Mika Nakajima mentioned the failed past, the injured body, the family, the empty heart, the indifferent relationship between friends, and the hurt of language in the song "I once thought about it for a hundred times". The darkness in our daily life gradually destroys our soul, and makes us have the idea of "one thing is over".
When does a person decide to die? Is it time to have no love for this world?
The book "A Man Named Ove Decided to Die" said: "There is a moment in everyone's life that determines who they will become in the future. You don't know the story, you don't know the person."
The hero Ove, an old man who started working at 16 and plans to end his life at 59! Six months after his wife's death, Ove didn't want to continue his boring life anymore. He knew that he was mean and reserved, and that no one would understand him except his wife, Sonja, and he didn't need anyone to care. For decades, he has regarded the community as his home, and has been patrolling the community every morning and on time to stop all behaviors that violated the community rules. His attitude was tough and mean, and he was judged by the community as a "devil-like neighbor." But he didn't care at all. The eyes of the people around me still go their own way.
Haruki Murakami said: "The so-called life is nothing more than a process of continuous loss. Very precious things will slip from your hands one by one, like a comb with teeth."
This sentence sums up Ove's life too well! His mother died when his memory was still unclear. His father and him depended on each other for life and taught him the creed of honesty and perseverance. When he was 16 years old, he got good grades and shared it with his father, but he saw his father get hit and killed!
Life is such a chicken feather that you can't even take a breath of sadness into account! Fortunately, honest conduct will eventually become an opportunity for a person to change his fate. Because he honestly returned his father's excess wages, he was left to continue working. He stayed on the railway and met the love of his life, Sonja! There is too much suffering, but happiness will always come! Love at first sight makes Ove feel that life is not only black and white, but also color! The passionate and romantic Soya understands his loneliness, tolerates his stubbornness, and two completely different people enter the marriage!
The straight-forward Ove tolerates his wife who always loves being late. He has waited for her all his life. The wife who never likes to play cards according to common sense loves the stubborn and stubborn Ove. Many people will find it difficult to live with someone who appreciates loneliness. This can be uncomfortable for those who cannot stand being alone on their own. But Sonja didn't complain much. "Whatever you are, I will pay for it." She always said that, and she did what she said. Who said that two people with different personalities are doomed to not last long, and those who parted ways because of their different personalities are just because they don't love enough!
The days with Sonja were the happiest days in Ove's life. Even though they were in a car accident, lost their children, and Sonja lost both legs, life still didn't break the optimism of these two who lived to the death. Activists. Sonja's optimism and persistence infected Ove, and he was willing to do anything for Sonja, even against the government! With love in your chest, you have the power to be the enemy of the world! A classroom without a ramp for the disabled could not stop Ove's will. He took the tools, took the formwork board, set out in the early morning, and set up a ramp on the steps of the classroom. Soya's wheelchair can pass smoothly, and the The mutual encouragement has never been more than verbal comfort. I love you for you to see, and for you, I am willing to do anything!
So when cancer took Sonja away and Ove's life support, his world went back from color to black and white, the food was tasteless, everyone looked disgusting, and other people's help turned into trouble, he stayed away from the crowd , maintaining a lonely life with mean and irritable words and deeds, must return to Suya's side, which has become his most urgent thing, he decided to die, not on a whim, not on a whim, he has no desire for this world. Begging, there is no attachment, he just wants to go back to his wife, and with her company, life is called life.
And those things that have nothing to do with him: the old friend who is paralyzed will be taken in by social institutions, the stray cat will be frozen to death in the snow, and the new neighbor next door will ask for help, all of which can't stop his determination to seek death!
Life is too bitter, in 59 years of life, that little sweetness is not enough to cover the bitterness of life! He has been losing all his life, possessing and losing in a short period of time. He is not the kind of person who gives up lightly to find life and death, but now, he doesn't know how to fall asleep without the tip of her nose on his neck and shoulders. That's all. Lonely and lonely people always find rainy nights annoying, and the autumn wind blowing on the face is as cold as a knife cutting flesh. Without company, there will be thoughts of not wanting to live alone.
Lose love but don't lose the ability to love
In 1999, the 35-year-old Keanu Reeves became famous because of "The Matrix". For this man who was abandoned by his biological father at a young age and experienced the pain of the death of his friend, his career has reached a climax. He loves Jennifer Sai. It was probably the happiest moment of his life with Mu by his side.
But fate did not take pity on this man. In the year when the career reached its climax, his girlfriend gave birth to their daughter, but unfortunately the daughter was stillborn when she was born. As a result, her girlfriend suffered from depression and died in a car accident two years later. He has been dependent on each other since childhood My sister has leukemia! He has experienced all the things that some people will never encounter in the first half of their lives!
After being ruthlessly teased by fate, Keanu Reeves gradually fades out. Every time he is photographed, he is almost alone, eating alone, shopping alone, sitting on a park bench alone, watching people come and go. , After the death of his fiancee, he never officially announced any official girlfriend again. He wore plain old clothes and lived a peaceful and lonely life.
You Cai interviewed him later: "What do you think will happen to the world after we die?"
Keanu breathed a sigh of relief and gave the touching answer: I know that after death, those who love us will miss us
Sad to lose a loved one, to spend a difficult and dark time alone, like Ove, to spend time in misses and memories.
Sanmao said that if the heart has no place to live, it will be a wanderer everywhere.
So there is no lover, and those who stay live as a deserted island, where they heal their wounds, are bored on the island, and reject new life on the island.
About love and need, warmth
Losing the ability to love is more terrifying than losing a lover.
So Ove met the strong intervention of the new neighbor Pavina's family, with fireworks and love, to save Ove from his cold world.
Pavina told Ove that no one can do everything alone, and no one can survive without help. So Ove, don't blame other people's idiots for your misfortune.
And 55-year-old Keanu Reeves also walked out of the haze 18 years later and met his soulmate.
No one can live without relying on others, we love and be loved, when we become an island, we are still surrounded by the sea, we are never alone! We have read thousands of sails, experienced the vicissitudes of life, sighed that the world is impermanent, abandoned the hustle and bustle, repel the torrent and undercurrent, we will eventually merge into the sea, surrounded by love, we never lack love, nor the courage to love, reconciliation with ourselves, yes Best singing to this world!
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