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One day, I accidentally saw the promotional film of the British drama "Normal People". In fact, youth movies are not the taste of a middle-aged woman like me, but the male protagonist in the film has a stable temperament, which is the type I like. I watched a drama about youth and love and relax." I watched it with the mood of "relaxing my brain", and I was hooked after watching it... I even made up my mind that when my girl is a puberty, I must recommend this drama to her as an educational theme (I Seriously), but think about it more than ten years later, I can’t guarantee that the three views of society have changed drastically at that time, and there is no need for the old mother’s backward concept of sex, so think about it, it is still with people living in 2020. Come share.
|| Love in "Ordinary People"
The classmates Marianne (the female lead) and Connell (the male lead), who are about to graduate from high school, are like two parallel lines that do not intersect with each other. ". Eyes meet with soft music, Marianne said, I like you.
"It would be awkward at school if there was anything between us," Connell said.
Connell, who likes a girl, but because she is too maverick, is afraid of being teased, carefully denying their relationship to friends. Marianne cooperates with him in a secret relationship, but finally collapses after Connell invites another female partner to the dance. And he finally found that he cared so much about the opinions of the group of friends around him (even if he didn't agree that they always told some dirty jokes and flirted with girls without boundaries), when in fact, no one cared about his real feelings outside the jokes.
Under the tall and handsome shell, Connell is inferior, maintains the noisy friendship around him, and is his lifesaver to get rid of his inferiority. The proposition that growth needs to face, of course, is not just fragile vanity. Marianne, a wealthy girl who grew up in a violent and sick home, is also vulnerable and sensitive. She has low self-esteem, feels that she is flat-chested and not beautiful enough, and asks Connell about her sexual experience with the heartthrob girl.
Marianne and Connell, who are so similar inwardly, meet and separate because of their own unfulfilled self, with growing pains. After leaving the town to study at Trinity College, their roles were reversed. Connell's incompatibility in an unfamiliar big city. At literary conferences, everyone talked (even if they hadn't even read the original, Connell said), but Connell was never good at expressing his views; coming from a poor family, he always wore a pair of shabby sports Shoes, which look out of place on a college campus where class is evident.
And Marianne appeared in front of his eyes again, she was stylishly dressed, surrounded by a group of friends, "they are not like us". What Marianne once said to him became his lines.
His background made him sensitive and inferior. In his relationship with Marianne, he couldn't hide, and he didn't need to hide. With her, he could be his true self, but because it was too real, he couldn't let go of his self-esteem and unavoidable inferiority, which eventually made him push him again. open her. Then Connell, who experienced the suicide of a friend, finally broke out in depression amid the low self-esteem he had hidden for years.
The actor portrayed Connell, who was suffering from depression, to the fullest. His tall body was lying on the bed, with empty eyes with heavy dark circles, responding perfunctorily to the surroundings. Marianne accompanied him through the darkest days. They were on a video call across the ocean. Marianne encouraged him to fall asleep through the screen. He put the computer on the bedside, and she put down the book and looked at his sleeping face.
When they meet again in small town, Marianne experiences her brother's worst violence ever, inadvertently breaking her nose. Connell came to pick her up, angrily pushing her brother against the wall as a warning. "I love you, and no one can hurt you again." In the original book, for Marianne, this was Connell's redemption.
The ending is open. But at the end of the story on the screen, Connell and Marianne have both achieved their own breakthroughs and growth, no meaningless commitments, only a sure love for each other. And love needs to be based on the inner growth.
|| Sex in "Ordinary People"
At the same time, express my high appreciation for the sex scenes in "Ordinary People". Only Connell and Marianne's sexuality is portrayed in the play, and other relationships are either brushed off or reflected through narration. The actor once stated in an interview that the sex scenes in the show were "shot in a completely safe manner" with professional guidance present. This kind of shooting based on the premise of respecting the actors and actresses is already worthy of appreciation.
On the other hand, the sex scenes of Connell and Marianne are not only shot from the perspective of male aesthetics. Under the completely equal lens, female audiences can also see Connell's good figure, as well as Connell's slightly open mouth and squirting. Hot breath. This kind of characterization can see two youthful hearts, the same equality and passion.
And Marianne, who was unable to resolve the violence of her native family, after leaving Connell, she began to pursue the pleasure of sadomasochism, but she did not have love to devote herself to it. After the end, she fell into endless pain and emptiness. "When we were together, I didn't see your need for that," Connell said. Marianne told him they didn't need that in their relationship, where she could feel "I can make you feel." satisfy".
Subconsciously, Marianne doesn't think she deserves love. She once told Connell that I can do anything as long as you like it. Even after her best friend offered a 3/P, she and Connell declined, she would still confirm to him: "If you want that, I can."
After being hurt again and again, Marianne is still struggling to find herself, "isolated in the crowd". When she came out of the strong light of photographer P friend, she untied the straps and said that she was tired, and even though it was difficult, she was still trying to get out of the restraint of herself. Marianne's sexual journey is actually a portrayal of her journey with herself.
|| Sex Education in "Ordinary People"
I have to say that the attitude of the male protagonist's mother and the male protagonist when discussing sex and love is simply a model of sex education. The young single mother smiled when she bumped into Marianne and her son downstairs and said she didn't want to gossip about her son's sex life.
However, after learning that Connell had invited other girls to the dance instead of Marianne, she would get out of the car angrily and ask her son if he had ever greeted Marianne at school and what his son was afraid of. Therefore, she would tell her son directly, "Do you know how I think of you? You are useless, you are really ashamed of me." Although there are not many scenes, her love and blame for her son are always timely.
If every mother had such a positive view, there would probably be fewer men and women in this world who hurt others without knowing it.
Normal People, there is a shadow that none of us can get around.
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