The trauma we have experienced, especially as children, has a profound effect on our personality and the formative changes in our subconscious mind. Sometimes, not because we have forgotten, but because of psychological pain, they are suppressed by consciousness and cannot be perceived by us. But if we search hard, we can still find in the corners of our memory the traumatic experiences that we may have relieved. They still sting, but after so many years, we seem to be able to look at them calmly, and who knows if we really are has been put down. As time accumulates, we pull away from the despair of injury, trying to find a way to reconcile ourselves with the past. For most people, this way is to disengage ourselves from the role of "victim" and transform into The "responsible person" can partially transform hatred into self-blame and guilt through self-reflection, so as to achieve psychological balance and the inner satisfaction of self-sacrifice. I think there is such a transformation in everyone's inner emotions, it's a way of self-preservation, but not everyone expresses it as an explicit psychology, which is often related to socio-cultural psychology, and for East Asian-style Psychology and Western-style psychology, this expression is not the same.
Two of my favorite shows, "Evangelion" (hereinafter referred to as "EVA") and "Friends", the psychological diagrams of the main characters, especially the psychological diagrams of childhood trauma, are exactly in line with my perception of things Cognition of Fang Cultural Psychology.
Ikari Shinji, the most successful and profound image in "EVA", is a teenager with a huge psychological barrier, which comes from the conflict between his cruel responsibility and his cowardly character, and the sudden sudden change of his childhood mother. Painful memories of his death and abandonment by his father. In fact, Shinji Ikari is a child at the mercy of fate: his father Ikari Gendo is an ambitious man. In a "human completion plan" he secretly participated in, Shinji's mother Ikari Yui died in an accident . His father killed his mother indirectly, abandoned him soon after, leaving him with a permanent and indelible psychological wound, and then forced him to fly the first plane that carried part of his mother's soul because of the plan. Ikari Shinji fled several times, in pain.
But when we sighed for his life experience, or condemned his father's cruelty, we saw Shinji Ikari's painful inner monologue several times in the TV and theatrical versions: constantly violently attacking his own cowardice, hypocrisy and indifference, Continuing to lament the great loneliness of one's own life, the great helplessness. It can be seen that he quickly integrates into the reality of his "injury" with a strong "sense of responsibility", so that the two emotions of "self-blame" and "injury" are mutually generated and circulated. In the process, his father was absent for a time, but he appeared in his desire for emotion. He was the object of Ikari Shinji's desire for emotion, not a ruthless destroyer and murderer.
In contrast, the five young people in "Friends" who are no longer young seem to be far from letting go when they talk about their childhood trauma, and they still accuse the "perpetrators" of those years, even if most of them are not too much. Great malice. For example, when Ross, in his thirties, talked about playing with dinosaurs in his room as a child and was accused by his father of "why not play outside like a boy", he sobbed in grievance; whenever Monica thought about her childhood The experience of being neglected by his parents will not hesitate to blame them; Chandler will use his usual sarcastic tone to tease his father who ruined his childhood by transgender; The homeless experience was attributed to her mother's suicide and her father's imprisonment. They are already adults, but when it comes to childhood pain, they seem to have become children and no longer reflect on their responsibilities - perhaps children in the eyes of East Asians.
This difference may be related to the differences in cultural psychology between East Asia (such as Japan and China) and the West (such as the United States). The famous experiment of Kitayama and Markus revealed this difference: East Asian cultural psychology is dependent, tending to imitate and rely on others, and its psychology centers on the relationship between others and oneself, and the relationship with others (especially intimacy) becomes the The purpose of the individual is not the method to achieve one's own goal; while the Western cultural psychology is independent, centered on one's own personality, interpersonal relationships are only a subsidiary of one's own, and one's good life and spiritual satisfaction are the ultimate goals.
Shinji Ikari in "EVA" is a typical Japanese child. This cowardly, timid, introverted and inferior image has been used many times in the films of other Japanese directors (such as Takeshi Kitano) ("Kijiro's Summer", "Bad Boy's Sky") appear in. He shows a strong dependence and even attachment to others (especially his father), and longs for his father's approval. This emotion drowns out his hatred for his father, so he tends to criticize his own heart, turning from "victim" to "responsibility" The parent-child relationship depicted in "Friends" is far less close than in "EVA", they are more like a relationship of friends, parents are supporting roles and passers-by in the lives of the five old friends after all, although they are equally important . In this relationship, they are more inclined to stand in their own position and consider their own interests, so that they can blame their parents for their childhood harm without any self-blame, and stick to the "victim" position.
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