In fact, not only girls, but also men. And, if we can recall our childhood, it is estimated that we will find that having a magical and loyal pet like "Changjiang No. 7" is a dream that each of us once had.
Modern psychology believes that every child longs for a companion who will never leave him. The object of this longing is initially the mother, and later the father or other significant relatives.
However, this desire is destined to be frustrated, because the mother is bound to have various reasons to leave herself from time to time, sometimes for a short time, only for a blink of an eye, and sometimes for a long time.
Children before the age of 3 can't stand the separation and cry when they can't see their mother. Psychologically speaking, children who are too young have not yet developed an "object constancy." They only believe that this companion exists when they see a person or thing in front of them, and once they can't see it, they feel that this companion seems to have disappeared completely. Because the mother is so important, not only meeting all the important physical needs of a child, but also meeting all his important emotional needs, so once the mother is not in front of his eyes, his world seems to collapse, so he burst into tears, this Behind the cry is a kind of pain from the heart.
Children after the age of 3 have initially formed a "sense of object constancy", that is, when a person or thing disappears from his eyes, he has an image of the person or thing in his mind, so this disappearance will not make him too anxious.
Of course, this "object constancy" is gradually formed, and there is no absolute watershed. Before that, the child could never bear the disappearance of his mother or other important people or things. After that, he could absolutely bear it. .
In short, every child—and adults too—aspires to have an important object exclusively for him, and this object is the mother in the first place.
However, the mother always has to keep away from herself, long or short, which can cause more or less harm to a child. In order to make up for this injury, a child will transfer this craving to a specific object, which can be called the "transition object", or "transition mother".
The transition object can be any item. For example, a child's transitional object is a ball of wool. She holds this ball of yarn every day, as if it is the most precious thing in the world. When this yarn is suddenly missing, she will cry and faint. This ball of wool is the remnants of a blanket that she built with her mother after she was born, and her mother is a flight attendant. After the maternity leave, she started flying around the world, which made her very uncomfortable. Pain, in order to make up for this pain, she first relied on the blanket and slept in it every day. The blanket was so dirty that her family threw it away, and she passed out crying that time too. Later, she found this ball of yarn somewhere, and regarded it as a treasure. In fact, she regarded this ball of yarn as her mother, and her mother was the real treasure in her heart.
The most common transitional objects are furry toys, such as various dolls. In the movie "Yangtze River No. 7", when Qizai died, he shrunk into a toy made of wool, which is the reason.
A mother, initially in a young child's mind, is omnipotent, because she can meet all her needs. As the child grew up, he gradually understood that the mother's ability was actually very limited, and then he transferred this omnipotent fantasy to the "transition mother". Children often talk to their toy, and if you listen carefully, you will find that the child imagines the toy so great that he can do anything with him.
In Xiao Di's dream, Zhou Xingchi deliberately depicted this. Qi Zai can not only defeat "the most vicious dog in the world", but also give him magic glasses, let him peep at his classmates' test papers and get 100 points in the test, and give him a pair of super running shoes to make him shine in physical education class, and He also helped him punish the two teachers who had always looked down on him...
However, in contrast, the most vivid depiction of this omnipotence is the Japanese cartoon "Drabatic Cat". In this series of cartoons, no matter what dreams the little protagonist has, "RoboCat" can help him magically realize it.
The child 6 months ago is in the "almighty narcissism" period, he will feel that he is omnipotent, because when he is cold, hungry or thirsty, he will be satisfied at the first time, although the mother satisfied him, but Because he feels that his mother and him are one, he will feel that he is omnipotent. If this "almighty narcissism" is satisfied, the child will pass this stage smoothly. However, if his needs are often not met, his omnipotent narcissism will be bruised, and he will remain obsessed with this omnipotent need thereafter. From this, it can be said that if the "all-round toys" in films like "Drabocat" or "Yangtze River No. 7" particularly impress you, it is likely that you were not well cared for at a young age.
Aside from superpowers, the more important characteristic of a transitional object is that it stays true to itself no matter what we do with it. "Yangtze River No. 7" deliberately depicts this point. First, Xiao Di's father tortured Qi Zai in every possible way, then Xiao Di, and then Xiao Di's classmate... But no matter what kind of torture he suffered, Qi Zai remained loyal to Xiao Di.
This is also something that every child has done. Those toys that are regarded as transitional objects by children are not only regarded as treasures by children, but also tortured by children wantonly, but no matter how children treat them, they will inevitably "never betray". In this way, a child will gain a sense of security.
Many people do things like this when they are in love: constantly stimulate each other, constantly explore the bottom line of each other, and think in their hearts, if he tolerates me in such things, then it proves that he loves me. However, the other party repeatedly lowered the bottom line, and he couldn't help but do more excessive things and further test the other party's patience. The same is true.
However, a toy can withstand any torture, but a person cannot do it, so this kind of person who constantly visits the bottom line is destined to lose his lover.
In fact, this behavior started very early. Many psychologists believe that children are naturally aggressive. For example, very young children will bite their mother's nipples, older children will pinch their mother, pull their mother's hair, and so on. They are doing the same thing - if I treat you like this, and you are always there for me, and you love me the same way, that's a real proof that you love me.
A safe mother will tolerate the child's attack, after all, a baby's attack is not lethal. A child who has obtained this kind of tolerance will go through this stage smoothly, and the aggression in his heart will be greatly reduced.
Conversely, an insecure mother may be overly sensitive to petty aggression from her baby and punish her child. As a result, the child's aggression will be over-suppressed, so he will be obsessed with releasing his aggression, and will look for every opportunity to release it, such as the kind of person who constantly explores the bottom line of his lover.
This is also an important cause of juvenile delinquency. We know that the aggressive behavior of adults is often purposeful, and when the purpose is achieved, the aggressive behavior of adults will stop, but the aggressive behavior of teenagers often has no bottom line, and they seem to have no moment when they are satisfied.
Therefore, it is best to let a person release his aggression when he is young. After all, the aggression of a baby is not lethal, and the aggression of a teenager is already terrible, and the aggression of an adult is especially horrible.
This movie can be said to be a reflection of Stephen Chow's heart. He lost his father very early, so he fantasized about his father's discipline. He claimed to have seen aliens twice, so Xiao Di in the film has an alien pet dog...
If you are particularly eager to have a toy like Qizai, then you can That said, this film is also a reflection of your heart.
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