Maybe regret is the norm in love

Derrick 2022-03-23 09:02:13

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A song "Mohe Dance Hall" released in 2020 suddenly became popular last month, and the author Liu Shuang was also surprised. This song has swept across major short videos and music platforms in just a few days, and there are endless interpretations and secondary creations about the song itself and the story behind it. Such widespread dissemination has turned this song into a phenomenal social event. Everyone's focus is no longer on the song itself, but on the sad and lonely love story behind the song.

Mohe Ballroom -Musician-Liu Shuang 2020-Album "1st Planet" Mohe, the northernmost border county in China, is the only place in the country that has the opportunity to see the aurora. In 1987, there was a huge fire in Mohe, and many people lost their lives in the fire.

Among them was a young man named Zhang Dequan (pseudonym), whose wife also left him forever in the fire. More than 30 years later, the young creator Liu Shuang met a man who was no longer young and saw him dancing alone in a disco ballroom in pairs. Liu Shuang chatted with him for a few minutes, and learned that his wife liked to dance during her lifetime, and the two often danced in hiding in the granary. Now that his wife is long gone, and the old man has never married, he just dances alone and misses his deceased love in this way...

Aside from the help of big data recommendation algorithms, most young people who "surf the Internet" are moved by this poetic story and spread it spontaneously. Liu Shuang used romantic brushstrokes to describe such a private and unforgettable life experience, making it a sad and transparent crystal ball when she walked on stage. This crystal ball is about love, which is far away from the life of ordinary people today, crystal clear and inaccessible. But the crystal ball itself was conceived from ordinary people. Maybe there is no such poetic description. This old man named Zhang Dequan will dance all the time, and his love and his love will disappear in the ice and snow little by little with time, there is nothing trace. In the only remaining video, Liu Shuang imitated the old man's slightly slow pace, watching him raise his hands and legs attentively, gently leap forward and then fall back, filling up with loneliness and loneliness all at once. It touched the hearts of everyone who heard this story, including me who heard it for the first time.

For some reason, it reminds me of a British film Remains of The Day in the 1990s. The domestic translation is "Farewell to the Loved Day", which is adapted from the masterpiece of Nobel Prize winner Kazuo Ishiguro. ".

Farewell to the Lovely Heaven - Director - James Ivory 1993 - The British film tells the story not that people in love are separated forever because of disasters, but it also contains the regrets left by time and circumstances for love. The protagonist Stevens (played by Anthony Hopkins) is a duke's butler, and it is his job to take care of the master's manor, and he regards it as his whole life. He has always been reluctant to recruit young and beautiful maids, worried that there will be another scandal involving the elopement of male and female servants in the manor, and at the same time, he does not want to be entangled by desires and emotions.

Anthony Hopkins until a beautiful and intellectual woman Kent (Emma Thompson played), with excellent work experience into the manor, as housekeeper.

During Emma Thompson's work relationship, the two secretly fell in love. Unlike Kent's initiative to show affection, Stevens always held the air of a big housekeeper and maintained a professional distance. However, the gentleman master, whom he regarded as his creed, was confused by the so-called gentleman's politics and fell into the quagmire of the Nazi ultra-right forces during World War II. Just as he closed off his feelings for Kent, he closed off his judgment on the many questionable meetings in the manor; he also closed off his conscience about the deportation of the Jewish maid; he even closed off his grief for his dying father, and insisted on serving what happened in the manor well. Big meeting... but Kent seemed to understand him, and could see a certain kindness and warmth behind his hard, indifferent shell. So after so much going on, Kent is still fantasizing.

But an intimate encounter begins to shatter such illusions. Kent, as usual, picked flowers and sent them to Stevens' study, seeing that he was reading a book, but reluctant to tell himself the title. Kent insisted on questioning, ridiculed that he was reading pornography, and even started to grab it, but it turned out to be just a romantic love novel. Kent, who discovered this, looked a little overjoyed, feeling as if he had stepped into his frozen heart an inch, and spied a trace of emotion. However, Stevens deliberately replied that he read such a book, just to improve his literary self-cultivation, and begged Kent not to encroach on his only private space. The movie gives this scene heavy brushstrokes, with Kent standing in the light and Stevens being pushed into a dark corner of the room. They are very close, almost sticking together, and their hands are pulled together because of the fight for the book, and the atmosphere is created to be full of eroticism. Stevens stared intently at Kent in front of him, at her face and hair, but did nothing but habitually refuse.

Kent returns to the room in despair, when the maid who happens to be in love comes to her, desperate to quit her job to be with a valet. Kent persuaded the girl to cherish the job at hand, because life without money would be difficult. The girl answered firmly, who cares, they have each other, isn't this what everyone wants in their life? Kent had no more reason to advise, but to bless.

With Stevens, all Kent gets is alienation, her self-esteem takes a hit, and she threatens to leave another man with her. No doubt she still got his professional, cold, robotic response. Time flies, more than twenty years have passed. The original owner was charged with treason and died in gloom, and the manor was bought by the U.S. Congressman that year to avoid demolition. When the manor changed hands, Stevens traveled south to meet Kent in the name of asking Kent to come back as a housekeeper. At this time, Kent and her husband were in a relationship crisis, but their daughter was pregnant again, and she wanted to stay and take care of the child. After all, the brief meeting failed to achieve the purpose of either party, whether it was external or internal. They strolled by the bridge, and Kent recounted his regret for marrying in a hurry because of his anger, and his helplessness that time was gone forever. As night fell, the two sat on a bench and watched as people cheered for the neon lights that suddenly turned on. Stevens looked dull, perhaps wondering what was left of his life and what he had gained.

Under a series of estranged gestures and unanswered expressions of love from Stevens, Kent, whose self-esteem was battered, threatened him with leaving with another man, no doubt still receiving professional butler-like professionalism. A cold, robotic response. Time flies, more than twenty years have passed. The original owner of the manor died after the war on the charge of treason, and was bought by the US congressman that year to avoid demolition. When the manor changed owners, Stevens received a letter from Kent. It happened that the manor needed a new housekeeper. In the name of asking Kent to come back as a housekeeper, he got permission from the new owner to go to the south to meet Kent. At this time, Kent and her current husband are in a relationship crisis, but their daughter is pregnant again. She wants to stay and take care of the child in the future. After all, the short meeting can only fail to achieve the purpose of either party, whether it is superficial or inner. of. They strolled by the bridge, and Kent recounted his regret for marrying in a hurry because of his anger, and his helplessness that time has gone forever. They sat together on a bench and watched as people cheered the neon lights that suddenly turned on as night fell. Stevens looked dull, perhaps wondering what was left of his life and what he had gained. It rained heavily when we parted, and the bus that was always late in the past came back on time today. Stevens held his umbrella and escorted Kent into the car. The two held hands tightly in the parking space, their eyes were full of sadness and reluctance, but the words on their lips could only be "Thank you for coming to see me so well"; "You are so nice", "Be sure to take care", etc. 's greetings.

The people in love have incomparable enthusiasm to reveal themselves, revealing that the car is driving away, the two clasped hands are forced to separate, Kent is crying heartbroken in the car, and Stevens's tears are also spinning in the eye frame. They love each other, but they have never expressed it to each other. Now that they are separated like this, they may never have the opportunity and reason to meet again. What a pity and loneliness this is! People who are in love have incomparable enthusiasm to express themselves and express their love, but at the same time they also become very sensitive and proud, constantly pulling in their self-esteem and giving themselves. Love can be linked with many beautiful words. Love can also become very bleak, very sad, and even very dark. Love is a contradiction, a real chemical reaction in the body, and an invisible psychological change; it is like a crystal, but it cannot be separated from life itself and exists transparently. Today, many people question love, and their views on love are always influenced by some public figures or events. Sometimes they believe in love because of touching stories such as Zhang Dequan, and sometimes they don't believe in love because of star couples. The online world seems to be the second space for modern people's lives. In reality, most people will not have such an experience as Zhang Dequan in their lifetime, nor will they encounter the turbulence of the times in the movie. Everyone lives a relatively regular and solid life, including love. Moreover, the current love seems to have been pondered by emotional accounts and big Vs into a set of templates, a kind of program - what to give when pursuing, what to do when dating, what to do when you are sick, what to do when chatting online How to word it etc. Some have even become potential golden rules, standards and assessment points, references for falling in love and guidelines for leaving.

Love is even sold with courses, and many people will be willing to spend time learning how to get "love", an ideal love. And love stories like this in the last century have a layer of natural filters, which are given by time and by the times. Because the past always seems to be memorable, and the love of the past always seems to be purer than the present. People who are addicted to ideal standard love will naturally be moved by such filtered, unusual and standard love. And because their love story is poignant, regrettable, and unsatisfactory, it is even more lingering and regrettable.

Perhaps, we have to accept that there is no so-called perfect love in this world. Perhaps, regret is the norm in love. But as long as you have really loved each other and cared about each other, even if things don't go your way, you have already become a part of each other and stay in each other's lives. Be brave to express love and pursue love like the first and last time.

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The Remains of the Day quotes

  • Miss Kenton: [about a new housemaid] You don't like having pretty girls on the staff, I've noticed.

    [teasing]

    Miss Kenton: Might it be that our Mr Stevens fears distraction? Can it be that our Mr Stevens is flesh and blood after all and doesn't trust himself?

    Stevens: [with the faintest trace of a smile] You know what I'm doing, Miss Kenton? I'm placing my thoughts elsewhere as you chatter away.

    Miss Kenton: ...then why is that guilty smile still on your face?

    Stevens: Oh it's not a guilty smile. I'm simply amused by the sheer nonsense you sometimes talk.

    Miss Kenton: It *is* a guilty smile. You can hardly bear to look at her. That's why you didn't want to take her on, she's too pretty.

    Stevens: Well, you must be right Miss Kenton, you always are.

  • Miss Kenton: I don't know what my future is. Ever since Katherine, my daughter, got married last year, my life has been empty. The years stretch before me and if only I knew how to fill them. But, I would like to be useful again.