We must be very familiar with these images:
Women always pay attention to their clothes, makeup, skirts, high heels, and delicately painted nails. Such women will be considered attractive pig girls, and they will also be favored by many men; street billboards in shopping malls are generally It is a sexy naked beauty; a woman drinking alone in a bar is easily molested by a drunk man, and even considered "hunger and thirsty"; a woman tirelessly maintains her face and body, removes body hair, and is afraid of being told by men I am like a monkey; in marriage, the husband cheated, and the woman felt that she was not attractive, so she began to lose weight, and the elders also comforted herself that they tolerated each other, and it was over. . .
What would happen if the word "woman" above was changed to "man"?
This is a French comedy film "Men Have to Love Oneself", directed and written by women, which satirizes gender roles in a patriarchal society.
The male protagonist Dalmi has entered another parallel world. In this world, most of the elites are women, most of the cheating people are women, most of the sea kings are women, and most of the people who look at the opposite sex with obscene eyes are women. It is women who show their bodies; most men who come to the door crying and crying are men; most men who have been cheated on are men; It's men who get molested when they go to a bar. . . .
For me, it's not a comedy, and I hardly laughed much while watching it. Seeing the men in the film live by women doesn't make me happy, because this is actually some female plot in our reality. Rather than an irony of contemporary male chauvinists, it is also an irony of the accomplices of patriarchy - women. We advocate equality between men and women, we oppose patriarchy, we oppose a certain culture, but to a certain extent conform to it and strengthen it. We don't think seriously about the origins of gender roles, thinking that they are set by nature, insurmountable, unavoidable, and unchangeable. It seems that we have never thought about it carefully, and we have tacitly accepted the "natural" culture that the society has formulated for me, and "identified" it.
We all know that men and women think differently, we learn to understand men's thinking, in order to deal with men, in order to make our communication smooth, in order to make our intimate relationship satisfactory. But have you ever thought about how the difference between men and women comes from? Daphna Joel and colleagues from the Max Planck Institute at Tel Aviv University and the University of Zurich analyzed more than 1,400 head images of the human brain, collecting a large dataset from four different sources. Initially, they found that there were about 10 particularly large sex differences in each sample. In short, this experiment shows that there isn't a single particularly significant difference between the brains of the sexes. Therefore, gender differences in the brain are not simply determined by gender, but also depend on age, environment and genetic variation. Anne Foster Sterling (don't know who) summed it up: The body is a dynamic system that changes to suit society.
We, as newborns, came to any culture on Earth without knowing it, and our genes began to be rewritten. We are born to think that men and women are different if they are not brain-set, so we all fall into long-established rules - from socio-cultural influences, and we are constantly learning (identifying, reinforcing) these rules - men are good at math Logic, dare to compete and take risks, women are more delicate, good at empathy and housework - we have consolidated the status and dignity of men, we can't escape the environment, so there is a series of love-hate entanglements, so I started emotional counseling, visiting Most of them are women.
There is still a lot of confusion and resistance in the current social rules and family order for women's roles. Whether it requires "luck" or skill, first become an independent individual and then become an independent woman, which is related to self-awareness and social awareness. change. Maybe we don't have to and can't reverse the big picture, maybe we men and women are born with labels, but don't forget that we also have the power to tear off labels.
Perhaps the truth that we have firmly grasped is just a small wave in the long river of history, and we don’t have to take it seriously.
(The above experiments are excerpted from the book, and the authenticity has not been studied, just take a look.)
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