I rely on others to generate a sense of self-worth

Afton 2022-03-22 09:02:13

In 2014, "Two Days, One Night" focused the camera on Sandra, a mother of two young children, a female worker facing dismissal due to the economic decline of the factory. She has been suspended from work due to depression to recuperate at home for a period of time. If she is fired, her husband's wages alone cannot afford the rent of the existing house, and the family will have to move back to low-rent housing. So Sandra needs to seize the opportunity to vote again next Monday morning and use the weekend to lobby workers. If she can get 9 votes out of 16, she can keep the job. Two days and one night of lobbying was extremely difficult for her, especially since she had just experienced depression. Recently, I happened to be reading Han Bingzhe's "Burnout Society" and "The Disappearance of the Other", which mentioned that the various mental diseases that began to dominate in the early 21st century, such as depression, are not infectious diseases, but an obstructive disease. Caused by the "negative" of the other in immunology, but by an excess of "positive". This affirmative violence exists in a homogenous space devoid of negativity, without the polar opposites of enemy and self, internal and external, self and other. Depressed functional subjects seem to be killed or strangled by themselves. Depressed functional subjects cannot feel their own existence and see themselves as a heavy burden. He is tired of himself, and indulged in himself, completely powerless to come out of himself, all of which paradoxically lead to his own nothingness and emptiness. Self-isolation, self-imprisonment, loss of all connection with others. I touch myself, but feel myself only through the touch of others. The other is the fundamental way to shape the stable self. Sandra is such a depressed patient, who has no sense of self-worth, is bored with herself, and is addicted to herself. Self-isolation, self-imprisonment. The movie starts on Friday, when she was sleeping alone on the sofa, she received a call from Juliet, she was told that she was going to be fired from the factory, she hung up directly, held back her tears, went upstairs to find the depressant to take, then locked her room and went to bed. She hid; under the urging of her husbands Manu and Juliet, she covered her face and cried, saying that she was useless and hopeless, and took some depression medicine, and reluctantly went to see the factory manager, Du Meng. After intercepting Du Meng's car, she hid aside and did not have the courage to come forward and express her opinion in person. After returning home, she hid in the room by herself again. Her husband encouraged her to use Saturday, Sunday, and two days to persuade her co-workers. She fell to the ground without her legs. "I" myself cannot produce a sense of self-worth. For this I rely on the Other as an independent reward agency who likes me, praises me, acknowledges me and values ​​me. Human narcissistic isolation, the instrumentalization of the other, and absolute competition destroy the entire reward system. The expression of affirmation and acknowledgment disappeared. I can only Relying on imagining that I am important to others and that I am loved by others for a stable sense of self-worth. This kind of imagination may be loose and vague, but it is indispensable to the sense of value. The disappearance of the other triggers a completely different process of destruction, that of self-destruction. A system of rejecting the negativity of others will lead to self-mutilation and self-destruction. After encountering a series of denials and rejections, Sandra did not want to spend any more time and energy dealing with conflicts. She swallowed a few pills at home and attempted suicide. The allure of self-harm is the rapid release of the destructive tension that builds up, in a manner similar to that of antidepressants. Self-mutilation is not only a ritual of self-punishment, but also a call to love. After Anne came to tell her the good news of her support, Sandra immediately went to the hospital for a gastric lavage. After escaping death, she felt the value and beauty of life, and she cheered up and was discharged from the hospital to continue lobbying. Throughout the lobbying process, Sandra slowly found a sense of self-worth, which, on the one hand, came directly from the support of her co-workers. First, Juliet took the lead to support her. Co-workers Robert and Kadar gave her direct support over the phone on Friday afternoon, giving her the courage to start a door-to-door lobbying effort. Timur was grateful for her visit, for helping him at work, and for persuading Miguel to vote for her. She was moved and inspired. Yvon supports her despite her son's objections. And Anne, who was willing to divorce her husband in order to support her. Finally, there is Alfonso, who is willing to stand with her, knowing that there may be revenge by Mark in the future. These co-workers who support her are the other as an independent reward organization. He likes me, praises me, recognizes me, and values ​​me. Sandra gained a sense of self-worth from their recognition. On the other hand comes conflict - the negativity of the other. Conflict is not destructive. They have a constructive side. Only from conflict can stable relationships and identities arise. A person grows and matures in the process of dealing with conflict. It is negativity that gives life. It feeds the life of the mind. Only by finding itself in complete division can the mind attain its truth. Only the negativity of rifts and suffering can keep the mind alive. It "has this kind of power only when it confronts the Negative, and dwells beside it." At first, Sandra was afraid of facing conflict, so she habitually took depressants, which entrusted the accumulation of toxins in the body to chemical methods. Depressants were used to suppress conflict situations. When she heard the news that she was going to be fired, she was evasive and didn't want to go out. She was too scared to speak when she saw Du Meng. on saturday In the afternoon, Milaille and Will rejected her, and her good friend Nadine told her to shut the door. She started to back off, hiding in the corner of the restaurant and crying, saying she would go home immediately. In the afternoon, Manu drove her there, and in the car she had nightmares and took medicine again. But in the repeated negativity, her inner fighting spirit was gradually aroused, and she gradually got rid of the dependence on depression. From Hicham's mouth, the foreman told Mark that people who were sick would not be able to work as well as before. Back in the car, he drank water, but did not take any medicine, and also opened up to Manu and confessed his concerns about the relationship between husband and wife. Julien said to her face that she was superfluous, and she could respond calmly. After washing his stomach from the hospital, he looked refreshed, completely different from the sluggish state on Friday. He also confronted Jean Mark directly on Monday morning, calm and determined. Finally, when Du Meng proposed to offer her an employment contract in September, she refused because she was unwilling to take Alfonso's job. This was a certain and solid sense of self-worth. Friends, to family, bear responsibility and take responsibility. The stable self formed from the negativity of others not only completely gets rid of depression, but also dares to face the difficulties and challenges in the next life. Realistic shooting, very convincing. The works of the Darnay brothers (Jean-Pierre Darney and Luc Darney) will always speak for the lower classes and marginalized groups of society, with a detailed and solid narrative ability, and always flow with the silent love and care. Sandra found strength and truth when she told her coworkers the same reason over and over again. Ren, the stable self formed from the negativity of the other not only got rid of depression completely, but also dared to face the difficulties and challenges in the next life. Realistic shooting, very convincing. The works of the Darnay brothers (Jean-Pierre Darney and Luc Darney) will always speak for the lower classes and marginalized groups of society, with a detailed and solid narrative ability, and always flow with the silent love and care. Sandra found strength and truth when she told her coworkers the same reason over and over again. Ren, the stable self formed from the negativity of the other not only got rid of depression completely, but also dared to face the difficulties and challenges in the next life. Realistic shooting, very convincing. The works of the Darnay brothers (Jean-Pierre Darney and Luc Darney) will always speak for the lower classes and marginalized groups of society, with a detailed and solid narrative ability, and always flow with the silent love and care. Sandra found strength and truth when she told her coworkers the same reason over and over again.

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  • Camryn 2022-03-30 09:01:05

    It can be regarded as a kind of road film. Dane's hand-holding is not his genius, but the precise control of characters, plot, and rhythm. In this point, he is similar to Haneke. They are both paranoid in form. Fixed position

  • Monty 2022-04-24 07:01:16

    Do your best in everything, and choose to have a clear conscience.

Two Days, One Night quotes

  • Sandra: Everytime I feel like a beggar, a thief coming to take their money. They look at me, ready to hit me. I feel like I'm hitting them too.

  • Timur: Hello.

    Sandra: Hello. Your daughter told me you were here. I was round at your place. I wanted to see you about the vote on the bonus and me being laid off. Juliette and I saw Dumont and he'll let us hold another ballot Monday because Jean-Marc influenced people by telling them that Dumont wanted to lay off staff anyway. So if it wasn't me who was made redundant it would be them... So... I wanted to ask you if... if you'd vote for me to stay on Monday.

    Timur: [in tears] Of course I will. I'm really glad you're here. I'm so mad at myself for voting for my bonus. I'm sorry.

    Sandra: Don't be sorry. I can understand. 1.000 Euros.

    Timur: No. I'm ashamed. I even forgot what you did for me. Remember? When I broke those cells... and you said you did it. You remember.

    Sandra: Yes, and Jean-Marc even said: "Fine example to set the new guy!"

    Timur: I'm really glad you came.