The role of Oliver is so full.
He doesn't socialize very much, and immerses himself in creating his own works. Colleagues and friends can't stand it and drag him to the party. He is 38 years old, and he has not considered his own destination, and will eventually flee when facing his girlfriend. For the sake of expression, whether it is for his father, Anna or Andy, or his mother in memory, although he can empathize (or understand as much as possible), he will eventually lose his eyes and choose to remain silent. After his father left, he immediately went to the bed and howled with the man who had affected his life; his mother was a sensual Max Jewish woman, and she was happy to express her emotions with various "abnormal" behaviors, such as in the quiet exhibition hall Dancing in the middle of the dance, as for Andy, it was when he turned red-eyed and complained to Oliver for solace, and Oliver hugged him immediately in annoyance, Oliver never visited him after his father passed away because he was gay, he fully understood his father in his heart. The relationship with Andy himself does not hate Andy; and Anna, he likes it so much, the two walk through each other in each other's lonely world, and when the two are about to start living together, Anna loses sleep on the first night, and after a simple conversation, he However, she suddenly gave up, which made Anna heartbroken when she thought she was "saved". He has strong emotional strength, he could have been a warm person, but there is always an invisible invisible door between him and everyone, and his mouth is gagged before the comforting words can be said, and he wants to walk away to follow. The footsteps are unable to move, such a contradictory existence. Only by figuring out what the door is, I think can really understand the story and see why the beginners are behind the door, whether it's the old father, Oliver, or the young Anna, they were all behind the door.
The film uses a lot of slides or montages to show the characters' past, the background of Oliver's father and mother, explained in simple words, but the words are so poignant, "My mother didn't know she was Jewish until she was 13 years old. , and that year (1938) Person of the Year was him (Hitler)", "My father realized he was gay at the age of 13 and it was the only place he could have sex in the 50s (public toilets)". Compared with normal people, two people are lonely existences. In this way, the two studying in the same high school shared their loneliness with each other and tried to enter each other's world. On this issue, I prefer to believe that my mother still hasn't found the key to open my father's door, "I love you, we are good friends, but you know I'm gay", "But she said, That doesn't matter" , even recalling half a century later, my father's eye sockets were quickly soaked. Despite the unimaginable efforts of both, the father still did not change. But this does not mean that the efforts of the two are a failure (please do not judge by consequentialism), even the father himself said that we are in love.
But in the eyes of young Oliver, the parents are not like lovers at all. In the film, the two routinely kiss before going out. I really feel deeply. This move really has a huge impact on the child. Oliver, who is ignorant of the world, is also subtle in the daily life of his unusual parents, and his father only reveals his identity after his mother's death, which not only makes Oliver rebuild the father-son relationship, but also shows that he has never gotten along with the outside world. A 38-year-old man doesn't know how to show his love, because he can't see universal love in the family; he doesn't dare to rely on others, his parents have their own The secret of the two, such strange two, forced him to be independent; in his memory, his mother was not a kind presence, and in her, gloom seemed to be much greater than maternal love (whether it was pretending to shoot, or going home at night) He was too young to understand so many things, how could he know how to deal with it? Over time, he would realize that the best way to do this is to be quiet, be quiet for a long time, I got used to being quiet.
Anna also has her own door, although she didn't explain too much. For example, her father would want to commit suicide. She left the family at the age of 16. She was used to staying in hotels, but compared to Oliver, she was braver, and Oliver was also a young woman. It wasn't long before he knew his father's secret, and he had just passed away for more than two months. So there is this dialogue "you lost so much, how can I make up for it?", "if you think this is too much, then we should stop." This is probably the saddest part of the movie for me , Oliver is so scarred at this time, Anna has felt powerless, she is also a person who needs warmth, what can I do to pass the only warmth to Oliver as much as possible. And Oliver "naturally" thought of giving up and wanted to escape back to his own corner. Fortunately, Anna made the same brave move as Oliver's mother did to his father and hugged him. This move is really enough in my opinion. precious.
The relationship between the two warmed up quickly, and soon Oliver extended an olive branch, expressing that he wanted to go down with Anna and invited her to move in together. Crisis also followed, Anna needed time to adapt, the first night of insomnia was so normal, Oliver asked "Are you happy? Here?", the deep meaning is, if you stay with me (for a long time), you will really be happy . Anna's answer was sincere "Maybe I'm not good enough, I don't know what I should do, but I want to be here." Oliver showed anxiety (maybe not confident, I still haven't figured it out) ), his failed attempts in love made him question whether he would love someone, and even more that he might not be suitable for love (Anna also said this, saying that she was not worthy of love), and finally forced Anna away , According to my experience, Oliver will start to exile himself for a period of time, and then go on and on, and he can't escape this vicious circle.
Fortunately, he really loves Anna. I was particularly inspired by a film review, which said that pet dogs symbolized Oliver's loneliness, so after Anna left, Oliver was speechless with his loneliness, and finally could not accept Anna's departure, so he was willing to let go of his lonely world, this The process of letting go is also so difficult, and the foreshadowing has been done from the first half of the movie. He needs to reconcile with his father, with Andy, with who he once was, he needs to let go of a lot of things he once was, leave Los Angeles, go to New York, and muster up the courage to enter Anna's door, since he stepped in Anna The two of them finally entered the lonely world exclusive to each other. Unexpectedly, Anna never left (which may also mean that she did not intend to leave Oliver's world). The most exciting thing in the movie was when Anna introduced her home on the phone, and Anna asked "Why do you leave anyone" ?Why do you let me go?", Oliver thought back to his mother, saying "Maybe because I don't believe this gonna work, then I make sure it doesn't work". So do not believe that love will come to their own.
When he finally showed Anna his father's friend notice, it seemed that he had begun to let go of his father. At the end of the film, the two sat together, "What are we going to do now?" "I don't know" "How dose that work?" At the end of the film, whether it will really work in the end is left to our imagination.
Oliver was really unfortunate, I've heard a lot of things like that, but he was lucky too, he met Anna. Before I watched this movie, I always had the same thought, "You may really not be able to get out on your own", there is always a voice that rings in your ears when two hearts are about to touch, "You will eventually alone". A friend once said to me, at least you don't want to be like this all the time, that's the salvation.
If you can't open the door by yourself, at least don't hide the key, and don't let the people outside the door get hurt.
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