After watching the whole show, I feel that this is a bit like an experiment about human nature and desire, and there is no clear explanation for the final result of the experiment. To demonstrate whether these participants could develop a genuine intimacy with others, an interview survey should be conducted again some time after the recording. Of course, this is a show after all, and there should still be some acting elements. Avoiding the truth and falsehood of the show, I want to talk about my thoughts on the show from a psychological point of view.
First of all, the rules set by this show, abstinence. Abstinence brings money. Freud's psychoanalytic theory believes that all individual and social behaviors of human beings are rooted in a certain desire or motivation deep in the soul, especially sexual impulses. Sex is a human instinct. And in the show you have to suppress your sexual instincts to satisfy your other desire, to get money. In essence, this is depriving people of an instinct, a right. This would be a bit unethical. In history, psychologists have also done many "deprivation" experiments, such as sleep deprivation and sensory deprivation. And these experiments are absolutely not allowed today, because it is against moral ethics.
Let's talk about the ultimate goal of the show: to help them build a longer relationship, or a true intimacy, and personal growth. Intimacy, in a broad sense, can be counted as intimate relationships with family, friends, teachers, etc. In a narrow sense, it refers to the relationship between husband and wife. This refers to intimacy in the narrow sense. In the show, the first step is to build trust. This is not only the first step in an intimate relationship, but I think the first step in getting along with people is building trust. Trust is the key and foundation. Trust can bring a sense of security between you. Here I would like to first popularize the attachment types of people. There are four types of attachment types. This attachment type will be reflected in the relationship you develop with others. This can be changed through our acquired learning.
The secure type is the type that is most beneficial to a relationship. They are very secure in themselves, and they will also bring a sense of security to others. Saren in the show is a typical fear type, afraid of being abandoned again, distrustful, unable to let go of his guard, so he couldn't go further with Rhonda at the beginning. But it's a show after all, we can't see how they build intimacy step by step in all the process. But another focus on the show is personal growth. There are many seminars, such as Brave Mind, that ask to write down what you are afraid of, and finally puncture it with bamboo. This is to let everyone face their past, face the depths of their hearts, accept their imperfections, and finally have the courage to accept them, move on, and grow. In the end, let the other person help you write down the labels you were put on by others, then wash them off, forget these so-called labels, don't be bound by these labels, be yourself, reconcile with yourself, and love yourself.
In general, aside from the effect of the show, when I saw those burly male participants face to face, showing each other another self, their own past, they wept. I feel that the connection between people is actually very close and there is a very powerful force. Everyone needs to connect with people. Need to get out there, everyone needs to socialize. Especially in today's society with advanced technology and developed networks, what we need more is a face-to-face social interaction.
(Above only represents personal opinions and suggestions are welcome?)
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