A girl grows up, an uncle is here to accompany you

Paris 2022-03-24 09:01:43

As a man, I am afraid that I will never be able to understand the mentality of a girl facing a middle-aged man, especially if the middle-aged man is mature and charming, has a successful career, and is considerate. Women mature earlier than men, especially when girls expect love and tenderness, boys of the same age are often unable to keep up with the rhythm, appearing silly and confused, so if a girl sees a calm middle-aged attractive man, she will When I think about the naive boys of the same age around my friends, I often collapse. Middle-aged men and girls, this is a topic that will never be exhausted. Especially since Nabokov wrote "Lolita", similar topics have risen to the level of a cultural outlook. In 2009, two films with similar themes were more noticeable, one was the Oscar-nominated "Growing Up Education", and the other was "Fish Tank", which was widely acclaimed in the critics. The joys and sorrows brought by the growth of girls, but the styles are very different.

"Growing Up Education" is a very British film. The pictures have a classical texture, the emotions are delicate and flowing, and the story is also a kind of tenderness full of literature and art. The girl in the film has a decent family background and has snobbish parents, especially her father who complains and is indecisive. The girl herself has good qualifications, she is a talented girl, and she is expected to go to a good university and have a bright future. However, the father's nagging and boring study are obviously contradictory to the girl's reverie and lively age, and these pressures are extraordinarily strong, like a scale, heavy on one end, pushing the girl on the other end high Take it off the ground and struggle in the air. Therefore, the girl needs a balance and the joy of returning to the earth. At this time, the uncle is kind. I saw the girl walking forward in embarrassment in the rain. At this moment, his eyes suddenly blurred, and the gentle-toned uncle drove his private car and approached him, and thoughtfully invited the girl into the car to see him off. In this situation, it is very natural for a girl to be emotional. . The next trajectory is a process of getting deeper and deeper, indulging in social life, indulging in Paris’s money, and giving up her studies. The most interesting thing is the change of her father. From the beginning, her daughter must concentrate on studying and schooling, and later She was also conquered by her daughter's uncle boyfriend, thinking that it was useless for a girl to read so many books. Families under the traditional concept often have a strange "marriage anxiety" about the education of their daughters, for fear that their daughters will have no way to marry. Sometimes this anxiety even becomes the core of education. When a good man, parents let go.

During the progress of this film, the director controlled the rhythm very well, and kept adding a kind of disturbing emotion and hints to it, but it was useless to make it appear prematurely, making you feel that the uncle is always hiding something from the girl , there seems to be a big conspiracy behind it. Finally, the mystery was revealed. The truth of the uncle is actually very ordinary. He is not a thief, nor a gangster godfather, but a young girl whose plot is seriously uncontrollable. Before the truth was revealed, the director showed the uncle's appearance as charming, daring to take responsibility, and powerful. After the truth was revealed, he was cowardly and evaded to make him mediocre. He also gave the girl the best growth education, and her dreams could never be entrusted to others. , especially the uncle who made his debut. This film is adapted from a real autobiography. The protagonist suddenly wakes up and has a good home. The whole film is elegant and delicate, and the twists and turns of life and awakening appear extremely calm, even contrived. In contrast, another British film, "Fish Tank", is more crude and realistic. The girl in the film grew up in a typical environment that we can call "suffocating". She has an unreliable mother, herself Wandering the streets all day long, with a rebellious and eccentric personality, he has few friends around. In "Zhen Ai", Zhen Ai would daydream in a suffocating environment, while the girl in "Fish Tank" doesn't even bother to daydream. However, she is not without expectations and dreams. She loves hip-hop, practiced hard, and has been trying to get on the stage. There is also a detail in the film, that is, she always wants to smash a white horse tied by an iron chain, even if she gets into trouble, her life is like being tied by an invisible chain, unable to break free. The encounter with her mother's boyfriend seems to have brought her a turning point. Compared with the handsome uncle in "Growing Up Education", this uncle is not so graceful, but has a rough masculine charm, which hits the girl at once. . The relationship between a girl and her mother makes it difficult for you to feel the traditional mother-son relationship, but it is more like a sister, which seems to have a kind of de-authoritative equality. In addition, the girl lacks fatherly love, which also makes the girl and the uncle later affectionate Darkness seems to be a matter of course.

"Fish Tank" director Andrea Arnold once attracted the attention of the film industry with a "Red Road". In this new work, she maintains the style of "Red Road", endows life with undercurrent and surging depression. When the girl runs around aimlessly in her life like a small fish in a fish tank, it seems that a storm is coming. Andrea's performance of sex has a cold and violent color, as if it is a battle. In "Red Road", it is a struggle that interweaves revenge and breaking the psychological bottom line, while this film has a kind of Breaking through the boundaries of dull life, the sex under the camera has no tenderness at all, which is in stark contrast to the shy and shy innocence in "Growing Up Education". "Growing Up Education" is actually permeated with a strong sense of elite in the bones, and the girl's momentary slippage is just a stumbling block for her next step to the elite class. And "Fish Tank" is more low-level and cruel. The girl's way of discovering the truth and her subsequent reactions are not elegant, but it is more vulgar and absurd, which is in stark contrast to the innocent heart of this girl. He is weak and helpless, often forming a deep inferiority complex, and showing deliberate rebelliousness and mania to the outside world. She also deeply received the education of this growth, but the director did not give a clear way out, but let the girl travel away from home and find the answer by herself. This is also the choice that growing men and women need to face.

Compared with the two films, I personally prefer "Fish Tank". It is more depressing, yet more open, and can touch my heart more. And "Growing Up Education" gives me the feeling that it is well-made and the process of watching is very comfortable, but it lacks the kind of touching thing. Although it is an adaptation of an autobiography, the perspective of the film is the perspective of a third party, with a scrutiny The perspective tracks the fall and rise of a teenager. The film is really like its name, like an educational film. And "Fish Tank" is closer to the protagonist's heart, her life, her plight, and naturally brings me into that kind of atmosphere. It shows the frustration and confusion of youth, but there is no "growth education" "The kind of implied moral pressure and criticism, but tells us lightly that this girl is injured, she is reborn, she continues to move forward on the road, every boy and girl continues to explore their own path in life, dreams can never be achieved. Attaching to someone to achieve, we have to experience, to make independent decisions, this independence and maturity makes me feel that it is the most real gain in the growth process. Of course, even if both films show the great harm done by the uncle to the girls, the uncle's attraction to the girls is still endless, but the uncle also inspired the young boys to come over, so as a man, you still have to speak for the boys, girls. Or please consider long-term investment, cautiously carry out short-term operations on the theme of uncles, and give them room for growth. After a few years, returning you a handsome middle-aged mature man may bring more stable emotional benefits.

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  • Jack: We have to have this out. Well, if you won't do it, I will. I'm still your father.

    Jenny: You're my father again now, are you? And what were you when you encouraged me to throw my life away? Silly schoolgirls are always getting seduced by glamorous older men, but what about you two?

  • Helen: Someone told me that in about 50 years, no one will speak Latin, probably. Not even Latin people.