I don't talk about right or wrong
1
dialogue
- I'm getting a divorce. -girl-do you love me? - male - yes. -Female
- Well then, the problem is solved. Bill, please. -male
(arrogant)
- Can't just leave it like that. - female - what? -Male - Not your problem, not mine, the problem is that the two of us are together. -Women- isn't it like in the Colling song? - man and woman - laughed
(contempt)
-Tell me, what do you want? -male
-Leave you and never see again. You can do anything at any time. No one cried at you, shouted at you. -Female
- Do you remember, you were the first to pursue me? -male
(Stolen exchange concept)
- I'm chasing you? -Female
-You saw me and my gang go out drinking. You know who I am from start to finish, you are a lawyer. I'm not the kind of person you'd find in a library. -male
-Yes. -Female
(transfer of responsibility)
- You also left others for the same reason. -male
- Exactly, totally, as you said. -Female
-It's my charm that attracts you. -Male - for the same reason indeed. -Female
-Okay, then that means you're going to be attracted to another guy next time, and you're going to turn away. You know the relationship between two people needs to be built and maintained. -male
(Prove it's your problem)
- Nothing has been established between us. -female- is it? - man - no, we're just destroying each other. Not referring to you. -Female
- not referring to me? - man - no one can destroy you. Under any condition. -Female
- When we fall in love with someone, we suffer and hurt, it's not easy. -male
- You are not hurt. -Female
- how do you know no? Shut up, stop the fucking bullshit. What do you want me to do, cry all the time? How do you know how I feel? -male
(I am the victim)
- Have you worked hard for the two of us? -Female
-some. -male
- No, not for a second. -Female
- What do you mean by effort? Pushing each other and yelling? That's not how I try. I'm trying to find a way to keep you from leaving me. This is how I try. Why do you have to make me look like the man you expect? It was you who pursued me first. Isn't it just because I'm doing myself? Why can't you accept the person in front of you now? -male
(I tried my best)
In fact, I saw the commentary of this movie a long time ago, and I only thought that this is a story of high-level PUA . In the eyes of the world, men are scumbags, and women are forced to be resentful women. But in reality, is it really as simple as black and white?
2
Summary
The man said that he used to pursue models. You are very ordinary, but I love you very much. This is the beginning of a condescending love, and they were not equal from the beginning.
Bringing women to a friend's wedding, going to various places to play, is the man's call;
To get married, to have children, it is the man who decides;
To take care of a depressed and suicidal ex-girlfriend, it is the man who decides;
To move out, the reason is that they are afraid of disturbing their mother and son, and it is the man who decides;
Men owe debts, all furniture is confiscated, and women know nothing;
When a man buys back all the furniture to please the woman, and leaves the house in a blink of an eye, it is the man who decides;
Later, the man blamed everything on drug use and made a mess, he will always have a reason, and will always be the king...
Women shouldn't be careful, don't trust men, shouldn't be hysterical, shouldn't be too demanding, shouldn't control too much, shouldn't cry...
A female lawyer with a thriving career has become a slave of love step by step. Later, the man's request was even more aggressive, and she still gave in step by step, and told her brother that all marriages that go to the end must go through these hardships.
A suave, gentle and rich man needs a place to put his erratic heart. An ordinary girl with a plain appearance and a safe atmosphere, just happened to be a haven for him to rest in his roller coaster-like life.
A mind that is as plain as water and as hot as the sun needs a stimulating adventure, and the love of the prince and princess illuminates the plain life. They really love each other, but after everything is obtained, dust returns to dust, dust to dust, and the reason for falling in love becomes a dagger of hurt.
3
Epitaxy
I don't want to discuss who is right and who is wrong in marriage, when he doesn't deserve to be your king, it's better to be your own queen. Cinema is art, an exaggerated paradox. In reality, black and white are not obvious in the eyes of the world.
I also don't want to discuss whether the male protagonist's desire to dominate like a king is right or not, and I don't discuss any questions about right and wrong. Going back to reality, you think you're right, I think I'm right, is the reality show that goes on every day.
I want to talk about a word that I don't see in all the reviews of this movie - the mode of getting along . It's a lot like a baby's attachment pattern to a parent. There is a book called "Parenting from the Inside Out" , I understand why it is 3 years old to see old age. The birth of a child is a blank piece of paper. The imprint of the parents' original family on the parents is reflected in the care of the infant. The child has developed a different habit of reacting to the parents. This is the attachment model to the parents. There are safe, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized.
Once this pattern is formed, it often affects the way a person gets along and interacts with others throughout his life. Emotional impermanence, or intimate connection; self-centeredness, or equal respect, each mode has different personal standards.
Just like the heroine wants a dull life and thinks that men should at least go home. A man thinks that there is no meaning in life with a line, I moved away so as not to disturb you.
The so-called "details" that defeated love, in my opinion, are not a trivial matter at all, but a conflict between the modes of getting along with each other behind the trivial matter. Care too much, ignore too much, care too much, be too presumptuous... Behind every detail, it represents a kind of underlying logic that it thinks is completely correct.
4
Reality
The conflict of the mode of getting along is the conflict of two values with different underlying logics. It is not an apology, or an forgiveness, to continue a loving relationship. What is the underlying logic?
I can stand 39 clothes but not 39 souls. Some things are priceless.
If bossiness becomes a habit, and face is the manipulator of everything, then today's embarrassment may come from the same kind of paranoia as tomorrow's downfall after a brilliant future.
Taking not breaking the law as the bottom line is to enjoy other people's efforts with peace of mind, and to beautify the consequences of verbal violence as it should be. That hypocritical apology is also trampling on the tolerance and dignity of others.
The promise that was once sweetly spoken has become the proof that I am also paying today. If not, the promise will become relief, and the responsibility will become charity.
Do not do good for smallness, and do not do evil for smallness.
The gossip behind his back can't offset the other party's sins, and can only make his soul fall into a deeper abyss.
The underlying logic is the fulcrum of value behind the actions of appearances. If a person only sees your actions and doesn’t understand your value fulcrum, it means that he doesn’t understand you. Although love is real, the heart is also sincere. If you can't understand it, you can't understand it.
Knowing the truth and doing it right are not neighbors.
There is no conflict between loving you in your heart and practical neglect. Emotional discord is not a matter of jumping around, but the values are far from each other, and the "truth" in the heart is not the same side of the coin.
External optimism cannot be exchanged for inward venting, and outward integrity cannot be left behind in the dark.
Strength is not supported by the sacrifice of others, and sunlight and energy also need to illuminate the darkness.
Value judgments are different , it is easy to fall in love, but difficult to get along.
Encounters are not biological impulses, but rational gambling.
Fish and fish, birds and birds are always bland, fish and birds, birds and fish are always fighting and killing, fish and water, birds and insects are always fettered by each other. Most couples are the last one.
Can this conflict be resolved? Two people want different things, how to resolve it? One to stimulate, one to be stable. One wants face, the other wants truth. Your end is his beginning. The cat's mouse is never the owner's morning.
Behind a person's meticulous demonstration, there is always some kind of paranoia; behind a person who doesn't care, he always cares very much.
No one does not pay, no one does not bear, there is no right or wrong. Just bondage, let the people who keep saying that they love you hurt you the most.
Then love becomes an explanation of old things one by one. The person who explains it needs to forgive, and the person who is explained wants the love before it was torn apart!
Generously admitting mistakes is the difference between right and wrong; re-examining the bits and pieces is a reflection on the way of getting along.
One side is high above, it is not called pampering; the other side is alive, it is not called tolerance.
The bottom line is face, or responsibility, this end and the other end of the world.
A person who is in love is so dull as a tool that can be used at any time, which is also a kind of injury. Time has not only taken away love, but also created two more and more clear outlines. The longer the broken mirror, the harder it is to piece together.
There is no intersection. Is there a way out? I thought: If there is a choice, why live without a choice? If you can call the shots, why let others call the shots? However, if the picture is other, it is not easy to say. After all, I'm a personal failure of a marriage, and I can't guarantee that I'm right.
I once thought that I could travel around the world in mediocrity, but maybe I was just deceiving myself. I once thought that I could bear witness to the truth, but maybe it was just wishful thinking.
Life is too short, the people around you are still crying, the smiling faces you can touch every day are the most real happiness in the world. It is too difficult to change the shape of the carvings of the years, maybe it is better not to love, at least it will not hurt.
Yes, I love your witty humor and your arrogance, but what I want is an equal life. Love is humbling and heartbreaking.
It's not that I haven't looked forward to the future. Of course the future is coming slowly. I never gave up to become a better person. I don't want to become a runaway, resentful, broken, twisted bitch for anyone. In the end, there is only one left. Strength after tears.
You are the authoritative, ruling, unquestionable, irreversible king, and I have become a bird that escaped from captivity, the name of which is: I am the master of your emotions. You can't cry, you can laugh, you can't speak loudly, you can be on call, you can't make mistakes, you can forgive infinitely...
I would rather believe that it is lost than to be angry. Because if you lose it and look for it, even if you do your best, if you are angry, you have to coax it. What a hassle~ This is the end of no temper.
View more about My King reviews
