01 What is everyone talking about living out of yourself?
Over the years, various self-media articles, brand advertisements, and celebrity interviews... all tell us to live our self. For example, the old-fashioned star Faye Wong and the new star Zhou Dongyu, who are regarded as goddesses, seem to be the representatives of the self-spirit that people admire for their free and easy personalities. But after seeing so many truths, it seems that it is still very difficult to live out oneself~
It's very cool to watch people do whatever they want, just say what you want to say and do what you want! But if we do this, it will only make our interpersonal relationships worse, the financial situation more embarrassing, and the mood more depressed. Do you also feel that you don’t like the current self very much? You really want to be beautiful, smart, and articulate. , Of course, it is also very painful to force yourself to be a good person... What should I do? The more tangled you are, the more twisted you are, the more you hate yourself. Life should not be in this state of always not knowing how to be good.
And the movie "Princess Diaries" starring Anne Hathaway tells us how adolescent girls bravely break through their inferiority complex and live a real princess!
02 How did Mia go from an inferior girl to a real princess?
Mia was originally an ordinary girl, a little transparent in the class, she was nervous to vomit when she gave a speech, and only dared to look at the boy she liked from a distance... until one day she was told that she was a princess. , the Queen's grandmother wants her to inherit the throne. Princess, every girl's dream! But when this honor and luck were really put in front of her, Mia, who had low self-esteem, was cowardly. She felt that she was not worthy of this status, and it was even more difficult for her to be a big responsibility, even though she actually wanted to be a shining princess in her heart.
During the time when grandma deliberately trained her, Mia's secret as a princess was unfortunately leaked, and then it became known all over the city. In an instant, the girls who had laughed at her began to call themselves Mia's best friend, and the boys who Mia had a crush on suddenly said they liked her and set up scandals for hype. Look, those who are like stars holding the moon, even if they are princesses, others are only looking after this title, and what they value is only the value that can be used in her.
So don't envy those who look glamorous, and don't feel inferior for being mediocre and not popular enough. All living beings, most of them are equal.
On the day of the coronation party, Mia read the letter her father wrote to her, in which she wrote: "The brave are not fearless, but they can judge that some things are more important than fear. " The father's words woke up Mia who wants to escape and give up. She mustered up the courage to accept that she was the princess of Genovia, and promised to take on the responsibility of the princess in front of everyone - "If I can think about the other 7 billion people, instead of myself, my life may be would make more sense", saying this begins to signify Mia's mature expression of her transition from self-centeredness to de-egoism.
03 Summary: To live out the ego is to accept the ego and embrace the superego
Think about why people feel inferior and unhappy? Just like Mia, we always feel that compared with others, we are not beautiful enough, tall enough, not good enough, not good enough in grades, afraid of being laughed at when we say the wrong thing in public... It's always me, me, me, too much When you focus on yourself, your mind will be bound and your mind will inevitably be narrow. And when you look around the world and find that so many people are just as ordinary as you but still enjoying themselves, and that so many people are still struggling to get enough food and clothing, you will feel that your little regrets and grievances are not counted. what.
04Summary: Know what it is, how, then what should we do to live out ourselves?
- The first step is to objectively recognize and accept myself, to accept my present ordinary reality.
- The second step, since it is to live out oneself, of course, to live out!
This brings me to Freud's concepts of id, ego and superego. If the id is summed up as "I want", then the ego is "I can" and the superego is "I should". The "superego" is characterized by the pursuit of perfection—a mental collection of which nature is satisfied, reality allows, and which is highly praised by the ego.
So, there is no contradiction between sticking to yourself and constantly changing yourself for good. Know who you are? Who do you want to be? Be brave and confident to face the challenge! I think those who live in the present and embrace the future are the ones who live out their ego!
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