The film is full of enigmatic questions: Why did the father re-enter the children's lives after being missing for 12 years? Who is he calling on the go? When they came to the beach, who had already arranged the boat and went to sea? What did my father dig up in the house on the island? Why did the dinghy's engine start up again while the kids were driving back?
These questions make the film seem obscure and difficult to understand, but when we watch it from the perspective of "understanding father's love", we can find out the answers. “There is an educational conflict in every detail.” Deciphering these details can help us understand more deeply the moral of the film, even if it is only the tip of the iceberg.
Opening scene "Sunday". Many boys gathered on a high platform to compete for who dared to jump into the sea. This is a ceremony that can symbolize the growth of a man. Boys usually develop a sense of independence in the process of growing up, and learn from the society the qualities that a "man" should have. Therefore, they will always take action to prove and emphasize their gender, which is the process of establishing a basic sense of self-unity in adolescents. The two contrasting props, the high platform and the sea, both show the children's strong desire to "become a man".
When the other boys were diving, the camera angle was from the bottom up, and when it was Andrei's turn, the angle of view was suddenly turned to be straight down. When Andrei jumped, his body quickly changed from big to small, making the original objective existence. The height of the high jump platform was infinitely increased, and the audience was shocked - this is not a simple ceremony, only the brave can control it. And Ivan, who neither dared to dive nor stepped off the platform, was dismissed as a "coward" by his partners, until his mother found him and promised not to let a third party until he climbed off the platform, he was rescued from the predicament .
"Monday". Ivan stepped off the platform, which means that he will eventually be excluded by peer culture and become a member of the disadvantaged group. Brother Andrei and his mates pushed him out, they quarreled and rushed to complain to the mother - from this we can see that the mother has an authoritative position in the cognitive world of the two boys. The mother held a cigarette and told the two children in a calm manner: their father is back.
The background of the two children's upbringing begins to become clear when the two children turn up photos of their fathers from many years ago: the father left the family when the sons were young, and Ivan was a baby when Ivan was a baby. Absent, which directly caused him to not have the same strong desire to "be a man" as other boys. Because he lost his sense of reverence for his father in the process of growing up, and there is no specific challenge object, it naturally reduces his desire to challenge. And the mother occupies a dominant position in Ivan's heart, and he trusts his mother - Ivan has completely revealed the "Oedipus complex" both psychologically and behaviorally (this is a story about killing a father and marrying a mother, which is more popular The explanation is "Oedipus complex").
Through the perspective of the two children, we saw the father lying on the bed - he was sleeping peacefully on the bed, with no other clothes except the blanket covering his body, the beard on his face was not shaved, the one on the right The slanted windows let in the faint sunlight, giving the illusion that he is Jesus, which also implies that the father is the authority of the family. The younger brother Ivan immediately went to look for evidence to prove that this was the father, but we can see from his expression that he wanted to "falsify"; while the older brother Andrei seemed to admire his father and closed the door for him, and he was with him. The younger brother admired his father's photo together and said, "This is my father," with a full expression of joy. The brothers' acceptance and recognition of their father's presence have since parted ways. From the photos, we know that Andrei had seen his father when he was young, he knew what his father's existence represented, and for Ivan, the father's image was forced to appear in his heart for the first time.
On the first day of Genesis, God created light and separated light from darkness, so there was day and night. It was clear that Andrei saw a dazzling light, while Ivan saw only endless darkness.
The father's authority was first embodied in the family's first dinner, which I saw as an introduction to the lesson of "Men's Growth" arranged by my father. The father sat in the middle, he dictated who should drink and how much, he allocated the food that the whole family could get for the day, and as Ivan watched, the mother had retreated to the other side and became a follower.
Andrei enjoys admiring his father's sense of authority, while Ivan resents the sudden appearance of a figure that represents the fact that he is forced to accept his imminent separation from his mother.
On "Thursday", my father started a course on "growing up".
Lesson 1: Obedience to Authority
Little Ivan's reluctance to acknowledge his father's authority from the start is manifested in his refusal to call his father "Dad," which is an awkwardly affectionate term for him. Father was dissatisfied with the status quo and he had to be treated with the respect he deserved, so he always reminded Ivan to call himself "Dad" in a stern tone.
Recognition of authority is followed by obedience, unconditionally. Andrei seems to be able to adapt to his father's orders, but because his mother always took care of Ivan unconditionally in the past, tolerant of his willfulness and cowardice, Ivan was more childish in front of his father, which is not allowed in the world of men of. Therefore, my father always instructed Ivan to do things with absolute orders: to solve his own lunch within a limited time; whoever eats the last will wash the dishes.
Lesson 2: Defending his own interests The
father gave Andrei the wallet, but the older boy robbed him. Without thinking, the father drove the perpetrator back to the brothers and let them do whatever they wanted with the older boy, but they backed off, unwilling to take revenge. "You should always be prepared," the father said angrily.
In the minds of the brothers, the world should be peaceful, but the father wanted the children to understand that violence in reality also filled the world. This is not to promote violence, but to want children to know that as a man, at the last minute, violence must be used to defend the rights and dignity of yourself and your family. This is the contradiction between "should" and "actually".
There is also such a detail: the father gave the big boy some money and let him go. Could this be a lesson planned by the father?
Lesson 3: Be Responsible
Mothers can prepare everything for their children to share, while fathers tell them that you have to be responsible and that no one can help you but yourself.
The father taught the children how to pitch a tent, how to pull a car out of the mud, and how to keep a boat going in the middle of the sea. Just imagine, in the rainy night, when the car suddenly plunges into the mud in the wilderness, when the boat suddenly stalls in the boundless sea, who can you count on except yourself?
Lesson 4: Take responsibility for your own actions
"A mother's love is unconditional, but a father's love is conditional. If you do not meet this condition, you will not get father's love, and even be scorned by your father." As a man, you must Take responsibility for what you do, and if you make a mistake, you should be punished.
The most severe punishment in the film is that Ivan complains about his father's arrangement that he had to stop fishing. He can't understand why he can't enjoy himself during the holiday and complains. My father threw him and his fishing rod on a bridge while Ivan rambled and left. Ivan stood there angrily, watching the big truck pass by. He thought he could get help, but was ignored. In this wilderness, he could not go home or move forward. At this time, it was pouring rain, and he had nowhere to hide from the rain, and his heart was full of helplessness, despair and resentment. Then my father's car finally showed up. But the son still couldn't understand his father and asked him why he wanted to come back to disturb his peaceful life.
"Your mother asked me to spend some time with you -- and I hope to spend some time with you." This sentence revealed the pure love of the father, and also revealed the reason for the father's return: Could it be that the mother finally realized The importance of fathers in the growth of sons, and asking fathers to come back and spend time with sons to develop their masculinity?
The father's last punishment was the reproach after the children went fishing alone and didn't return on time. He wanted to tell the two sons that everyone has the right to give orders to do what they should do at a critical moment. It's a pity that the children didn't understand. Ivan was so enraged that he took out the hidden knife, threatened his father, then dropped the knife and ran to the high platform in the island. Facing the high platform he once feared, he climbed up this time without hesitation and blocked the entrance to the platform. His father just wanted to explain everything, maybe to explain his love - we don't know. Now, my father fell from a height of tens of meters due to the weak outer fence and left forever.
Andrei watched all this, but was surprisingly calm.
"We have to take him back."
"How?" Ivan asked in a panic.
"Use your hand." At this point, Andrei was able to deeply understand the true meaning of it. They cut down the branches and tried to drag him back to the beach; they put him into a boat, and he lay on the boat, very similar to the way he sleeps at the beginning of the movie, but he never wakes up again. The brothers used the skills taught by their father to bring their father to the original place, but unfortunately the father could not see the real growth of the sons. He sank into the sea with the dilapidated ship, and the children could not be saved even if they shouted. This tragedy.
What's more sighing is that after the father's body sank into the sea, Andrei and Ivan's expressions quickly fell into indifference, they did not cry, even when Ivan found a photo of their childhood in his father's car, Andrei just said a faint "take it away" - they still couldn't feel the love of their father. The absence of 12 years cannot be made up by a few days' journey. After all, the return of the father is not the return of the father's love. You cannot separate the kinship between father and son, but you also cannot form a deep father in a short period of time. Love. The father came back, but his love to the death was not in the hearts of the children. Poor "Solomon Grandy" (from "Mother Goose", Solomon was born on Monday and died on Sunday)!
Recalling a few scenes of the car driving towards the far side of the road, I responded to Long Yingtai's words: "I slowly and slowly learned that the so-called father-daughter mother-son only means that you The fate with him is constantly watching his back go away in this life and this life. You stand at this end of the path and watch him gradually disappear at the bend of the path, and he silently tells you with his back that you don't need to chase. "I thought of a sentence in Teacher Liu Lianghua's "Autobiography of Education", the general idea is this: "What a father or mother can do, that is, watch, you can't go too far, he will feel insecure; Don't get too close either, he'll feel oppressed."
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