Maybe it was CJ's imminent departure that made me lose sleep after drinking a cup of coffee. Tomorrow's flight departs from Shanghai and will arrive in Toronto, Canada in a few days. Her voice on the phone is still calm, her encouragement to me has not changed, and the visa and air tickets are all ready. Tonight is for her , just the last nostalgia for China.
I asked her when she would be back.
In a few years, if you go to the US next year, you can meet in the US or Canada soon. Hearing her say this, I felt a little sad in my heart, and this feeling has been lingering in my heart.
What's sad is not CJ's departure, what's sad is not that the next meeting is far away, what's sad is my future self, will I be in America in a year or two? Will it be in my yearning CA? My sadness is that I am still not sure of my future direction, and I cannot firm up my dream of going to the United States.
I remember Eric solemnly saying to me when he left in early September, I am willing to be your spiritual support, you have to prepare carefully, we will see you in the United States. Later, on MSN or Facebook, I didn't dare to face Eric's greetings in CA. I couldn't face myself anymore. Will I go to the US to meet him as promised? Go to CA to meet him? Can my lack of self-confidence be restored with spiritual support?
Mushroom Haw for so long, to the family man. Now the storyline of the film is still deeply in my mind.
The family man asked me a question, what kind of man you want to be in the future? what kind of life do you want to live in the future? Such a simple question stumped me.
The overall concept of the family man will make people feel old-fashioned at first glance, but from a thorough perspective, it has a certain connection with the so-called time-space tunnel. Before me was a major life problem, I couldn't help asking in my heart, what kind of happy life should be? What kind of life should I expect?
The beginning of the film shows a living situation that everyone envies, the fierce fighting on Wall Street, the luxurious life of the upper class in the United States, the exquisite layout of high-end apartments, and the superiority of high-level social status. Here is a quote from one of my male classmates who once The three life goals advertised in the blog, high-educated, high-paid, good-looking, Nicolas Cage in the film seems to have all, his life seems to be perfect, as he claimed, I have everything . His first love, Kate, was also the boss of the Paris office of a large law firm. It is conceivable that this lady will enjoy a glorious life in the upper class of the United States. The perfume should be Chanel/Dior/Lancome, and the professional attire should be Armani/ Chanel/Gucci, the bag is a limited edition of LV worldwide, and the business trip is also in places such as Paris, Milan, Tokyo, etc., I meet business elites with private jets, and Feerari with private drivers. I'm too lazy to list such luxury brands, and I can almost achieve the perfect transformation dream of all little girls.
These are Cage and Kate 13 years later, both still single. Kate was sent to the Paris office to return Cage's old belongings before leaving New York. Cage returned to indifference even after receiving a call from his first love, choosing to walk alone in the snow on Christmas Eve.
After 13 years, they lived the life they chose 13 years ago, and possessed capital that the world envied. Were they all happy at that time?
The direction of the film is that they are single, high-paying, high-status, and high-quality life, but they are not happy. If the word happiness is still relatively noble, they are rich but miserable creatures. But do we, the audience, and the ordinary people living around them feel that they are unhappy? The cashier of the convenience store, the doorman of the company apartment, the black cat of the elegant lady upstairs, for these people and animals, Cage and Kate have a happy life.
OK, I am embarrassed to admit it, I envy their happiness 13 years later, when they have their own happiness of their own choice. Although they don't have the warmth and affection of ordinary families, the simple happiness of small people's lives, the lively picnic parties in the neighborhood, and the tempering of hard life, they still have their current careers. 13 years of higher education has allowed Cage and Kate to get To achieve the future they want, a rich material life is not a burden to life, but a prerequisite for a richer spiritual life. Their abilities have been rewarded fairly and their talents can be fully utilized. Newyork City and WallStreet need It is the success of Cage and Kate, American dream embodies the essence of this? Smart, hardworking, tough, you will get what you want in America, I have never felt a single fault in the American dream and American-style individual heroism, the world is supposed to be constructed like this, to be anything but ordinary, yes You must give up some A and B to get Bing Ding, and what you lose from A and B will be compensated from Bing Ding. This is a philosophy of survival that everyone must learn to grow, unless your dream is to become an ordinary person. What
you get from your career, not only The passion for work and the passion for life, because their work is what they love and are interested in. They are not old enough in the film to make them lose the possibility of dating. Being single is terrible. ? Being single is not scary!
If Cage and Kate don't go back to the 13-year time tunnel, they can still find their partner in the remaining years of their lives. There are many opportunities in life, and so are the chances of meeting the other half. Finding true love does not mean that you have to go back to college. The first love of the times, the movie is just used to follow a beautiful model, people's mindset seems to be to believe that first love is beautiful, hope that beautiful things can continue, everything including love has a happy ending, so the movie copied this model, let 13 years back in time, making choices misplaced once, making Cage and Kate appear in a brand new life of hardship and poverty, thinking that there will be family warmth and so-called true happiness in this life, I think this is also a misleading movie , a deception of audience values.
You don't need to find the freshness of your first love, maybe at a group party, on a long-distance plane or train, in the scenery of a foreign trip, or at a friend's private party, you can meet soulmate and even the soulmate of your life. companion.
What foreign countries advocate is lifelong learning, and this spirit is also advocated in professional life. I appreciate this fact very much. What's wrong with studying for a lifetime? What happened to your life at work? What happened to your life? What's wrong with being single? what happened to the doctor? What happened to the postdoc? What about 30 years old? What about 40 years old? What about 50 years old? Unlike the intensified remarks in China in recent years, that female doctors are regarded as dinosaurs, it is difficult to imagine how much education will improve in a society that regards women's higher education as a beast. Moreover, the ratio of males to females in Chinese society is now Everyone knows that there are also men in the north who advocate male chauvinism. I wish all the girls had a primary school degree and then randomly pick one to marry a good wife and a good mother to be his wife. I despise this kind of boy and despise this kind of society. atmosphere.
The same is true for the general awareness of education in the society. From time to time, there are such voices in my ears. Calculate the time you have been educated, how long you have graduated from college, how old you are when you go abroad for a doctorate, how old is a postdoctoral student, and how old you are when you get married and have children. Every time I smell such remarks, I just want to save my saliva and stop saying a word. Lifelong education is irrespective of age. The pursuit of dreams has no boundaries of national boundaries and time. Life can be more pursued!
Teacher Chen Qi in the GRE class of Beijing New Oriental likes to joke that we go abroad because we yearn for a luxurious and corrupt life abroad. Yes, since I can choose to live a high standard of life in my short life, why not to yearn for? Why not work on it? There is no reason, the so-called luxury and corruption, in a positive sense, is a form of happiness, and a happy life is worth pursuing.
Family happiness, children are not a necessary condition, long-term family gathering is not a necessary condition, and the chimpanzees of poor couples are not a necessary condition, although these factors can serve as sufficient conditions in some cases, and some situations may not meet The actual situation.
As for the episode of the time-space dislocation, my opinion is that it is indeed true, especially when Kate took out the fake designer suit on the wedding anniversary, Cage's eyes were helpless mixed with a touch of emotion, and I will never forget it. , at that time, he should be so happy that he couldn't put it into words, because it was the decent clothes he wanted to wear the most. He was just an ordinary salesperson selling tires, living in a low-end apartment, and had a wife of a public interest lawyer. With a meager salary and two children at home, what else could he expect?
In MUJI Nanjing, there is a feather quilt and a pillow for a total of more than 10,000 yuan. There are still customers who buy them. There are also the cheapest 95-speed pillows. The uncle of the security guard on duty told me that they do not buy these deadly expensive things. Yes, I have no intention of belittling the security uncle here, just want to express what I mean, different lives are faced with different choices. In contrast, I prefer the comfort brought by more than 10,000 feathers, you Woolen cloth?
But I am just an ungraduated student now, I can only reasonably expect that I can use the money earned from part-time work to bring a MUJI498 big low-rebound latex pillow back to the hard bed in the dormitory, and enjoy a little bit of high sleep quality. The new feeling and the high efficiency brought to my study and work, I gave a necklace of 400 yuan to my mother and a belt of 350 yuan to my father as a gift for my parents' wedding anniversary, but I really want to Give them a better gift, it's just that I can't do it now, but Cage and Kate in 13 years can do it, they can give the best care to their elderly parents and become Cage and Kate type people, I can make me and my family happy, and I yearn for the happiness of Cage and Kate before time and space were dislocated.
Nicolas Cage's films are very diverse, and he is also a diverse actor. An actor with as wide a range as him is naturally promising, whether it is the middle-aged and confused Cage of the weather man, or the elite of the family man galloping on the wallstreet Cage, or the fearless biochemical expert in the rock, the wise and erudite and brave historian in the national treasure, the soulful angel in the city of angel, the double-faced writer in the adaptation, balabalabala, Cage has all given him his natural acting skills. The character's agile temperament makes the plot more profound because of him. In my eyes, Cage's skillful acting has always been the highlight of all films, especially Cage's eyes, which are empty, confused, profound, and airy. , Desperate, fierce, wise, cunning, vicious... Cage can make the characters restore life deeply, which is the greatest charm of Cage.
Not everyone is like Cage in the family man. After 13 years, time and space can be dislocated. There is a chance to make a new choice. There is no regret medicine to buy.
Eric, see you at CA next year, wait for me.
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