Imagine Me and You
The Chinese title "Four Corners" is really poorly translated, and the poster is ambiguous and eye-catching. In my eyes, this movie is "True Love Supreme" (and don't watch the Christmas celebration film "True Love Supreme"). Dedicated to the most idealized love "love at first sight, destined".
The film reveals "love at first sight" from multiple angles.
Love at first sight and long-term love
Rachel and Luce had already elaborated on love at first sight and love for a long time in their first dinner conversation. Rachel said of true love: "You don't know right away, it just feels warm and comfortable. Before you know it, you persevere; maybe by chance, you suddenly realize: Yes, it's her, this is love." It's a process of love over time. With an ordinary person, from acquaintance to love. The problem is that it doesn't matter who this person is, because in the process of getting to know each other, warmth and comfort will definitely accompany. Of course, there is a premise that both parties are mature people who will tolerate each other and make appropriate changes for each other. Then add a little chance. This coincidence is also very subtle. It may be that both parties are expressing their love, or they simply have the idea of marriage.
In Luce's eyes, true love is: "You realize right away, you know, as soon as your eyes meet. Everything since then will prove that the first feeling is right. You feel that originally you were incomplete, and At this time, you become perfect." There are also many love at first sight stories in the movie, the classic "Long Dream of Covered Bridge", that experience has become the best memory in my life. My favorite love is in the trilogy, the chat between two people, and then the marriage. Cute In the trilogy, they will still meet the chicken feathers of life at the end. Long-term love means happiness keeps going up, and falling in love at first sight means going down. And the most commendable thing is that they are love at first sight in both directions.
one-sided love at first sight
I think in real life, this kind of love exists not a few, maybe more than love over time. Or in a long-term relationship, one party is unilateral love at first sight. After all, most likes are decided at first sight. This one-sided love at first sight depends on whether you love the other person deeply enough. Otherwise, conflicts can easily arise. And the one who likes first is often very tired, and the insecurity in his heart is difficult to overcome. Or one day suddenly want to ask for it, then this relationship will come to an end.
I wonder if someone is born a giver. They are born with joy in giving. So for them, insecurities don't exist, as long as you let me love you all the time, you accept my love, and you're happy.
The film also reflects the problems that this one-sided love at first sight can encounter. Let's start with Heck and Rachel's marriage, Rachel's unwillingness, and Heck's reluctance to let go. And Rachel's father said: "But I never doubted that if she met someone she really liked, who taught her what true love is, she would leave me like an arrow from the string, and I could What do you say? "Father is indeed more generous and tolerant than Heck. After all, he is much older and has seen through many things, so he can no longer be persistent.
Differentiation and Analysis of the View of Love
From my experience, when people talk about love, they always like to say that you have to become mature to get happy love. In other words, true love is based on deep understanding. And the famous "The Art of Love" is also teaching you how to love. The book even says that the object of love is not important, but how to love. The "true love is giving" that I've been thinking about lately is probably the standard for mature love. Clearly, these norms all lead us towards lasting love and one-sided love at first sight. To be honest, this is also the easiest way to be happy in my eyes.
But love is different from all other emotions. undeniable. The love of "The Art of Love" is universal love, which includes family and friendship love. It even says the principles it lists: Care, Responsibility, Respect, Understanding. Psychology books are very rational, and they concretize all behaviors caused by emotional "love" and use them to explain love. Then some people use this specific definition to judge love and find love. But when you really fall in love with someone, will you question whether your love is not love?
Includes the Triangle Theory of Love, Passion, Intimacy, Commitment. I've always felt that a promise is a shit. Emotions are uncontrollable. Can you make yourself fall in love with someone? Can you make yourself not love someone? And the promise, the promise is for a lifetime. Responsibility is emphasized because of monogamy, because divorced people are disgraced in the eyes of the world (at least they used to be). And these remarks will make you feel that all love at first sight is just passion and that it should be compromised for long-term love. Love for a long time means stability. Everything is understandable.
Nor do I deny the value of The Art of Love. Its guidelines are really useful when you have a conflict with someone you love. Simply put, these guidelines tell you how to get along better with the people you love, not help you find love.
However, this responsibility is still debatable.
And many people despise, despise, and belittle love at first sight, thinking that it is just a passion, or a one-night stand. A very likely situation. The latter feelings did not justify the initial feelings. It's normal, just accept it. But you have to at least make sure that your love at first sight is not some kind of emotional coat. When you don't long for love, you fall in love with someone. I think this is a good start.
Personally, I tend to fall in love at first sight, and every relationship is driven by pure emotion. But I found that some of my friends have never been moved, or in their eyes love is first contact and then gradually.
It is also true that your true love is defined by yourself. Falling in love at first sight and falling in love over time are different ways to produce true love.
Hey, but I'm still partial to love at first sight. After all, human beings are such wonderful creatures, there may still be a previous life, and there is a saying of the soul, love at first sight may really be a continuation of the frontier. "When our four eyes meet, I know that it is not a meeting, but a reunion." It can also be explained in terms of past and present lives. So for me as an idealist, it is also very important to pursue the love in that moment, whether the other party loves me or not. That's all. The rest of the time, let yourself be someone who doesn't yearn for love. Love here refers more to the company that love brings.
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