After watching this movie, does anyone feel sad for Schmidt? After sighing, did he shook his head: Alas, life is like this. When he gets old, maybe he is not as good as him.
Is it really? If you don't explore the root cause, I'm afraid you will really have to copy Schmidt's bleak evening scene.
Schmidt retired, and life was empty all of a sudden. The company’s successor’s humility at the farewell banquet was just a courtesy. The trivial details of his wife at home made him unhappy but had nowhere to tell. The only distressed daughter who was far away from home has not seen each other for a long time, and the future son-in-law didn’t even talk to him on the phone. . I didn’t have much interest in TV, but I saw a public service advertisement for the adoption of African children, sending it $22 a month and writing a letter by the way. In fact, writing letters became the only way for Schmidt to confide in his distress. In addition to sending money on time, Schmidt would write down his feelings about life at any time, without having to polite and cover up for the sake of superficial harmony. What a boring retirement life!
However, paying more attention to the details will reveal that all of this has nothing to do with Schmidt himself. Except for the first point, the arrogance of the company's successor has nothing to do with you. This can only be an acceptance of reality, and don't bother about it when you retire.
In the letter, Schmidt wrote that he had to support his family. As a senior executive of an insurance company retires, he must have taken on the responsibility of supporting his family well. But in the letter, Schmidt wrote more of a complaint about his wife. How pitiful, two people have lived together for 42 years, but they can't share each other's lives happily.
It was not until the sudden death of his wife and after the people took the tea to cool that Schmidt realized that his wife took care of all aspects of his life. When I sorted out the relics full of longing, I found that my wife had an affair with his friends two or 30 years ago. The resentment swelled, Schmidt threw away all the relics and ran to fight an old friend. What could be more bleak than this?
What is wrong with Schmidt? He has assumed the responsibility of supporting the family. However, how much does he know about his wife? Even after getting used to his wife's care, only complaints about his wife are left in my heart. Paid material, forgot to harvest care; did not pay the care of the soul, but wanted to reap the care of the soul. Why does Schmidt think that he should gain everything with a single contribution? I have never received the care of my soul. In these 42 years, hasn't his wife been enduring Schmidt in the same way?
Ah, Schmidt’s only distressed daughter, accused her father of choosing too cheap a coffin for her mother, but was anxious to return to her place for the wedding after the funeral. If Schmidt cared about the growth of his daughter and had exchanges between father and daughter, how could he fail to understand his daughter's thoughts and feelings, and how could his daughter refuse him to contribute to her wedding? After being rejected by his daughter, Schmidt said: "If I send you a check, you will not reject it." Doesn't this mean that Schmidt's giving is too thin? Because of this, Schmidt was not persuasive in her daughter's heart. Seeing that the future son-in-law has such and other problems, he cannot persuade his daughter to reconsider.
Not everyone has a bleak evening scene. At the campsite of the RV, the shoemaker and his wife were very affectionate and hospitable. They showed Schmidt who met for the first time with friends like this in the album. But Schmidt never even took a picture of his only distressed daughter with him.
Schmidt is good at covering up. The sadness, anger, and fear in my heart can't escape the sincere eyes. Why cover up? Concealing pushes away the people who don't care about themselves, and pushes away the people who want to care but can't care about themselves, and at the same time isolates oneself. Who cares about and pays for whom?
The strong kiss under the impulse made me make a mistake, and only after I made a mistake did I forgive his wife for betrayal. Such resentment and forgiveness have nothing to do with others, but only with oneself.
In fact, the mother-in-law of the future son-in-law will live quite comfortably. Nagging when you are dissatisfied, express your desires directly. Although the actions are vulgar and the desires are licentious, they don't cover up, and they don't ask for it.
It seems that Schmidt's problem lies in itself. If you haven't paid the family affection, you will not be able to reap the family affection. But the dedication of family affection also requires strategy.
The first is not to waste family affection. Blood relationship cannot be chosen, but closeness can make decisions on its own. Faced with the blood relatives of Schmidt's successor, you can try to communicate. If you can't communicate, stay away. Facing the future son-in-law or future mother-in-law's blood relatives, it's better to stay away.
Then learn to express. One is to express your care in a way that the other party can understand, and the other is to express your feelings in a way that the other party can understand. Both are equally important.
Furthermore, we must grasp the scale. Endless giving and endless demand, endless initiative or endless tolerance are not desirable. Also, don't make extravagant demands like Schmidt, don't forget that it can only be "you get melons and beans get beans".
If you look around, you can only see the unreasonable family affection. If you work hard, you can't escape the other party's feelings above you. You can't escape the other party's assumption that they have paid the family affection that should be paid. When you feel that you are in pain but think everything is good,-yes, there are endless doubts and temptations-then give up and learn to enjoy loneliness. If you can make yourself happy, you may also gain friendship. If there is destiny, friendship may be sublimated into family affection.
If you think you cannot change and you are destined to follow a Schmidt-like lifestyle, then don't ask for family affection. Have more fun and you can also enjoy life.
At the end of the film, Schmidt received a reply. The nun introduced the condition of the child. The child is an orphan. He has recently fallen ill and is getting better. What the child likes, the child can't write yet, so I drew a picture for the adoptive father. The drawing is very simple. Two people, one large and one small, drawn with circles, dots, and lines, are holding hands and laughing in the sun. The child hopes that the adoptive father will be happy. Schmidt cried. Schmidt finally cried. What Schmidt wanted after retirement was such a simple happiness, but it was out of reach. Why? Because Schmidt has been walking on a wrong path, he keeps himself farther and farther away from this simple happiness, so far away.
To make a digression: After watching the movie, I found out that the actor is the actor of "Leaping the Insane Asylum". It is worthy of being a play bone, and it is integrated with characters of completely different styles. Film and television actors, I only admire the big names who can do this.
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