Self-realization is above everything else-dreams that a small city cannot realize. When human beings achieve self-realization, they make full use of life; he has little respect for life governed by transient thoughts and uncontrolled instincts. Self-actualization takes every ability that a person has to the highest level of perfection, so that you can get all the happiness, beauty, emotion and interest that can be squeezed out from your life; but the difficulty of self-actualization is that the requirements of others are often Limit your activities. (Omitted) Such a goal requires extreme ruthlessness and full attention to oneself, which is unpleasant and often makes oneself seem ridiculous. (Maugham) Brooklyn is a district in New York. In one of my favorite American dramas "Sex and The City", Miranda, who I like independent, rational and wise, likes independent space, gave birth to a son and moved from the more developed Manhattan to the less developed Brooklyn. At first, she was reluctant. Later, because Brooklyn rents were cheaper and could have a small garden, the scene of a family of three lying on the lawn is still fresh in memory. I still remember that there was an episode where a few women went to LA, and returned to Manhattan after a blow. LA should be more developed than Manhattan. There is a book called "The Life and Death of a Big City in the United States" and I haven't read it. It’s a city that can’t even compare to Manhattan. It doesn’t even have Manhattan’s skyscraper, but compared to Eilis’s hometown, Ireland, which is backward and blocked and has few opportunities. It is still a city of dreams, the so-called people go to heights. At the beginning of the film, Eilis went out to church with a dull expression before dawn, and sat with the Miss Kelly who worked in her shop with another clerk. She couldn't help but yawned sleepily, but was caught by the mean-looking Miss Kelly. Slightly blame. In the store with the awful Miss Kelly, there is no minimum dignity. The snobby Miss Kelly treats customers very differently. It is exactly the same as what we encounter in life. The customers are the ones who are well-dressed, and those who are shabby. Being reprimanded like a beggar, as if he is the highest law in the world to buy his house. I remembered that my middle school classmate was from a rural area. My mother used to send her to school with a quilt on her back, and was despised when she ate in a restaurant. (She was originally sensitive and self-esteem, and she vowed to get ahead. She worked hard all the way to this day, and she was depressed because of stress. She also struggled with feelings, looking for marriage partners, the high court and civil servants are her ideals, that is, Power.) Isn't this happening often? There are not too many snobs who judge people based on their appearances and tend to follow their influence. And Eilis at the Miss Kelly store was bullied in this way, with a bullied face. In addition, she can’t support herself and has no future. Even the clothes are bought by my sister who is an accountant. The only way for a local young girl is to dress up and marry well like her friend Nancy. In the eyes, "And those boys with their hair-oil and their blazers." The second half of the sentence that was interrupted by a friend should be: "I don't like it too much anyway." She still has a sense of superiority and pursuit mentally, she disdains to succumb to this rule and deliberately dresses up to attract their attention. I'm leaving anyway. The outside world is wonderful, and I can come alive when I break out. Stay here I can't see now, I want to go out to find my future. Opportunities outside come quickly, and I must find my own existence. Once I leave, I don't turn my head back. I leave and never come back again. It's hard to make up your mind to change your life. If you blow out the candle, your wish is to leave. Just like when I heard the sound of the wheels of the trolley box rolling outside the window, I was about to move. Despite the embarrassment, embarrassment, awkwardness, and homesickness of being away from home at the beginning, he got better after meeting an Italian boyfriend. Compared to Ewa who came to New York from Poland and had to sell her body in "Immigration", she was lucky. I was impressed by the Christmas dinner held for the homeless elderly Irish. Eilis asked the priest: Why don't they go home?/Why don't they go home? The priest replied: If there's nothing there for a clever young girl such as yourself, there's gonna be even less for men like these. Some of them have been here fifty years, that have lost touch with everyone. These are the man who built the tunnels , the bridges, the highways. God alone knows what they live on now. / If young and talented girls like you have no room for development, people like them will have no chance of survival. Some people have been here for 50 years and can no longer contact their hometowns. It is these people who have built tunnels, bridges, and highways. No one knows what they live on now. An old man sang an Irish hometown folk song, and the sound of a bagpipe immediately came to mind. A group of homesick people had tears in their eyes, chatting with comfort. Just like our migrant workers, who contribute their youth and labor to the construction of the city, like sugarcane that has been drained of juice. When they are old and unable to work, only useless scum is spit out. Where is their way out? Back to the withered and dilapidated countryside? I thought that such a theme about immigration would be transformed into a vulgar love story, but the following plot surprises me. My sister suddenly fell ill and passed away and went home to go to the funeral to comfort her mother. She didn’t have much culture and asked her brother to write a letter, but her wise plumber boyfriend said: Will you marry me before you leave? Eilis asked: You don't trust me to come back? Why do you want to do it? Boyfriend said: Home is home./Home is home after all. Sure enough, the environment is the skin of the mind. Once a person changes his environment, his ideas and so on, everything becomes very different. As soon as I got back, my friend was about to get married and introduced a good man, Jim, to her. My mother was also very satisfied. Jim helped take care of the work. I met my parents and everything went well. When I received a letter from my husband, the drawer was not opened, as if I forgot to return it. With such an existence, it seems quite attractive to stay in the hometown and have family and friends to find a man with good conditions without leaving his hometown. The beach in my home town is empty, unlike Brooklyn's crowded. Jim said: We don't really know anything of the rest of the world. We must seem very backward to you now. (I have indeed heard the same thing: "You are often outside in big cities, do you think we are very small citizens?") Walking on the street, wearing a blue dress and white high heels, wearing sunglasses, and a delicate handbag, Fashionable hairstyle, not for a certain man, only for her own beauty, even passers-by who say hello say they like her dress. Yes, compared with the humble, small, weak and lackluster self before, now I am confident, calm and confident who have found a firm foothold, how can I not shine from the bottom of my heart. The accounting department where my sister had worked before asked her to help. My mother urged her to go quickly, but she calmly said: "What he said is not important, and I am not a clerk there. I am only going to help. /It doesn't matter what he said. I'm not an employee. I'd be doing them a favor." The words are all about the self-confidence of professional women and the pride and dignity of self-control of their own destiny. When I dated Jim, she noticed that Jim: no hair oil, and that's not a blazer, it's a sports jacket. (Fashion changes made by young people in small cities under the influence of girls who came back from Brooklyn.) Jim said: It made me think that my life must seem very easy to you. I run my father's bar, going to live in my parents' house. I know what that must look like from the outside. But it doesn't feel like that. I've never been anywhere. I have never even been to England. But I'd like to see London, and Paris and Rome . New York. It frightens me, the idea of dying without ever leaving Ireland./Perhaps in your opinion, I live very easily. Taking over my father’s bar and living in my parents’ house, I can imagine how outsiders think of all this. But it's not like that. I have never been anywhere. I haven't even been to England, I want to see London, Paris, Rome, and New York. The thought that I might not be able to get out of Ireland in my life makes me feel terrible. (The second generation of the rich in a small place is also aspiring young people with dreams.) The hostess said: I am glad. / (I am relieved), and then went to see her parents. The next logical step is that it's time for Jim to propose, and the hostess seems to have put down all guards and is ready to entrust it. At this moment, Miss Kelly appeared at the right time, and the hostess instantly frowned, as if all the memories of previous depression and lack of dignity had returned. As a result, the "terrible old bitch" began to chew on the gossip and couldn't bear it anymore, so I hurried to book tickets. Compared to living with dignity and happiness and confidence, a man with good conditions can give up instantly. The living environment is the most important! I'd forgotten what this town is like! /I forgot what this town is like. Hometown is beautiful when you are homesick, but when you get in touch with it up close, you find that it is the same as before, and the places that you can't stand still remain. When I graduated from undergraduate, many people returned to their hometowns. I knew this was not what I wanted. In August of that year, in the office of the principal of a middle school, surrounded by male teachers holding various certificates and qualifications waiting to sign a contract, they left without thinking. In the same August, after graduating from graduate school, I was going to work in other provinces, leaving aside the cruel words: I will never come back again. Mom was hurt by this sentence and did not send me away with tears in her eyes. When I went to the station to take a bus, my family saw me off, because I lowered my umbrella to cover the tears I was about to burst out. This city that doesn't speak much Mandarin can't be kept, and all the irritating things make people want to buy a ticket to flee and escape to the land of freedom. The high-speed railway station and the train station are welcoming and sending back and forth, N spring and autumn. Because what you want is not ease, but spirit, to live like a human being. This is still the case now. The affairs are still acquaintances. The hospital still does not queue up for calls. The mess is crowded. A small staff member seems to be overwhelmingly powerful. In the administrative service hall, there are still people who throw cigarettes to the staff to say good things, and they still look at their faces as if they are begging him. Not to mention the all-in-one Mandarin field in Sherlock. I read an article before and said that the average IQ difference between big cities and small cities, as a person who upholds environmental theory, I believe this. When I was a teenager, I read an article that has influenced me for quite a long time: "The Most Promising People Away From Home" In the UK, someone has counted that the most innovative and innovative people are growth. Outsiders, Americans who are known for their "innovation" can hardly find one who stays in the same place all their lives, so people say that the American nation is a "rootless" nation. To be innovative, a person must possess three basic qualities: knowledge, courage, and talent. Consciousness refers to eyesight, insight and sensitivity to things; Courage refers to courage and the spirit of daring to explore; talent refers to intelligence, cultural level, skills, and methods. The three are interdependent and indispensable. The formation of these three qualities depends largely on the amount of information a person has, and the amount of information has a lot to do with its working environment, living conditions, and mobility. If a person lives in a relatively unchanging environment for a long period of time, and there is no new information to stimulate him to think and compare, it is easy to think rigidly, and it is even harder to have the ability to predict the future. On the contrary, if a person lives in an infinitely vast world, is in a constantly changing environment, and is exposed to some new information, the law of "friction and heat generation" will work. He can open his mind, compare what he has observed in different environments, find out the rules, and predict the future and discover the "major trends" in society. Because society is always in a balanced movement, today in one place is often tomorrow in another place. When one goes to the Quartet, he will encounter many new problems to be solved. To adapt to the new environment, this stimulates his thirst for knowledge. Studying and learning will become a kind of vocation; working with knowledgeable people can cultivate his competitiveness, enterprising spirit, and competitive spirit. Cultivate his pursuit to gain the ability to surpass others; the input of new knowledge not only increases his knowledge reserve, but also causes his original knowledge to undergo a "chemical reaction", causing knowledge expansion and extensive social interactions. Open-minded and willing to accept new things; changes in work, occupation, and location have strengthened its adaptability to the environment, which is conducive to responding to the changing society. Staying away from his parents will make him lose his backing and develop the habit of independent living, which is conducive to cultivating decision-making ability and decisiveness. The greater freedom of choosing a career is conducive to using their strengths to play their own advantages. In modern society, the criterion for measuring talents is not only his knowledge stock. More important is his ability to innovate. If a person does not regard what he has as a source of innovation, he will be a waste of talent to the society. In the future era, we will not be able to survive under the protection of our parents, the umbilical cord of blood relationship will not be able to provide us with the nourishment of life, the status of the family cannot determine our status, and the lifebuoy cannot be the network of relationships anymore. We should no longer confine ourselves to the tenderness of the family, and should no longer be proud of or self-sorrowful about our origin. Our generation should shift the focus of love from the family to the society and break through all narrow concepts and constraints. Having lived in several cities, I feel that it is not enough. Migration is addictive. It's good to be a Bohemian who travels everywhere. Haha In short, self-realization is above all else. PS society sometimes tends to suppress young people, a group of "predecessors" occupy high positions, belittle them, and fool them. However, young people will wake up as long as they are given a little chance, and will no longer accept the set given by them, and use the resources around them to thrive, so they dare not give them opportunities, because the future belongs to young people after all.
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