The last time my grandmother was sick, I went to see her and found that she stopped paying attention to the jokes my mother and I were making. She looked out the window at the bare trees with a lonely expression, deaf to the trivial things we were talking about.
Now I know that at that time, she had entered the land of yin and yang, and the road ahead could no longer be shared with us.
Anthony Hopkins' old face occasionally showed the murderer's appearance. Especially when facing the nanny who came for the interview and tap dancing with a red face. He seems to be the high-IQ pervert who listens to the symphony and fry steak, and he is so high-spirited that he easily toys with other people.
As soon as the camera turned to the next morning, the daughter told him that the nanny he liked yesterday came to work today. "She said you were a little temperamental, but charming." "Really?" The old man cut the toast, recalling dully. The doorbell rang, and the old man was flustered because he had not changed his clothes, and begged his daughter not to open the door first. The daughter still opened the door, and the nanny walked in, but it turned out to be an unfamiliar face. The old man panicked and hurried back to the room, like a child seeing a ghost.
A friend of mine has an elderly man with Alzheimer's disease. The old man's children said that the old man's temperament changed greatly when he first fell ill, from a wise and gentle person to a very unreasonable, restless and irritable person. "Find me at every turn," she said.
After watching this first-person perspective film, I realized that it is not to find fault. For Alzheimer's patients, life itself is a thriller.
My friend's mother is kind and kind. Although she feels that her father is making trouble, she doesn't care. I went to a friend's house for dinner, and the old man repeatedly talked about going to Xinjiang to look for uranium, taking what happened decades ago as his current job. "Don't pick up on him, he'll be excited as soon as you pick it up." My friend's mother said to me a little embarrassed.
After watching this movie, I am sincerely grateful for the nerves of my friends and family. If they were like the heroines in the movie, if they were more sensitive, they would be more miserable than they are now.
After all, the heroine left London to live her own life, and a friend's house also sent the old man to a nursing home. Regardless of filial piety and love, this disease has brought a great burden to the family. It seems that the only way out is to let go a little and leave it to professional nurses to take care of it.
The strong shot of Anthony only appears in the first half of the film, where he yells at the stranger in the house and asks why he's in his house. He questioned whether the nanny was a nun and why he treated himself as a retard. In a few minutes, the man who claimed to be his son-in-law slapped him, followed by a second, a third, and he was still threatening the other party, but he was already crying.
Whether this scene is fantasy or reality, whether this man is Paul or James or a nurse in a nursing home, these details are not important. The important thing is that anyone can insult Anthony at this time without paying a price.
A life that has been carefully built for many years begins to fall apart from this moment.
His memory, like spaghetti, has lost its way. In the confusion and anxiety, he lost his self-esteem. From aggressively asking the nanny, "What do I have to take care of? My daughter is just for my house", to sitting tearfully at the bedside of the nursing home and asking her daughter, "Then what do I do, you're abandoning me?"
Reminds me of sleeping at relatives' house when I was a kid, adults watching TV in the living room outside, and I slept in a dark guest room. My mother knew that I was afraid of the dark, so she came to see me during the commercials. As soon as the commercial was over, Mom stood up, walked out, and closed the door.
For a fraction of a second when Mom closed the door, I was screaming "don't abandon me" in despair, but I couldn't get it out. Then the mother really left, just put the child to sleep in the room, what a big deal. But to me, that moment felt like the end of the world.
You see, relatives really can't understand each other. We are all alone, whether we have just arrived in this world or are leaving.
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