the generation of sex.
Dating, then what? Oh, and you must never say "Love" lightly, because a lot of times the word is too heavy and will scare your BF off. Carrie said "I love you" to Mr.Big for the first time in an unexpected situation. Mr.Big, a man who had been on and off with her many times, was instantly confused, so he had to talk about him.
Carrie also felt reckless that she actually raised the relationship between the two to the height of love, and the group of girlfriends were also deeply surprised by Carrie's move "You've told Big that you love him?!"
Ah, it turns out that although they are in a relationship, they are not necessarily in love?
That is to say, for them, the prudent order of sex, relationship and love is: Love, relationship, then sex. Sex comes easy. Relationship happens occationally. Love is the hardest to achieve.
Interestingly, for Chinese women In other words, the order of the three is just the opposite. It is easier for us to fall in love. Sometimes we can fall in love with a distant idol, and sometimes we can "deeply" fall in love with a certain man who sat at our front desk in junior high school for eight or nine years. People don't even remember you. The probability of unrequited love in the life of Chinese women is too great. We don't need to be dating to fall in love with someone. Who stipulates that if you want to love, you can only love BF? It's already miserable without a BF. If you don't let people love you like that, wouldn't you suffocate to death?
And then, for most of us, dating is also a matter of prudence. Do you feel it, whether to call or not, whether there is a lack of common language, every time you choose a boyfriend, you will follow the standard of choosing a husband.
As for sex, wow, it's not just a matter of prudence, it's something that has to be considered after love - dating - marriage.
In the end, which model is better, the national conditions are different, the folk customs are different, and the conclusion is not easy to draw. It's just that I think that dating first and then talking about love is to determine whether the two can get along, and then consider whether the two can love each other. We often have the embarrassment of being in love with each other and being difficult to get along with. After a long period of heart-breaking and unforgettable time, we found out that, acridine, this man never washes his socks / this woman never cooks, no matter how much we love It's over. What's even more tragic is that love also loves, and everything is good, but unfortunately the plane is not taxiing smoothly, the tracks are not right, and decades of sexless marriage (of course, this is extreme...). It seems that Europeans and Americans don’t have this trouble. Whether they have good performance a priori, and whether they are compatible with personalities, they finally consider whether they are in love or not… But I believe that things are always not as simple as they appear on the surface, and I believe that their models must also have them. troubles.
Note that Chinese women should be careful to adopt the pattern of European and American women's mate selection in China, otherwise, if they are not careful, they will become unsuccessful, and even their qualifications for mate selection will be abruptly deprived. This article is intended for film and television discussion, please do not take a seat.
View more about Sex and the City reviews
