The Strange Life of Timothy is a heartwarming film about Jim and Cindy, a very loving couple who have always wanted a child but never had one, and Jim said we could adopt one Dog, Cindy said I don't want a dog. They often cry in pain and hug for comfort.
One day, they wrote down their dreams and expectations for their children on paper and buried them in the backyard. There was a heavy rain that night, and a muddy, cute little boy with green leaves growing on his legs "Timothy" really came to them like an angel.
In the process of getting along with their children, parents learn how to love, and parenting is also parenting.
Eventually, leaves fell off Timothy's ankles, and he told his parents, "When the other kids grow up and move away. And I, lose my leaves, I'm going too." So, when the last leaf Falling, Timothy disappeared into the world.
Below I will share with you a few inspirations and reflections that I have seen after watching this film:
1. We all grow by making mistakes
Mom and Dad are parents for the first time, and we are also children for the first time. We are constantly learning and becoming new roles throughout our lives.
Parents always have high hopes for their children, not only wanting them to grow up happily, but also wanting them to be good people.
The same is true of Timothy's mother, hoping that Timothy will also become an excellent child. She said, I will not allow Timothy to be inferior to the other three children. The children of my sister's family can play and sing, and she said that Timothy is also Knowing how to play, Timothy didn't have stage fright. He tapped his musical instruments at will on the stage, leading his parents to get excited together on stage.
Dad asked Timothy to learn to play football. The coach said at the time that it was not suitable, but because it was a regret in his father's heart, he insisted on letting Timothy go. Timothy poured tea and water for the players there, even if In this way, he is also very happy every day. Timothy has always been a substitute player. Later, he had to play. The coach asked him to stay still so as not to cause chaos for the team. However, when the ball reached Timothy's feet, he still kicked it out, instantly controlling the audience and welcoming him. There was cheers from everyone, but he kicked an own goal and threw the ball into the opponent's goal, and he was very disappointed afterwards.
Jim and Cindy want to be right, successful parents, and they study hard, but sometimes they don't know how to be right, and they still make mistakes.
But the most valuable thing about Jim and Timothy is that they finally understand that they have been putting their unfulfilled wishes on their children.
Cindy's sister always praised her child's good music learning in front of herself, so Cindy also said that Timothy was very talented in music. When Jim was young, he had a estrangement with his father because he didn't play football well, so he wanted to train Timothy to be a young football player.
To respect the uniqueness of the child, rather than placing their unfulfilled wishes on the child. There are no perfect parents and no perfect children. We all constantly reflect on our mistakes and learn to grow.
Just like the book "Positive Discipline" says, don't be afraid to make mistakes, we have to grow in our mistakes.
2. Good parents will encourage their children to be themselves and respect their uniqueness
Jim and Cindy had a hard time accepting the leaves on Timothy's lap at first, saying that our kids weren't perfect, but they quickly accepted that reality. It's just that they were a little worried about whether others would accept it, so they chose to hide it and said, "We don't want anyone to make fun of you." They put stockings on Timothy to cover the leaves.
They encourage Timothy to be himself and respect Timothy for being different.
Although Timothy can't play a musical instrument or football, he is good at drawing and helped his parents create the "Leaf Pencil". When their "Leaf Pencil" was plagiarized, Timothy did not hesitate to stand. He got up, showed the leaves on his legs to everyone, and told everyone that this was the source of inspiration for his father, and Timothy learned to take responsibility.
This reminds me of the story of Zheng Yuanjie, the famous fairy tale king, who was expelled from his teacher when he was in the fourth grade of elementary school.
because of an essay. The teacher came up with a composition topic at that time, called "the early bird catches the worm". As a result, Zheng Yuanjie changed it to "The early bug is eaten by the bird". If the early worm is eaten by the bird, it is better to sleep in to avoid the risk.
If you meet a teacher who knows talents with discerning eyes, this should be rated as an excellent composition, but the teacher thinks that Zheng Yuanjie has tampered with the title without authorization and wrote the opposite content. She thinks this is deliberately against her, so she asks Zheng Yuanjie to rewrite it. .
Zheng Yuanjie chose not to write, and debated with her, but in the end the teacher couldn't say anything to him. The teacher asked Zheng Yuanjie to go to the podium and read "Zheng Yuanjie is the most unpromising person in our class" to the class a thousand times. As a result, Zheng Yuanjie recited it over a hundred times and felt that it was necessary to maintain his dignity.
At that time, they had a special product called pull gun. Zheng Yuanjie put his hands under the lectern, then bundled ten cannons together, and finally set fire to detonate the lectern. The teacher said one sentence: "Zheng Yuanjie, get out of here!" As a result, Zheng Yuanjie "get out" with her head held high. She was expelled from the school and never went to school.
Zheng Yuanjie, who was expelled from school in the fourth grade of primary school because of his unconventional composition, is fortunate to have a good father who is open-minded and understands him, and encourages him to learn by himself, so that he can learn knowledge even if he does not go to school. If it wasn't for his father who saved him, there might be one less fairy tale king in the world. From this, we can see the importance of parenting style to children.
Dad not only gave him physical life, but also shaped his spiritual and cultural core. Therefore, Zheng Yuanjie, who became famous, is very grateful to his father Zheng Hongsheng.
Good parents respect the uniqueness of their children and encourage them to be themselves.
3. I know I have to leave, but I will try my best to live every day
As the days go by, the relationship between Timothy and his parents is getting deeper and deeper. Together they have experienced setbacks, laughter, their first heartbeat, and the death of their loved ones.
Uncle Bob is very humorous. When Uncle Bob was about to pass away, Timothy talked with him a lot. Uncle Bob left with laughter. Timothy's leaf fell off, and he knew that his leaf was over. It will also leave when the time comes, but it is not depressed, and still spends every day with strength, enjoying every ray of sunshine in life with open arms.
On the other hand, isn't that the case with our own lives? Human life is a process from birth to death.
The last of Timothy's leaves fell off, and on a stormy, thunderous night, Timothy hugged the Greens and disappeared.
Timothy taught parents to love and be loved and left.
This is a tearful "fairy tale", each falling leaf represents the wish written by "Mom and Dad" at that time: love and be loved, learn to be honest, family responsibility, be grateful for life, feel setbacks, pass away... …
In Timothy's fast-forward life, he's experienced, felt, and grown, and we're still going on outside of the movie. I believe everyone will bring some thoughts after watching the movie.
Long Yingtai said in the article "Watching Off": "The so-called father, daughter, mother and son just means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back in this life and this world."
I think the best love for parents is to be ready to welcome and watch their children, not to control those who interfere with their children. Don't kidnap a child's life in the name of love.
At the beginning of the film, Jim and Cindy are in the U.S. child adoption department, and the staff asks them, "What experience or experience prepared you?"
They wrote "Timothy", but in real life, not every parent will meet Timothy, let's try and make mistakes first, but luckily we still have movies and books. Books and movies can be used to learn how to educate children, how to be better parents and be ourselves.
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