Feel free to write a movie review.
I have been troubled by my relationship with my parents.
Recently, I think I want to understand two things.
One is their love for me. My parents love me and have expectations for me, but I think to a certain extent, they regard me as an "excellent" work, and such "excellent" is their investment in exchange, so they What they have in common is that although they cover it up, deep down, they always want to emphasize their dedication to me, and use stricter social standards to demand and examine me than others. I was so dissatisfied with my relationship and work that I constantly emphasized my education and the so-called halo, and hoped in my heart that I would "get back on track"; I was so young that I talked to them about something, and even said at home that I was tired, Their first reaction is always to find out what I have done wrong ("There must be something wrong with you"), to negate my emotions ("You shouldn't tell your family that you are tired"), and I feel suffocated by this way of communication . I think the meaning of family should be a broad trust, understanding and tolerance. So I was thinking, are there really selfless parents, selfless children, and unconditional love?
The other is the so-called "social law". If they don't regard me as a work, but want me to conform to the "social laws" they recognize, I also don't fully agree. Social laws certainly exist, but the difference between humans and animals is that humans love, and humans have their own spiritual world and spiritual needs. People will look at the social laws and think about whether the social laws are correct. Taking marriage and having children as an example, I think the reason for choosing to marry and have children should be to love the people around you enough, be willing to love a child enough, and have the ability to love (including having a correct understanding of love). If this is not the case, but only to avoid loneliness, raise children to prevent old age, and fail to be broad to those around you, it may lead to incomprehension, or even pain and resentment from the pillow and children (this is similar to the Autumn Sonata). are similar). Children are born to love their parents and are willing to trust their parents, but children are the most sensitive and will feel from all the details whether their parents' love is mixed with lies or selfishness. Is this another kind of selfishness?
Finally, can such parents and children be reconciled? My inclination is that we can only reach reconciliation within narrow intersections with each other, and the deeper and most benign interpretation is that behind this divide is the difference in values and beliefs about the laws of society between the two generations. One side wants to talk based on social laws, while the other side is thinking, "Have you ever understood the real me outside of social laws?" If you count the lies and selfishness, then the distance between your hearts is as small as the two ends of the galaxy. .
View more about Autumn Sonata reviews
