Women' (women first), my confusion about life suddenly became clear. What is the most important thing in life? I think everyone's answer must be different, but it's nothing more than realizing their dreams, getting their love, having a happy family, etc... This seems to be the end of the so-called happy life. However, in this journey of pursuit of happiness, how many people have the courage to face the situation of suddenly falling in the middle of the journey? It is not difficult to get up again after a fall. The difficult thing is how to clean up the painful wound. Some people are afraid of the pain, thinking that as long as the medicine is applied, it will be healed, completely ignoring the importance of disinfection. Therefore, many wounds appear to be healed on the surface, but they actually fester deep down. In the end, when the wounds are so severe that there is no cure, only the necrotic part can be removed, resulting in life-long disability and irreparable damage. [The most serious betrayal is the betrayal of "self"] The heroine Mary (Meg Lane) in the movie is a woman who looks happy on the surface, but is actually wrestling halfway. She has an outsider's eyes. Come to a very happy life: a successful career rich husband, a lovely twelve-year-old daughter, and three dead men like "Sex and the City"; occasionally, I help my father's clothing company design clothes. She is not far from her dream, surrounded by full of love, and in the eyes of others, she is simply a model of a happy woman; until she unexpectedly found out that her husband was having an affair, her life began to have a major change... Under the influence of , she chose to act deaf and mute (the mother was also betrayed by her father, and she weathered the storm by pretending to be stupid). On the one hand, she does not believe that her husband who loves her deeply will have no sign of empathy; on the other hand, she thinks that maintaining the surface peace will allow her to maintain a complete family. However, all of this is just an illusion of self-deception, and the anger she tried to suppress finally broke out: she was angry at her husband's betrayal; she was angry at her friend's betrayal; she was angry at her mother's escape; she was also angry at her daughter's alienation. Falling from heaven to hell? All the people she loves and those who love her are far away from her one by one, her life that has been going so well, collapsed in an instant, she messed up all the roles she played in her life: daughter, wife, mother, friend, she didn't know what to do with herself manage? The life that was originally in my hands lost its direction in an instant. By chance, an older woman who met by chance imparted her unique philosophy of life: "Don't always take care of others, and occasionally be selfish, you only need to think "what about me"? Anything will get better. ' These words were like titillation, not only awake Mary, but also awake me. When we try our best to think about others, we always ignore ourselves unconsciously, but when you shrink yourself to invisible, you can't stop others People are disappointed in themselves, and this situation of not being human inside and out is a double whammy. I am reminded of a lyric from Chen Qizhen's "Surface Peace": "In order not to make you sad, it broke my heart. ' That's the simple truth. Therefore, Mary finally discovered that the most serious betrayal was not her husband's stealing, nor the betrayal of her friends, nor her daughter's rebellion, but her own serious betrayal of herself: in order to maintain her husband's male self-esteem, she hid her talents , ignoring her own dreams; in order to maintain a perfect marriage, she pretends not to care about her husband's affair and is a docile wife. She lost herself and became the most hated person in her subconscious, and at the same time lost all the joy in her life. This made me realize that all the problems in life are actually "self", and the key to hindering the road to happiness is not others, but also myself; without "self", I have never asked myself what I really want? Disappointment with yourself is the most serious problem. The only effective solution is to face up to yourself, stop abandoning your dreams for anyone, and ignore your own feelings. Life is not a process of moving forward. On the way, it doesn’t matter even if you fall heavily, as long as you disinfect and apply medicine to the wound and take care of it, the painful wound will slowly scar and heal. When you know you'll be fine if you take care of it, you won't feel too scared the next time you fall down again. [Deep female friendship is the power of "rebirth"] The biggest feature of this movie is that there is no man from beginning to end, and all problems are finally solved with the support of four female friends. The structure is the same as that of "Sex and the City" Similarly, it focuses more on depicting the internal and external struggles of women when they face difficulties. The betrayal of a friend is actually a betrayal of oneself. What must be overcome is still the deepest fear within oneself. There is a scene that moved me very much: Mary and her friend Xi Wei (played by Anna Bantening) had been in a cold war for a long time. One day, they met on the street. They could no longer suppress their dissatisfaction with each other in their hearts. , arguing in the street like a child; Halfway through the quarrel, Mary found out that Xi Wei had lost her job. When Xi Wei learned that Mary received the divorce certificate, the two women suddenly no longer had only themselves in their eyes. The first thing that came to mind was the situation of a friend: Mary : "The moment I received the divorce certificate, I couldn't find the pen's signature. ” Xi Wei: “Mary, now is the 21st century, betrayal between people is a natural thing! Marie: 'I think it feels like after an amputation, you know a part of your body is gone, but it feels like it's still there. ” Xi Wei: “I think Steve must think so too. ' Mary: 'I'm not talking about Steve and me, I'm talking about me and you. 』 After speaking, the two women embraced each other and wept, smiling at each other. This seemingly ordinary but deeply meaningful conversation also made me burst into tears on the spot. It turned out that, for Mary, the pain of losing her best friend was no less than losing her husband. A good friend is like a part of the body that exists naturally and is a lifetime event. Silvi tries to make up for the hurt she's done to Mary. She treats Mary's daughter as her own, and she finally understands that she'd rather lose her job than lose Mary's friendship. Female friendship has always been something I cherished emotionally, so I'm very sensitive to changes in it. I can fully understand the pain of Mary's loss of Xiwei. When I was the most sad, there were a few close female friends who accompanied me through the pain. I don't know if I didn't have those good friends, now I would become What is it like? Those things that I can't say to my family, they can understand and give me the strength to support, but they don't judge me right or wrong. I will always remember her saying to me: "Don't cry alone when you are sad, call me no matter how late, I will accompany you. ’ These ordinary words are the tender moments that I think of most often in my heart. Although they couldn't bear the pain for me, they let me know my goodness and value; they made me realize that I was always cherished in the palm of my hand, and such intimate companionship took me through the ice and snow, and felt the warmth of sunshine again. They are all my "sun", they bring me ordinary warmth, but they don't burn me easily. Finally, Debra Messing) was accompanied by three close friends when she had a baby. In the process of being in a hurry for a while, what I felt was the inseparable emotion between women: the huge pain of childbirth can only be endured by oneself. However, the friends around me scolded and scolded together; we were excited and wept together; we witnessed the great moment of the child's birth together. But then again, there are no men in this world. Therefore, in the end, Yidi gave birth to a baby boy as she wished, which means that men and women still have to continue to entangle, have each other, and hurt each other. From another point of view, if there is no man, how can you prove that women are not only embarrassing women, but also have deep and unswerving friendship between women! I saw an online review of "Women First" from a male perspective, and I liked his conclusion: "Women are actually cute, as long as you are willing to understand her." The so-called men and women are very different, and there is a huge difference in the way of thinking between men and women, and I think the most valuable part is the "willingness" to understand and listen to each other's hearts. Only then can we truly enter each other's hearts. After watching the movie, the dead knot that I have been tying in my heart for a long time suddenly shows signs of gradually loosening. This feeling is very wonderful. In just over 100 minutes, it is like a self-healing process. In the most life way, humorous Open the knot in everyone's heart, the heart is loosened, and the emotions that were once tangled are slowly sorted out. I think everyone still has to face their own problems eventually, listen to their own voices, and understand what is most important to them? Only "self" can sew up the wounds of the heart and accompany oneself to a better tomorrow...... What is most important to you? Only "self" can sew up the wounds of the heart and accompany oneself to a better tomorrow...... What is most important to you? Only "self" can sew up the wounds of the heart and accompany oneself to a better tomorrow......
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