Reuben is a senior risk assessor for an insurance company. He grew up in an orthodox education and lived a life of compliance. Due to work reasons, he takes risk avoidance as the principle of dealing with things, and tries his best to make the most correct choice.
He married a beautiful, elegant and steady wife Lisa. On the first day of his honeymoon, a Frenchman invited him and Lisa to dive together. He refused the invitation because of the danger of diving and asked his wife to go alone. When he came to pick up his wife back to the hotel, he saw a very embarrassing scene: Lisa and the French were entangled on the boat.
Facing his wife's betrayal, he was very sad and returned to New York alone. But life has to go on, and he unhappily took on a new project: an insurance risk assessment for a man named Leland. Leland is a big customer, but because he likes those dangerous and exciting projects, skydiving, deep-sea swimming, etc., this makes it a bit more difficult for him to insure.
At an art exhibition, Reuben met Poly, a junior high school classmate, a female classmate who was once a genius in mathematics. Back home, he realized with excitement that he likes poly and plans to date poly.
This decision broke his peaceful life to a certain extent. Since his parents were divorced at a young age, Poly is loose by nature and has an indifferent attitude towards many things. She took Reuben to eat Mexican food and dance a passionate sasa dance. Two people with completely different ideas walked together, and there were many collisions of opinions. Fortunately, Reuben's self-cultivation made him endure a completely different lifestyle from him.
Just as their relationship went well day by day, Lisa came back. Poly chose to avoid, and her avoidance made Reuben feel that their relationship is not stable, and friend Sand also thinks that he should accept Lisa,
betraying his former wife on the one hand, and on the other hand Poly, Reuben, who feels strong love This time I was caught in a dilemma. At this time, he used the risk assessment software to input the information of the two persons and tried to obtain the results through computer analysis.
The computer showed that Poly was his correct choice, so he invited Poly to join Leland's sea trip.
However, inadvertently, Poly discovered the secret in the computer. She couldn't bear Reuben actually using the computer to analyze their relationship, so she chose to leave again...
At the end of the film, Reuben finally realized that he used to be cautious. Life is not what he needs. Poly opened another door to his world and also taught him: Maybe each of us should follow our own inner life.
I have always been a teleologicalist: what kind of result is best for me, I choose what to do. Perhaps, I have always had the same idea as Reuben. At the beginning of the film, I don't think there is anything wrong with him thinking this way. However, when I saw Poly dancing the unrestrained sasa dance in the underground ballroom, I thought, did I make a mistake like Reuben?
In the past days, I was directed by myself, I kept telling myself how to do it right or wrong, and I calculated the consequences of everything rationally. In this process, I seem to become mature and calm day by day, but think about it carefully, have I also lost the real me?
Life may be a journey. Its charm lies in the constant gains we are constantly walking. Various experiences, emotions, these experiences enrich our memories and frame our lives. In the next second, I don't know what will happen, so what I have in front of me is precious. If, if we are really directed by ourselves and complete this journey step by step, will we regret it at the last minute?
So, why not set aside so many worries and enjoy the real life? Every day we are portrayed by rules, bound by habit, caring about other people's views, paying attention to details that are actually not important, but we have lost the simplest happiness that we could have.
So, just indulge a little! Let us also imagine a Poly encounter, what else is more important than happiness?
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Reply from Brother Wa (Ai, it’s been a long time since I saw Brother Wa,
I miss it!): I used to like Takashi Sorimachi 's "Spicy Teacher" and "Beach Boy" because he played a rebellious character to life, I I think Sormachi is a true actor, and it is enough to show the characteristics of his own character in the play, without the need to act deliberately. In the "Beach Kid" and the movie version of the sequel, Takeno Uchitoshi, another actor, was somewhat cool and unruly. Hai Du (played by Takeno Uchitoshi) is a senior employee of a large company, because he can't bear it. He went to the beach for a holiday under pressure, and happened to meet Hirokai the ruffian (played by Sorimachi). He admired Hirokai’s personality that seemed to be careless about everything, and he deliberately imitated it in the sequel, from hairstyle to style, but The sense of humor is not learned. Guang Hai also laughed at Haidu many times, not wanting high salaries from big companies, instead of going to work in small hotels by the sea.
I have watched several films of Takeno Uchito. He is a standard Japanese man, silent and rigorous (it is said that his own motto is: Be more vigilant after victory, rely on). He is overwhelmed. Under pressure, he gave up playing the piano and turned to run a bar. In short, there is a gloomy and weak temperament in Takeno Uchito. If he looks more pleasing and cool, he is also a cooler color, while Sormachi is a more enthusiastic and energetic person.
Sorimachi's role is usually rebellious and unruly, but then again, such a person is not suitable for white-collar workers in large companies. People with artistic temperament, eclectic and self-contained, can be actors, writers, and even underworld bosses and revolutionaries. Rigorousness and rationality are the necessary qualities that the modern industrial and commercial society relies on. As for the fact that many people are overwhelmed by this, that is another problem, that is, the problem of alienation in modern society.
Yearning for freedom and resisting alienation is a theme of special concern in the literature and art of the 20th century. However, the issue of alienation was first put forward by Marx. Since Marxism has become a certain dogma, people tend to ignore the rationality and rationality of its doctrine. It’s surprisingly predictive, and I quote a paragraph from Marx’s exposition on "human alienation", "In capitalist society, labor has become an external thing for workers, that is, something that does not belong to his essence. Workers are in In your life, you are not affirming yourself, but negating yourself. It is not happiness, but misfortune. It is not free to exert your own strength and personal will, but to torment your body and spirit. Labor is not satisfaction. The needs of life itself are only a means to meet the needs outside life (to obtain money). The alienated nature of labor is clearly manifested in that as long as physical coercion or other coercion ceases, people will evade labor like the plague. "
Marx’s insight and criticism of capitalism are deeply rooted, but the way he proposes to solve the problem is too idealistic—eliminating private ownership, eliminating the ever-refined social division of labor, and completely subverting capitalism. Of course, artists have a more romantic and decisive way of resisting the alienation brought about by modern capitalist civilization. From Gauguin’s Tahiti to Harry Crosby’s sun fire, from Dowling Gray’s "The only way to eliminate temptation is to succumb to temptation" to refusing to live for money, abandoning the middle-class lifestyle, and launching a backpack Revolutionary Dharma wanderers, as well as group sex, smoking marijuana, meditation, ecstasy, automatic writing...every individualized means of resistance eventually degenerate into stereotypes, every extreme, artistic, and idealistic Attempts in life style only result in magnificent illusions, intoxication, madness, or even death.
If the above is to express dissatisfaction with civilization by fleeing and self-defeating, then it is "Born Murderer", "Fight Club", and even become a reality, publish a declaration of resistance to industrial civilization, and then create a series of bombings. Professor Kasinski, and Mike. Wei Zhi's collapse of the Oklahoma United Building, etc., used violence to combat the alienation brought about by the post-industrial society.
Dispelling and ridiculing civilization and order, and both are the representatives of ruffian literature, there is Ginsburg in the United States, and Wang Shuo in China. The difference between them is that the former manifests itself as a kind of dissatisfaction with industrial civilization and even post-industrial society. And resistance, the latter is a banter around the embarrassment and helplessness of the initial stage of civilization. In fact, the Chinese have not yet passed the construction stage of modernization and enlightenment, so the stage of deconstruction of advanced capitalist civilization is still far away from us.
In the 1960s, there was also Marcuse, a pioneer of thought who tried to reconcile Marxism with Freud's theory. If Marxism symbolizes absolute rationality, then Freund's theory is It can be called the most influential representative of the rise of irrational thought in the 20th century. Freud pointed out that the history of human civilization is the history of using consciousness to suppress the unconscious and rationality to suppress instinct. Civilization is suppression. Freud, as a pioneer and pansexualist of psychoanalysis, has a tendency to overcorrect. In fact, his argument also reveals another meaning, that is, necessary suppression has created human civilization. It is only because modern people generally cause uncomfortable reactions due to excessive repression of instincts, so to find the lost animal instincts is of paramount importance.
For those who are overly “rational” (or even rigid dogma) in "Meeting Poly", who have to conduct a rational evaluation of love that belongs to the category of irrational, indulgence has positive meaning, even said it is. It has first-class significance; but for the emotional-oriented personality, excessive indulgence will only cause it to fall into deeper chaos, such as the former Hollywood star, Francis. Farmer. She is a drunkard, emotionally impulsive, visceral, and her mother has a strong desire for vanity and control. All this may be Francis's unconscious resistance to her mother. If Francis’s tragedy was directed by her mother alone, then we can only say that her mother was a poor director. Life is like a play, drama needs a director, so life needs a director. But this "director" should not be a dogma imposed on us by our parents since childhood, nor should it be constrained by the prejudices of the public. It requires everyone to work hard. To find the individual consciousness and the ability to think independently. Reuben is not wrong, the fault is that he missed some other precious parts of life, such as emotions and love, which cannot be measured by reason. When he met poly, he gradually changed the rigid dogmatic thinking and behavior mode of the past, and achieved the integration of reason and emotion. (Excessive intellectualization means rigidity and dogma, and excessive emotionality is equivalent to chaos and laissez-faire.)
In the Japanese drama "Beach Boy", no matter what the delay, the long vacation will eventually end, and Haidu (played by Takeno Uchito) no matter whether he returns or not. In fact, it doesn’t matter to the original company. As long as he can realize it, as long as the rigid Japanese represented by him can realize, go to a prestigious university, enter a big company, build Japan into the world’s largest country, and make yourself change. To become an economic animal is not the ultimate goal of life. It is perhaps the most important thing to seek and possess the ability to relax oneself and experience a better life in a highly functioning modern life.
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