I used to hate couples or couples who showed affection, and I still do now. I always believed that repeatedly and deliberately showing affection in front of others would definitely cover up some issues that seem unimportant but actually care about each other, and eventually cause trouble. out of control.
This film perfectly illustrates the above theory.
The film tells the story of a perfect and happy marriage in the eyes of others. In the end, it collapsed overnight because of her husband's derailment. What followed was the mutual attacks, accusations and even fights between the two after seeing the broken marriage. I'm not at all surprised that people have conflicts even with themselves, let alone with others.
The wife has been educated to be a good person, and she tried her best to hide her true self. As a result, she can't communicate with others about her true self, and this falsehood is so easy to be seen through. Her husband can't stand her falsehood, and he is busy with such a strong sense of daily ritual.
The husband's problem is self-righteousness, ignoring his wife's respect as a person, realizing his self-worth, only gaining in love, but never giving, and immersed in the dissatisfaction that his self-worth has not been realized. Just annoyed rather than grateful for his wife's sacrifice. He enjoys being taken care of, but takes care of his wife when he doesn't understand. When he finally divorced and ran to his lover, he had friction with his lover on the details because he couldn't take care of himself. Finally, he suffered a blow when his plan to go abroad to settle down with his lover was shattered.
It leads to a very heavy topic, how should people in marriage get along and maintain their relationship.
I can only talk about a few negatives: First of all, if one party reduces the effort and responsibility in the relationship, then things start to develop in a bad direction, and he will live like a fish in the shadow of the other person. Under the doting without knowing it, there will be a lot of free time to call for freedom, but he doesn't realize who has packed his luggage for him and let him eat three meals a day. So no matter how much you like someone, you should make him give something.
Secondly, there is only one correct starting point for being good to a person, that is, starting from the user experience of the other person. I have seen too many false good intentions, thinking about the other person and the family: showing affection is just to show that you are a good man; buy Gifts are just to stop each other’s mouths, and they don’t suffer when quarreling; travel is just to meet their own needs for play; family car purchases are just to facilitate their own travel, etc. There are countless, these hide the real purpose for your own good, but It can be deceived for a while, but the person concerned will know that something is wrong sooner or later.
Furthermore: people always have countless prejudices, for example, they give more in their relationship, their own mistakes are excusable, and the other party’s mistakes are a matter of time or character. If you don’t realize your own prejudices and have a lot of wrong thoughts and thoughts that are not conducive to intimacy, then your relationship will be in jeopardy and it will be over sooner or later.
I can't think of what to write next, my head hurts thinking about something emotionally because I'm in love with a sensitive, vulnerable, insecure guy who is surrounded by enemies who speak ill of me, I originally wanted to fight fiercely, but I quickly realized that my goal was to get him, not to be impatient, so I calmed down and fought for it patiently. I can neither win quickly nor fail. The road is bumpy and the future is bright. All in all, I like him and wish him well.
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