【It’s okay, it’s just growing pains】 (ep.7~8)
During the stage of growth and development of children, sometimes the limbs will experience an unexplained pain called "growing pains". It is said that when you are growing, the muscles can't keep up with the speed of the bones stretching, and the pain is caused by pulling. Growing pains are often painful to cry when resting at night, but they seem to be fine during the day. Some people only have one or two attacks, and a few will recur until they get older and disappear naturally. Therefore, it is It is also regarded as a benign temporary phenomenon.
The growing pains that have been bothering Wen Gangtai repeatedly are reflected in his psychological state, the memories of being ignored by his mother when he was a child, the memories of feeling wronged because of his brother, and the memory of thinking that he exists only to take care of his brother... From childhood to The invisible pressure accumulated so much gradually made him erase his true emotions and put on an expression mask like a joker. He believes that as long as he is suppressed and forbearing, there is no problem, and as long as he sacrifices himself, everyone can be happy.
However, there is also a self-defense mechanism in our subconscious that protects ourselves from real harm. When the depths of your memory are touched, the backfill is the hand of your mother looking back and beckoning you to hide from the rain. The taste of fried noodles is actually the taste of mother's love. Because those memories of being unloved actually hide love, and those loves are buried in the mother's lie to fill the child with a smile and say not to be hungry, and in the mother's loving and reluctant embrace late at night.
In fact, you are just a child, a child whose soul did not grow with the body.
Can memory deceive you? In fact, it's your brain's selective amnesia because of the grievances in your heart, because blaming others has always been the easiest anesthetic, and self-sacrifice has become a high-sounding excuse. So when your body grows, you are like a wronged child, choosing to hide in awkward and despicable spaces between the walls you built. Only at the moment when the truth of the memories rushes to vent and release, can you grow from a child to a real adult, can you untie the shackles you have put on yourself, and can get rid of the lingering inner demons.
Don't people grow up slowly in the process of willfulness, misunderstanding, contradiction, understanding... and then reconciling with themselves?
Just like the zombie child who held his mother's wreckage for the first time but felt his mother's warmth for the first time, Wen Gang was too close to his brother's back and sobbed: "Brother, I miss my mother..."
It doesn't matter, it's just a growing pain, and painful transformation is an opportunity for growth. Just like a caterpillar, only after the metamorphosis of the pupa and the butterfly will it get the freedom to flutter and dance.
In "The Boy Who Grow Up Eating Nightmares", the boy who traded his soul and could not get happiness after deleting bad memories didn't understand. The witch said to him:
"Painful memories, deeply distressed memories, hurting others and being hurt, abandoned memories, only those who bury these memories deep in their hearts and live can become stronger, more enthusiastic, and more Resilience. Only those people can find happiness, so don't forget, don't forget, but choose to overcome the past, and if you can't overcome it, you're just a child with a young soul."
In Wen Gangtai's heart, there is also a "Spring Dog" who has been restrained for too long and forgot how to free himself from the collar, whether it is because of a sense of security and has lost the courage to seek freedom, or because of "Stockholm Syndrome". ”, which led to a self-sacrificing sentiment. When he dazzled and envied Gao Wenying’s reborn smile after cutting off his long hair, the iron wall in his heart was also rapidly disintegrating, until the collar fell off. At that moment, the joy in his heart made him run involuntarily.
At that moment, he smiled like a child, but he was the most free and happy in his life.
[The injury of a good child is more serious]
No one is born to protect someone. Every child is unique and needs the same amount of love. However, often parents always worry about other children who don't care and forget that the injury of a good child is even worse. Mainly because they are sensible because they are observant because they feel that it is their responsibility to be obedient Even if they feel lonely sometimes, they will find ways to have fun Even if they often feel that their parents are biased, they will always convince themselves that they are not that kind of mother who loves me because she fights. I don't have that much pain, it's not that my mother loves me, but she sometimes forgets... I also have pain, I'm used to it when I'm in pain, and I cry too, but the tears flow down my throat until I realize it Those wounds of the past have become heavy shackles, the ability to laugh, and the hope of pursuing happiness. Day after day, year after year, I become an adult who is afraid of love and forgets the ability to love. It's just my dear child. You are really great, and you work really hard, but you forgot... How to give yourself a loving hug
#wengangtai's childhood was too heavy#The reason why Wen Gangtai cares about Gao Wenying subconsciously is because she is the first person to see his true desire
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【Zombie Kids】Full Version and Easter Eggs
In a small village, a little boy was born. His skin was white and tender, and his eyes were piercing. As he grew older, his mother slowly discovered that this child, emotionless, was like a zombie with a huge appetite. So, the mother hid the child in the basement to avoid the prying eyes of the neighbors. Every night she would steal livestock from other neighbors, sneak feed to the little boy, and raise him. Chickens are stolen some days, pigs are stolen some days. Years later, a plague broke out in the village, which killed all the livestock and many people. Those who were lucky enough to survive left the village one after another. The mother could not bear to leave the child alone, so she had to cut off a foot and an arm and feed it to the crying child. After feeding the baby, the mother with only the torso left, hugged the baby one last time, and collapsed. The child hugged the mother who had only the torso left, and spoke for the first time: "Mom...it's so...warm..." Fairy Tale "Zombie Child" Kim Soo Hyun Reading Version & Easter Egg https://www.weibo.com /tv/v/J8VMcqiHh?fid=1034:4521286706331706
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