I have seen orthodox Jewish men dressed like this on the streets of New York before, and I was curious about why they were dressed like this, but didn't get into it. Through this drama, I also learned about this mysterious community for me. Another Jewish girl in Berlin summed up the characteristics of this community very well: Men can only study the scriptures, and women are all reproductive machines. Men and women of Hasidic Judaism study separately. Men have to study the scriptures for a lifetime and cannot work. The average family has 8 children. Husbands and wives meet no more than five times before marriage. Both men and women must get married before the age of 25. Responsible for making money to support the family. But even with women in economic power, this is still a male-dominated community, as you can see in some of the details. After marriage, the husband and wife live in the man's house, and the sex life is for reproduction, to regenerate millions of people who were sacrificed in the concentration camp; at the same time, women are also required to please the man and make him feel like a king, but the wife cannot be a queen; When menstruation comes, it is not clean, and you cannot share the bed with your husband; if the hostess wants to go home after marriage, she will not be allowed by her mother-in-law, and if she wants to learn the piano, her husband will not approve; a woman cannot sing or show her forearm, otherwise she will considered to be seducing men.
The heroine had almost no status in the family and the community before she fled. Her task was to do housework and have children, and Hasidic Judaism did not allow members to access the Internet. The heroine and her husband were extremely lacking in sexual knowledge, so sex life was only for her. Pain, but everyone only cares if she can get pregnant. At the same time, she is almost isolated and helpless in the community. Her parents are not there, and she can no longer meet her grandmother who raised her after marriage. Her mother-in-law and aunt-in-law only care about whether she has a marriage with her husband and whether she can get pregnant smoothly. Her husband is a proper mother's treasure. After successfully "raping" the heroine, she filed a divorce with her under the pressure of her mother. But such a desperate situation, to a certain extent, is a kind of luck for her. When there is nothing, people will have the courage to change their fate. Anyway, there is nothing to lose, and taking a risk may gain something. On this adventure, she has gained friends, a gentle sex partner, a mother's love, and the opportunity to pursue her dreams.
However, her husband’s cousin who came from the community to persuade her to go back told her that you can’t live without us, that your husband is supporting you (actually your mother-in-law), the community is helping you, and you cannot live alone in Berlin , you have no formal education and you are pregnant with children and you cannot support yourself. However, what made her a person who couldn't find a decent job was the community that didn't let her receive a formal education. She felt isolated and wanted to escape, and she only cared about whether she could have children, not her psychological feelings. community members.
At the end, I was particularly worried that the heroine was moved by her husband, but when she said its too late, she thought of what her mother said, thanking her for her freedom all the time. How can people who have tasted freedom take the initiative to return to the shackles? In fact, this kind of life is not only oppressive to women, but the husband of the heroine is also a victim of oppression. This story is not only the escape of the heroine, but also the growth of the heroine's husband. In the process of looking for a female lead, he disconnected from the Internet, learned what sex is, sex is more than fucking, saw a TV show, talked to women other than Hasidic, and for the first time really cared about the female lead , and finally cut off the small pigtails that cannot be reduced in the teachings - having tasted the taste of freedom, he also realized that the "protection" of the community is also a kind of oppression.
But in such a society, men are rewarded for being oppressed, they have a higher social status in the community, they have inheritance rights, and they have wives assigned by the community. The husband's cousin seemed to be someone who had fled and returned. He has his own job, not a full-time study of the Bible, he has a smartphone, and is regarded as someone who can be depended on in the family, and obviously has rich experience in communicating with people outside the community, which are all normal community members. Experiences that are not allowed. On the way to find the heroine, the husband asked him what if she didn't want to come back, and he said that they would always come back. But this sentence is only for men who have vested interests in the community. They who have exhausted the gender dividend in the community may not adapt well when they walk out of the society, but for women who can only reap the oppression in the community, walking out of the community will be the opposite. It will only make them taste more benefits. Of course, this is only possible if you are independent in mind first, don't be brainwashed by the saying that "the community is to protect you", and believe that you can live out of the community. And when they do, they find that living out of the community is much happier than living under the "protection" of the community.
It is also worth mentioning that the production team of this show is almost all women, so they only pay attention to the story of a woman fleeing, which may be the reason why I don’t feel any discomfort during the show.
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