The regret that I can't love, but I can't forget each other in this life

Genesis 2022-03-23 09:03:12

Generally, I rarely watch romance movies. Although I hope to see an ideal and happy ending, when I think about it, it seems that this is not the real life of most people, and I always feel unsatisfactory. "On Chesil Beach" is something special. In the film, I saw my appearance, the appearance of people, the appearance of all beings, and I saw life.

There are some unintelligible scenes in the first part of the film. The actors' excellent acting skills make people expect this to be a beautiful love story, with love at first sight and soft words. But in the second half, it unfolded with the conflict between Edward's impatience in the first night and Florence's fear, and the change in the tension of the plot made my mood fluctuate. From the film, I saw stories compiled with key words such as fate, family of origin, class, love, trauma, sex, fate, understanding and understanding.

Looking at the profile, it seems that Florence was misunderstood by her concerns and fears about sex and eventually parted ways. Conflict over actual fear of sex is just a manifestation of it for a reason. If the law of causality is the objective law by which we understand and transform the world, then these are conditioned after all. Some critics have spoken of Florence's frigidity. Reality is not the root cause of conflict.

The heroine is traumatized by her father's molestation in her childhood, and she is very repulsive and fearful of sex. Although it is not explicitly stated in the film, the orderly connection of the pictures in the film is not random, it is a metaphor. The most obvious evidence is that the female protagonist sleeps at night with her arms clasped to one side, with an anxious and fearful expression. The film unfolds as a conflict on a wedding night, so it's puzzling and surprising that the young heroine has such an expression as she falls asleep in a home that looks cozy.

Edward was so anxious and reckless when he unfastened the zipper on the back of Florence's dress on the wedding night that he did not realize that Florence was already terrified. This seems to be a problem with Edward's character. His impatience and recklessness are so anxious when Florence's demeanor, emotions and actions are not quite right. No, there are congenital causes of character. I think the acquired environment still plays a very important role in shaping the character.

The male protagonist was born in an ordinary family in the countryside, and the family conditions are far inferior to Florence, and the key point is that Edward's mother suffered an accidental brain injury and basically lost the ability to socialize. When Edward brought Florence home to see his mother, he was a little nervous when he saw his mother playing with a drawing board with her upper body naked in the living room. The hostess used to help Edward's mother get dressed and soothe her emotions. When Edward went to the kitchen to boil water, he was very Sadness mixed with low self-esteem. Although some people have an innate temperament and a relatively reckless temper. But the film's multiple depictions of Edward's mother being delirious, which I think are key metaphors for Edward's impatience. Edward's joy when he got his first degree was incomprehensible to his mother, and the other unhappiness, pain, and hesitation in his natural life could not get any warmth from his mother. Isn't this a reason for Edward's irritability ). The film does not tell the audience when Edward's mother suffered an accidental brain injury, but I presume it was the same age and childhood as Florence's injury. The lack of long-term maternal love has a profound impact on a person's growth in childhood. Therefore, Edward did not stop when Florence was frightened. A large number of pictures in the film described Florence's performance in panic, including but not limited to widening his eyes due to fear, clenching his fists, and making Edward during the process. Say something (in order to divert Florence's involuntary recollection of her childhood fears of being molested during sex in silence), this is an expression of fear and not from the first nervousness, Edward didn't know, nor I didn't ask why Florence did this (Florence was about to tell Edward the secret, but was interrupted by Edward's eagerness) Of course, there are many scenes that reflect the heroine's rejection of physical intimacy, such as A moment watching a movie together at the cinema.

The encounter with each other is bound to bring pain to both sides. If Edward's mother hadn't suffered an accident, would Edward be a little more gentle and stop and ask when he senses Florence's fear? Or what if you start to meet Zhang Dehua, who is suave and understands psychology?

There are some scenes in the film that I think are very interesting. Edward couldn't drink the red wine mixed with water. Only after Florence's eyes did he know that he had to tip the waiter who never left. Why did Florence marry Charles in the end. Having children to the end of life (the same problems that Edward encountered Charles will encounter, but Charles is the one who accompanied Edward and has children, which shows that Charles has healed Florence's wounds on the issue of sex), can you? Guess that because Charles's original family is better than Edward's and understands his other half better (Charles observed that Florence looks shy, but is actually a very hard person), can it warm the heart that has been traumatized in childhood?

As the audience, we can know the reason for the tragedy, but the people in the play do not know it, which also means the inevitability of the tragedy, which is often said to be fate, and the same is true in regretful real life. Edward may understand it later, but But nothing can be changed. When some experiences are really gained, it is too late, and this life is only used for chatting and masturbation.

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On Chesil Beach quotes

  • Florence Ponting: [Reading love, sex and marriage to Ruth] Women are like doorways. Men can enter though them.

  • Florence Ponting: Edward, I want to make you happy. But I think I'm always a disappointment. You're always advancing, I'm always backing away, and we can't talk about it. We can never just be happy... or just be. You're always demanding something more and I'm useless at... And you go silent and unhappy and it's all my fault. And when I do... I mean when I say yes to something, even if I don't really want to, I know there'll be another thing that I'm expected to do. I'm no good at these demands.