"Why is heterosexuality the default attribute?"

Isom 2022-03-21 09:02:08

"Love You, Simon" tells the story of Simon, a high school student, and Blue, an anonymous classmate who is also troubled by the secret of sexual orientation. One day, the screenshots of their emails were accidentally exposed, and Simon's secret was released to the public. This accelerated the process of Simon coming out of the closet. In addition, the tolerance and sincerity of family and friends made Simon relieved and began to be brave. At the end of the story, Blue also accepted Simon's love in public, inspired by Simon's bravery. The color of the movie seems to be dominated by red like the movie poster, and you can find red shadows in most scenes, Simon's coat, car, most of Abby's clothes (of course, maybe this is one of Abby's characteristics, although she has Sad story, but her performance to the people around her has always been more enthusiastic and sunny), the chair in the school rehearsal room, the background at the end of the movie, etc. Red always brings out Simon's excitement, especially as a teenager who is hesitating to come out. In fact, it’s not so much red as color. Most scenes have warmer tones, but there are also bright cool-toned scenes, but most of the colors are colorful, especially in campus scenes, which can better show the rhythm youth, everything is so energetic. This is different from "Adele's Life" and "Call Me By Your Name", both of which are blue. The filming technique uses Simon's inner scene to set up suspense, which is convenient to show the emotional changes of the characters and enhance the sense of reality. For example, since Simon and Blue did not know each other's real identity, Simon guessed who the other party was through the content of the conversation. For the first time, Simon guessed Bram as Blue through the Halloween orange flavored Oreo, and then the movie was reading Blue's email. During the content, the picture was changed to the scene of Bram typing, but then at the party, Simon ran into the scene of Bram and the female classmate's passion, so he denied this conjecture. The second and third guesses, the movie is all this way. This ingenious design undoubtedly presents Simon's inner world directly but not directly, and at the same time makes the audience immersive, and the audience's heart can be well drawn by the plot of the movie. Mratin is an important role in promoting the development of the plot, but his appearance is not likable. He took advantage of Simon's fear of coming out of the closet and used the screenshots of Simon and Blue's emails to coerce Simon to help him get close to Abby. After failing to confess to Abby in public, he publicly posted the screenshots on social networking sites in order to divert the heat, letting Simon passively come out of the closet, but at the end it was Martin who asked Simon to sit After a few laps of the Ferris wheel, Simon waited for Blue to start this beautiful love affair, which brought a happy ending to Simon and Blue's coming out of the closet. Judging from the fact that Simon was coerced by Martin to deceive his friend Nick who liked Abby and designed to match Martin with Abby, Leah and Nick, this is obviously a very wrong and selfish decision, which is why, after Simon was revealed to be gay and everything was exposed , Simon also encountered the snub of his friends. But it can be seen that coming out is an extremely disturbing and terrifying thing for Simon.

As Simon pondered the question: Why is straight the default? Maybe it's because it doesn't seem fair that only gay people have to come out. Why is heterosexuality the default attribute? This is a social issue, and it is precisely because of this that Simon is extremely distressed. "Only homosexuals need to come out of the closet, which seems very unfair." Simon is afraid that once the identity of gay is revealed, it seems that in the eyes of others, he will be No longer himself, he is afraid that everything will no longer be "business as usual", but this "business as usual" is just a careful and unreal self. Fortunately, the words "you are you", the open heart of the mother and Simon, the self-blame that his father failed to detect earlier and left Simon alone, and the tolerance and understanding of his friends paved the way for Simon to be brave enough to be himself. And thick courage.

In the end, Simon made a public post to personally announce his orientation and his love for Blue, and Blue also boldly accepted this love.

The translation of "Love You, Simon" can be said to be a literal translation of the original name of the movie Love, Simon. Compared with translations such as "Simon and His Coming Out Diary" and "Dear First Love", although the translations are not so straightforward, they are just like the original English name. more profound. In the film, when the two parties sent anonymous emails to each other, Simon's signature was Love, Jacques, and in the final public post, Simon's signature on the open letter became Love, Simon. This is the beginning of boldly and confidently admitting his identity, and it is also a formal confession. All in all, Simon has finally learned how to overcome the fear given by this secular society. Of course, this fear also comes from his heart. This is not only Simon, but also the real experience of most people in the gay community.

If "Love You, Simon" embodies how the gay group discloses its identity, what Call Me By Your Name emphasizes is not secular vision and restraint, but acceptance of oneself, and it does not simply use heterosexuality and homosexuality to Divide emotions. Everything is so natural, from acquaintance to falling in love. It's just a summer memory of two boys falling in love. Even though it ended in parting, the sad long shot of Elio at the end is still hard to erase in my mind, as Elio's father said: "Don't kill everything because of the pain, and the pain that comes with it is real The joy I have experienced." My father also expressed, "I have had similar feelings as you, but I have never experienced emotions like yours. There are always things that make me hesitate or hinder me." Stereotypes that allow us to "separate" what is straight and what is gay, what is normal and what is not normal, based on this, we escape too much, even exhausted, emotionally drained.

"Why is heterosexuality the default attribute?" Perhaps, emotion does not have any default value. The default value is the "rules" imagined by generations of people. Of course, those who create and implement these rules also include many people who suppress their own nature. people. The background of the story of "Love You, Simon" takes place in high school, which must be a crucial stage, and it is also a stage where teenagers know themselves. I think such a film will definitely bring some meaningful guiding ideology to most teenagers. At the same time, I also hope that more people can give more understanding and tolerance.

Love you, Simon (2018)
8.3
2018 / USA / Comedy Love Gay / Greg Berlanti / Nick Robinson Jennifer Garner

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Love, Simon quotes

  • Martin: Look, I don't want your help in changing me. I want your help in getting Abby to like me for me.

  • Jackie: Did you date me because you think I look like a guy?

    Simon: No. No, I actually broke up with you because you don't look like a guy.

    Jackie: Oh. Oh, okay. Thanks.

    Simon: Welcome.