Issues related to life have long been concerned and discussed.
At some point we always start to think about the meaning of our life, review our past life experiences, and update our expectations for the future.
This expectation originates from ourselves, as well as our family and friends. Expectations always exist in the form of goals, and we also habitually imagine what will happen when we reach our goals in advance, will our life reach a new level, and will we "turn over the salted fish"... But it seems that they seldom seriously think about what will happen if they fail, and how to take the path of life after failure.
It seems that we have never been taught how to face failure and how to navigate life's ups and downs well.
Not to mention teaching, it seems that even discussing failure is a shameful thing. In our existing values, the word failure seems to be firmly tied to shame, and we equate the two, and we are ashamed of failure.
Therefore, in the face of failure, we are more inclined to self-enlightenment and self-relief, and even trust in time more than in self-ability. We will firmly believe that time is the medicine that heals everything, and time will dilute everything... This This trust is also rekindled when faced with failure time and time again.
The son's heart knot in the movie, I have also had it for a long time, and it can even be said that it has not really been solved until now. I have also experienced failure in the big test. After learning the result of the failure, I will habitually consider many questions that have nothing to do with the test itself, such as whether my parents will be disappointed, and whether my classmates or relatives will suffer from it. Looking down on me, will the gap between me and "other people's children" grow bigger and bigger... In the end, these concerns will weigh in my heart like a rock, and the denial and criticism of myself will be like a mountain of five fingers, and I will not be able to turn over. , began to wonder from time to time whether he was destined to be a "loser" all his life.
Often at this time, I also forget that this failed exam is not the whole point of life.
Of course, the hard work in the preparation process is not enough to crush any candidate. It is often the accumulated pressure that becomes the last straw. In many cases, the source of stress may be our closest parents.
This kind of pressure does not necessarily come from scolding or disappointment. At some point, a parent's expectation of their children will become an invisible pressure. It's like the father in the movie prepares the celebration wine for his son after passing the exam, but forgot to tell the child that if he fails, he can actually open the bottle of wine. And as children, we will always strive to meet the expectations of our parents. This does not need to be avoided or criticized, but more attention should be paid to it. Children or parents are just an identity, we should be ourselves, and our thoughts and actions should be more worthy of ourselves than others.
Life is always owned by oneself, and all experiences and experiences belong to oneself. Success or failure is just a life experience, and in life itself, I think there is no such thing as success or failure.
If you simply use success or failure to distinguish life, then the measurement standard is too narrow and single.
May we all have a splendid and rich life of our own.
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