Stephen talked to Camille for the first time, and Camille told her distress: arguing with her agent over boring trivial matters, swearing bad words, and hurting each other, it was really hard. When she wanted to give up, the agent forced her to persevere and took her to where she is now. She is very grateful to the agent. Stephen understands the duality of this kind of intimacy: she has done so much for you, and you are bound and complained; what you accepted and appreciated before, you can't bear now.
That's what Stephen thinks about intimacy. So he can understand his behavior: he couldn't help but watch Camille's recording, saying that he liked to watch her, listen to her, and the most intimate moment was the hug when they crossed the road together to hide from the car. He didn't want to go any further.
It's unfortunate that Camille would be drawn to him and open up to him. Otherwise, he will be a secret lover silently, secretly feeling the throbbing in his own world, which is much easier than now: in order to reject Camille, he belittled his relationship with Maxim, exaggerated his own shortcomings, denied his love for Camille. Mill's feelings. Too cruel to Camille and himself.
There is no real barrier between it and Camille. The obstacle came from himself, his perception of intimacy: at first, he had a good impression of each other, and lived together with a beautiful imagination of each other, but time will tear off the veil of imagination. Ten years from now, Camille may tell others about his unbearableness as he tells him about his conflict with his agent, or the conflict between the two of them, like a teacher and a couple, or the first time in a coffee shop, the pair next to him. Men and women are so quarrelsome.
This is the add-on to intimacy. The more perfect Camille is in his eyes, the more he understands his own shortcomings, the more he wants to avoid this add-on. And what he didn't say, he didn't want to face Camille behind the veil.
But intimacy also includes tolerance, forgiveness and support. This is a stronger connection. If intimacy is rejected, there will be no A side and B side. He is not a wood, he will regret it, he will be sad. But it is still evasion that prevails.
People who are closed and repressed tend to have deeper feelings. The last painful moment of the teacher is that he brings relief to the teacher. He understands the people he loves better, and the pessimistic he is ready to face this final outcome.
Camille is a different person from him. She has to experience rather than suppress it. Whether the ending is good or not will be told until the ending, so she will reveal her feelings to Stephen again and again. The last time, after being rejected or even hurt, with despair and unwillingness, he put on heavy makeup and let himself lose his temper in the coffee shop. That scene was really fascinating.
Now, people's moral values are becoming more and more simplified, and the emotional transformation of a love relationship can be characterized by the word "scum". In the movie, Maxim is "scumbag". He fell in love with Camille, so he separated from his wife and lived with Camille. Stephen was also "scumbag", he fell in love with his friend's girlfriend, went to flirt first, picked it up, and then retreated, Camille was even more "scumbag", first he was a mistress, destroying other people's families, and then cheating on other people's friends.
But not so.
Maxim left his wife because they no longer had a relationship as husband and wife. He knew that Camille didn't beat Stephen when he liked Stephen, but instead created opportunities for the two of them. He beat Stephen because Stephen brought pain to Camille.
Stephen fell in love with Camille, and then returned to his own world, closing the door and never opening it again. Just as he loves music but doesn't play it himself, that's how he loves Camille.
Camille, he never deceived Maxim, nor did he deceive himself, facing Stephen calmly: "I want you, I don't have the habit of throwing my arms around, but I have to tell you, I said it." Such a woman , I really admire.
Finally, when Camille got into Maxim's car and left, he turned his head and glanced at Stephen, who was sitting alone in the coffee shop. Stephen stayed in his world, watching her leave him and enduring his loneliness. Camille's world is moving forward, why isn't she alone? Knowing how to accept the imperfect Maxime and guarding Camille like that, isn't he lonely? It's all love but can't, maybe, what's not is love.
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