After watching it, I deeply understand why "Knowing the Movie" mentioned this movie in the chapter of drama. The movie is very much like a stage play, with a lot of dialogue, a strong literary flavor, and increasing drama. At the same time, its film language is also extremely rich, such as close-up, alternate editing in different time and space, etc. The film mixes the two very well. It's also the most dramatic movie I've seen in a few months.
The name of the movie is Autumn Sonata, which gives people a sense of sadness but not sadness. Perhaps the style of photography matches the title of the film, but the content is the complete opposite. It relentlessly explores the darkest side of the relationship between parents and their children. displayed in front of everyone.
The mother-daughter relationship in the movie is extremely deformed. In reality, there should be very few mothers who are so selfish and controlling, and few daughters who are so intelligent. The daughter is very speculative. This couple is both. From what she told her mother about the boundaries of human beings, it can be seen that she must have thought deeply and objectively. It is a pity that her mother does not understand her and thinks she has something problem, just like her childhood. If she didn't have that kind of thinking, she'd be a lot better, she wouldn't realize how deeply her mother hurt her, usually people just get angry and it's going to subside, and she's not. It's like a microscope. When you can't see it clearly, it just feels a little bad. When you see it clearly, it's unacceptable, and you can't go back.
Young children are cognitively and emotionally deficient. Seems like this is crap, and yes it should be, but I keep finding that a lot of parents don't understand this basic fact. "Why don't you say it if you feel uncomfortable?" First of all, children such as six or seven-year-old children do not understand the concepts of pain and grief, let alone how to express them. One of the responsibilities of parents is to tell children about these concepts and learn how to Correct expression, rather than just assuming he knew it and then blaming him for not doing it. It is a simple truth that a person cannot be born omniscient. I still have some vague memories, my parents always said to me "don't you know you shouldn't do this", childhood I always blamed myself for being stupid, now I understand, I was a kid, I have never learned such knowledge, how could I know, it is like asking a passerby about the derivation process of the theory of relativity, and then blaming him for not knowing. The mother asked: "If you are not happy, why don't you say it", the daughter said: "I was a child at that time, I was afraid of you", she also said: "At that time I didn't know that I hated you, I could only say Silent growl, constant anxiety", I completely empathize with the conceited person who always blames others for his own problems, and then blames him for being stupid.
My mother is a very selfish person. She pursues whatever she wants, and throws away whatever she doesn't want. Completely disregarding the feelings of others, or even children. She must know that her daughter needs her, but the problem is with her - a mother doesn't need a daughter, it's natural to get rid of it, I don't understand now that if you don't make sure you love your child, why would you give birth to him , just like "Why Home", the child can sue the parents for giving birth to him. The daughter has always been in a state of longing for her mother, not a physical need, but an emotional one, and it is extremely urgent. I remember a psychological experiment, one iron pillar could give milk to the little monkey, and the other was an iron frame for the mother monkey without any milk wire, and the little monkey always held the fake mother monkey. This emotional need is so strong that not getting it will inevitably cause great pain, followed by anxiety, and finally from love to hate. It is difficult for such a person to have a normal and healthy mentality, because what this kind of person first learns is not to be loved, but to hate. They will think that love must be mixed with hatred, and even the subsequent hatred is greater than love, making them afraid to love, unwilling to love, that is, love is incompetent.
You make me feel like a piece of shit. The mother is a very arrogant and conceited person. For example, she looks down on her daughter's car and wants to change it for her, so that she thinks that she and her daughter will be happy. In fact, he thinks this way to show that I am a good mother. She feels her This is proved so she is happy, not really thinking about her daughter, the next words will prove it, or I should replace myself with a new one and give her the old one. She has high demands on herself and even more on her daughter. She has a strong desire for control, doesn't care about the feelings of others, and is arrogant to decide things according to her own preferences, so she must transform her daughter in her own way. The purpose of her doing this is not for her daughter's good, but for herself, to satisfy her own preferences, and to let her daughter achieve the "perfection" envisaged in her heart. If one takes perfection as the standard, then anyone in this world is ugly, stupid, clumsy. Love is such a good banner that you can do anything disgusting to others in that name and then even think you've done a good thing. I think the heroine must have suffered from depression. The most important thing in the growth stage is to build self-confidence, so that she will have a sound personality. But unfortunately, my daughter didn't gain any confidence building, but her inferiority complex was successfully cultivated. I think the worst time is when you are constantly being told how bad you are, when a kid is constantly being blamed and she feels ugly and stupid and weak, what a horrible time it was, it was hell.
The visual language of the film is also excellent, especially in the episode where the focus is on the outbreak. The mother is crying in the center of the camera in despair and pain, while her daughter is behind the test. It's the scariest scene I've seen in recent years, albeit without any of the usual horror elements. There are also alternate clips, where the paralyzed little daughter is helplessly calling out to her mother in the cracks, while the mother has been longing for the love and help of others. This passage vividly reflects how mothers don't care about their daughters, just longing to be loved instead of giving. And the younger daughter yearns for the love she never got as much as she was young. This dark line is a more tragic story. There are also clips of the mother in the train, alternating with the daughter in the cemetery, the warm yellow contrasting with the deathly pallor, as she once again abandons her daughter and flees into her comfort zone. "Why didn't she die" really disgusted me to the extreme that someone could be so evil.
I think inability to love is hereditary. The mother also lacks maternal love. She doesn't know what love is like. She doesn't give and is afraid to give. She just asks for what she wants. The same is true for the daughter, who desperately wants and knows she can't get it, just like the book her husband reads in the film. Even with a good husband and a stable environment, it is difficult for her to learn to love her husband. When she had a baby, maybe she learned, but it was taken away four years later. This is a tragedy.
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