A simple story, but it tells the question that almost every family may face - how should we love the people we love in the right way, especially when the demands of loving and being loved conflict, how exactly do we choice? The movie gives the answer in a tender way: only understanding can relieve it, and only support can have it.
This seemingly simple truth, in fact, in any family, will encounter obstacles to varying degrees, and it is easy to fall into the dilemma of making sacrifices "for yourself" or "for the family". This is the case with Ruby in the film. If she chooses to devote herself to her singing dream, it seems that she will abandon her deaf parents and brother who raised her, and the latter also relies on her for a long time to communicate with normal people and make a living.
This pair of contradictions is constantly amplified in the plot: from the initial school attendance, elective music courses, to the final preparation for the interview at the Berklee College of Music, the fishing boat of the father and brother was cancelled, and the family's business was in crisis...
This one reality after another made the young Ruby breathless, and finally broke out into a dispute with her family, and even was on the verge of breaking. However, the bondage of the family is so wonderful and indescribable. When everyone releases their deepest emotions, the confusion and misunderstanding between each other are often resolved.
Ruby had a sincere (sign language) conversation with her mother, brother and father successively, and found the strength and courage to move on from them respectively, and she was able to understand the unspeakable hidden deep in their hearts more than ever before: the original mother He was so afraid of his healthy daughter and hated her because she was born in a deaf-mute family; it turned out that the deaf-mute elder brother was so eager to take on the responsibility of being the eldest son to unload the burden for his sister and move forward for the family; it turned out that the father was so eager to be more Feel and understand your daughter as much as possible, and give her the support you can to her dreams.
Every conversation is thought-provoking and touching. This is the real family. Whether it is prejudice, quarrel, or intimacy, its essence is the purest, most direct, and the most direct to the loved one. Unique love, once you understand what the other party needs, you are willing to sacrifice yourself and take on more.
In the end, when the father faced his daughter who was about to leave him and go to his dream, his "Go!" was so hysterical, so sad, and so warm and moving, it seemed to melt all the complicated emotions. Go in and give your reluctant daughter the greatest spiritual support.
There are naturally many stories about family members, but "Listening Girl" still found a novel and delicate entry, showing the chicken soup-like theme of love and contradiction in a very touching way. All so touching.
Like the song "Both Sides, Now" that Ruby chose to sing in the Berkeley interview: love is double, love is contradictory, love is unified, and love is mutual. Regardless of whether we understand it temporarily or not, as long as we sincerely love ourselves and what we love, we can eventually reduce complexity to parts, and be accompanied by love.
Both Sides, Now
Joni Mitchell
Rows and flows of angel hair
And ice cream castles in the air
And feather canyons everywhere
I've looked at clouds * that way
But now they only block the sun
They rain and snow on everyone
So many things I would have done
But clouds got in my way
I've looked at clouds from both sides now
From up and down, and still somehow
It's cloud illusions I recall
I really don't know clouds at all
Moons and Junes and Ferris wheels
The dizzy dancing way you feel
As ev'ry fairy tale comes real
I've looked at love that way
But now it's just another show
You leave 'em laughing when you go
And if you care, don't let them know
Don't give yourself away
I've looked at love from both sides now
From give and take, and still somehow
It's love's illusions I recall
I really don't know love at all
Tears and fears and feeling proud
To say "I love you" right out loud
Dreams and schemes and circus crowds
I've looked at life that way
But now old friends are acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day
I've looked at life from both sides now
From win and lose and still somehow
It's life's illusions I recall
I really don't know life at all
I've looked at life from both sides now
From up and down, and still somehow
It's life's illusions I recall
I really don't know life at all
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