Do you also need "Tully" when you are raising children after marriage?

Robin 2022-03-22 09:02:16

The name of the movie "Tully" is really not very good. What attracted me, in addition to the platform giving a rating higher than 8, the most important thing is to see a little introduction of the movie: a warm nanny healing film. Looking at the children and nanny in the poster, I subconsciously think that the child is born with difficulty or has physical defects, and then how does the nanny guide and accompany the child. I just needed this kind of positive energy to motivate myself at that time, so I watched it. Later, the more I looked, the more I realized that I was "cheated" by the profile.

Halfway through the plot, I found out that the nanny Tully was more of helping the heroine. In the play, Charlize Theron plays a toiling mother who takes care of her children, two teddy bears and a baby who seems to be crushing her when the nanny Tully (Mackenzie Davey) seems to overwhelm her. The arrival of Shi) brought earth-shaking changes to her tired body and mind. Tully only showed up after 10pm and left before 8am, known as the "Night Nanny". Tully ensured the heroine's sleep at night, cleaned the house while the heroine fell asleep, and prepared snacks for the children to take to school the next morning to share with other classmates. Not only that, Tully also kept telling the heroine that she came not only to help take care of the baby, but also to take care of the heroine's physical and mental health. She chatted with the heroine and encouraged the heroine to think more about herself. In the first half of watching the movie, I always felt that the arrival of "Tully" had no purpose, because she always took the initiative to mention some private topics, which was quite out of bounds. But it is undeniable that the arrival of Tully has gradually made the heroine more energetic, and the whole person has become much more cheerful. Is that what the story is about? Wrong, the plot reversed later.

One morning, the heroine had a car accident. The doctor told the heroine that her husband and wife were seriously lacking in sleep, and then the bewildered husband began to tell the nurse his wife's personal information for record. When the husband mentioned his wife's former name "Tully", the heroine's husband and I both realized at the same time that Tully was not someone else, but a woman from the heroine's schizophrenia - she was once young, once in shape She is beautiful, energetic and thoughtful. It turned out that everything that "Tully" did at night was done by the heroine at night (when I rewatched it, I did find that the movie actually made a lot of subtle foreshadowing), and her husband knew nothing about it before that.

It turns out that this is not a healing system at all, it is more like a "marriage and fertility" weeding drama. The young heroine was once a beautiful woman with many suitors and a happy and carefree life. The husband who was finally chosen was neither a romantic person nor a rich person, but a "real" person. Then, the married man is responsible for going out early every day to earn money to support the family, and after returning home, he teases the children, and then he is exhausted and paralyzed, stays in the bedroom, plays games, and then goes to sleep. He will also occasionally care about his wife's emotions: "Are you okay?", and then take his wife's verbal "okay" seriously. He is happy for his wife when he sees his wife energized by the arrival of the "night-sitter", although he never realizes that he has never seen the nanny - because the "nanny" arrives at the time of his arrival. Time to play games and sleep in the bedroom.

After watching this play, I feel that the men in the world are really "black", regardless of nationality. Of course, this is an absolute point. Now more and more men are also taking the initiative to take up the task of raising children, but in terms of proportion, the participation of men is still too low. The most common reason is "I can't provide milk again. ""You are the mother of a child" "The child only needs you." And many women actually acquiesce to this reason. Just like when the heroine's husband apologized to the heroine at the end, the heroine said: "No need to apologize, you didn't do anything." In fact, her husband's fault was not what he did, but what he did not do. Fortunately, the male protagonist also recognized his own problems and spent more time with his children in the end, giving his wife more time to rest. But is this really the case in reality? I think maybe it's more just to comfort the women watching the movie.

In other words, how many men have the patience to watch this film, reflect on themselves after watching this film, and finally put in practical actions to make changes?

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Tully quotes

  • Drew: Can we keep her?

    Marlo: She's not a dog.

  • Drew: I love us.

    Marlo: I love us, too.