In Japan, there is a saying called "Material Ai", which means that when the human heart touches the outside world, it is touched by the sight and emotion, and the heart is moved by it. People who understand the grief of things are what we say as "people in temperament". Things can touch the scenery, generate emotions, and heal. The pain of the past requires not only time, but also rituals. We need a way to truly say goodbye to the past.
A father who has not been seen in fifteen years, a dish from twenty years ago, a plum tree in fifty-five years, three funerals, and a sea of cherry blossoms. This is the movie "Haijie Diary" that I want to tell you today
The plum wine is in the throat, the cherry blossoms are falling, the sea breeze is blowing, the four seasons are flowing, and the life and stories in the small town are slowly unfolding in the seaside city of Kamakura in Japan.
first funeral
The story is about the lives of four half-sisters that originate from the film's first funeral: that of their father.
For the funeral of their father, whom they hadn't seen in fifteen years, the second sister, Jia Nai, and the third sister, Xia Fanxin, went to the funeral, but the eldest sister excused herself not to go. In the end, the eldest sister appeared at the funeral, and she helped the four who were being embarrassed by their stepmother. Sister Xiaoling. The movie unfolds slowly in this seemingly complicated relationship, and shows it in front of you little by little like a cicada, allowing you to feel their entanglement and pain in the messy relationship. Big
The elder sister finally said to his cohabiting boyfriend: Fortunately, I went.
This time, the eldest sister Kada Yuki confronted the fact that her father betrayed the family. She bravely greeted this childhood pain, and at the same time, she also gained her fourth half-sister, Xiaoling. Sympathy, eldest sister's responsibility, blood ties, these inexplicable reasons made her take the initiative to invite Xiaoling to live with her in Kamakura, and embarked on the road of true self-redemption.
Sometimes, we are unwilling to face the past, entangled in the vortex of pain, let the pain torment ourselves, and finally turn into our own thoughts and flesh and blood, and eventually become a psychological burden for a lifetime. reason.
The first step in reconciling with yourself and the past is to dare to face it, face the past, face yourself, and take on the responsibilities that you can take now. Any beginning can be both the beginning of a new era and the end of an old one.
second funeral
Grandma's funeral ceremony finally allowed us to meet the mother of the three sisters, and also brought out the second shadow of the three sisters' childhood: the childhood growing up without a mother. The second sister and the third sister are all happy and looking forward to seeing their mother, and there is a kind of sadness to please, because the mother's praise will be very happy; but the eldest sister only complains and resents when she sees her mother, and it is because the mother wants to sell them. The old house where I live now makes a lot of noise.
When her parents divorced due to her father's affair and ran away one after another, the eldest sister Kada Yukio should have already remembered, so the family hurt the eldest sister the most.
Before leaving, the mother came to the old house again and gave gifts that had been prepared for the four sisters. Before my mother left, I wanted to visit my grandmother's cemetery. When my mother closed the door, my eldest sister felt up and down, and finally proposed to accompany my mother to my grandmother's cemetery.
The slightly hazy plum rain, the green road, and two umbrellas, the eldest sister tried to understand her mother's thoughts.
"That's a place that's a blocker for me, but it's important to you."
"I'm sorry I didn't make a good daughter," Mom said to Grandma's gravestone.
Kanda Yuki seemed to understand something. Before her mother got into the car, she rushed home and brought the plum wine made by her grandmother. This time, Kada Yuki and his mother reconciled. She didn't understand so much before, but it seems that everyone has a past that they don't want to face, even if it's a mother who can never let go.
Origination and demise, sometimes, we are in the middle of the incident, deeply affected by indirect influence, resentment for the ruthlessness and weakness of the client, but we are not the client, and we will never be able to understand and truly empathize. If you want to free yourself, you must first feel her pain and understand her pain.
When the childhood green plum rain stops, we should also put away our umbrellas and chat side by side with our peers, maybe we can go to a sunny tomorrow together.
third funeral
The last funeral belonged to Ms. Ninomiya, the proprietress of the hotel. Normally, the funeral of a passerby would not affect the four sisters, but fate was to involve them and achieve the ultimate redemption.
Like her father, the eldest sister, Koda Yukio, is also caught in the whirlpool of extramarital affairs. She lives with a married doctor in the hospital. Such a relationship may be the reflection of the most profound influence of childhood shadows on the eldest sister. She herself knows very well that such a relationship is not good, but she cannot extricate herself. In the end, the doctor wanted to divorce her and take her abroad, but she refused. There are factors that she needs to take care of the fourth sister. What's more, when the film is here, the eldest sister has gradually come out of the past relationship and shadow. She needs Is the pusher for the final cleanup.
Koda Yukio finally chose to be a hospice nurse in the hospital, and the object of her care was Ms. Ninomiya, the proprietress of the restaurant where the four sisters often go.
Ms. Ninomiya's departure was the last funeral in the play. Mr. Fukuda said that she went well, the funeral was well organized, and she felt at ease in the hospital, which was all thanks to the help of the eldest sister and the second sister. In the final funeral, they find what they really want to do and understand the value and meaning of life. This is the final release, life is like this, don't dwell on the past, do something meaningful is the best reconciliation and self-salvation.
"The cherry blossoms at that time were so beautiful. Even though I knew that I was going to die soon, I could still feel that there were no good things. I was so happy." This is what Ms. Ninomiya and Mr. Fukuda said. Feel the beauty of cherry blossoms. The fourth sister, Xiaoling, said that her father also said before his death: But there are still no good things to feel, so happy. In the end, it was not only the eldest sister who was relieved, but also the fourth sister, Xiaoling, who was hiding her sadness.
The cherry blossom tunnel, the seaside of the four, is the most ordinary and beautiful sense of ceremony.
The end of the movie: If you can still feel the beauty when you say goodbye to this world, then it is also a beautiful thing, it's really a good life.
Anytime we have the ability to perceive beauty, we can heal ourselves and others.
When the flowers fall, we tell ourselves that everything will be alright, go back to the depths of our hearts, move forward, and next time there will be cherry blossoms blooming.
After writing: After watching this film and writing this film review, I feel really comfortable, I feel like I have been in the romantic atmosphere of cherry blossoms, the kind of not in a hurry and not panic, the beauty of life slowly unfolding, although the film is also tangled , There is also sadness, but it is beautiful, as beautiful as cherry blossoms, isn't life like this.
This is how I feel when I want to write, and it is also my original intention to keep writing, so that everyone, including myself, will always be beautiful.
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