Writer Cai Yiwen said in a book review of "Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love", "Any violence about sex is done by the whole society."
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Recently, a report from Nanfeng Window caused a thousand waves in the circle of friends.
According to media interviews, the woman and the man are telling two completely different stories. In Nanfengchuang's article, the woman called the police many times after she was sexually assaulted, but nothing happened, and she even tried to commit suicide. According to Caixin reports, the man denied the girl's "adopted daughter" status, saying that the two were lovers. When a reporter from Nanfeng Window asked if he had sex with the woman, Bao did not deny it.
The woman's narrative is very similar to "Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love", while from the man's perspective, this is the Chinese version of "Lolita".
Caixin's report sparked outrage. It is true that Bao Mouming certainly has the right to defend himself to the media and the court, because procedural justice has nothing to do with whether he is guilty or not. But what is most unacceptable is the conclusion that journalists violate journalism ethics:
"It's more of a story of a girl who lacked love since she was a child seeking security from her 'foster father'."
"The little girl found a sugar daddy who came back from America when she was thirteen years old."
"She is the light of your life, the fire of your soul."
"This girl is a story-telling personality."
The reporter may have never seen "Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love" and misread "Lolita". So, is Li Xingxing "Fang Siqi" or "Lolita"? If the girl is "Fang Siqi", people think that Bao is undoubtedly guilty. But if the girl is "Lolita", Bao's "little lover" in their mouths, some people hesitate. What shocked me even more was that someone even borrowed "Lolita" to whitewash Bao? ! Nabokov's coffin board may not be able to cover it.
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What is the story of "Lolita"?
"Lolita" is a death row inmate Humbert's self-report before the jury, about a "deranged love" between 37-year-old Humbert and 12-year-old girl Lolita. This story was made into a movie in 1997. The Chinese translation of the movie, "A Pear Blossom Pressing a Begonia", originated from a poem by Su Shi who made fun of his friend Zhang Xian, the old husband and the young wife.
The beginning of Lolita is beautiful.
"Lolita, the light of my life, the fire of my lust. My sin, my soul. One tower of Luo Yili: the tip of the tongue goes up, in three steps, from the upper jaw down and gently falls on the teeth. Lolita. In the morning, she was Lo, plain Lo, four-foot-ten in one sock. In slacks, she was Lola. At school she was Dolly. Officially signed Then she was Dolores. But in my arms, she will always be Lolita."
Humbert became obsessed with teenage girls because of the untimely death of his first love, Annabelle. It wasn't until a glimpse of the grass twenty-four years later that Humbert transferred his obsession with Annabelle to another teenage girl. When we first met, a wet Lolita was lying on the grass in a nude dress reading a book, and Humbert's soul was attracted by her "sparkling beauty". "I believe that, in a sense of magic and fate, Lolita is Annabelle's continuation."
To get close to the little girl, Humbert married Lolita's mother. Humbert takes possession of Lolita after Lolita's mother is killed in a car accident. Humbert said that Lolita never loved him, but seduced him, kept asking him, and made him bow down. He gave her everything she wanted, but Lolita suddenly disappeared from his world. When they meet again, the sexy girl who was like a goblin turned into a bloated pregnant woman in front of her. "I looked at her, looked and looked. All my life, with all my heart, I love her the most, sure, as sure as I'm going to die... She can fade, she can wither, whatever. But I only look at her At a glance, all the tenderness came to my heart..." Only then did Humbert know that Lolita was lured by a writer named Creed to shoot pornography. After Lolita escaped, she married Dick, a disabled veteran. Humbert wants to take Lolita, but Lolita refuses. Humbert eventually gave Lolita a large sum of money and shot Creed. After Creed's death, Humbert heard the frolic of children in the valley. "Then I realized that the sad and desperate thing was not that Lolita wasn't around, but that her voice wasn't in that harmony."
After reading this, are you almost moved by this old man's infatuation?
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Go back to the beginning of Lolita.
'Lolita' is pedophile Humbert's confession in court!
"Ladies and gentlemen of the jury" is also mentioned several times throughout the novel.
It is true that the themes expressed in literature are diverse, and readers' interpretation of literature is also a matter of opinion. "There are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand readers". We cannot impose moral standards on literary works.
Then why can't "the light of life, the fire of desire" rationalize Bao's behavior?
Because, "Lolita" looks like a shocking love tragedy, but it is actually a self-defense book by pedophile Humbert before the jury.
Is the person who used this novel to whitewash Bao Mou really not a friendly army?
Humbert, in the name of love, admits to trying to rape Lolita with sleeping pills. But while Lolita was crying in the hotel, Humbert was indifferent.
Additionally, Humbert has a terribly controlling desire for Lolita. He forbade Lolita from socializing with her peers, and finally even asked the pregnant Lolita to leave her husband and go with him. So Lolita refuses to be a canary in a cage, preferring to live in poverty with a disabled veteran rather than returning to Humbert. No matter how Humbert uses love to glorify animal desires, it cannot cover up his exploitation and control of Lolita. A pedophile always robs other people of the good in order to satisfy their own desires. His so-called "love" is just a kind of self-movement that is distorted based on the pain of others. I can't help but think of Woolf, a writer known as the "pioneer of twentieth-century modernism and feminism." Woolf said: "The most vicious predator is the one who pretends to be a protector." She was tortured by two half-brothers in her childhood, and Woolf eventually committed suicide by throwing herself into the river. More than a century later, Taiwanese female writer Lin Yihan wrote "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" about her experience of being sexually assaulted by a teacher when she was a teenager. Lin Yihan said: "Many people say it's too hard to read. I'm so envious. It's just the novel that I can't read. I still have a life, but everyone wants me to live." Soon after the book was published, Lin Yihan committed suicide. died.
The wolf master Li Guohua in "Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love" used the "gorgeous robe" of literature to cover up his hideous sexual violence.
"Island of Lolita, a mysterious island that he has been inquiring about and failed to find. ... Press her on the Nobel Prize Complete Works, and even Nobel is shocked by it. Tell her that she is his chaotic middle-aged white man. Let her be shattered in words, in the sea of words that middle school boys still don't understand, let her feel grown up in words, and then let her soul deceive her body."
How to describe Siqi's despair? "I am the soured willow juice and thick soup, I am the roses and lilies covered with eggs, and I am the North Star that clearly exists in a brightly lit city, but no one can see or need it."
Life is too hard. Xiao Siqi can only be liberated by deceiving herself in falling in love with her teacher. "After thinking about it for a few days, I came up with the only solution. I can't just like the teacher, I have to fall in love with him. The person you love can do anything to you, can't it? What a great thing thinking is I am a fake of my former self. I have to love the teacher, or I will suffer too much."
Have you seen Humbert's shadow in the wolf master Li Guohua? Flattery is what they have in common. Extracting beauty from such brutal violence is really morbid. If you indulge in the brutal beauty of Li Guohua or Humbert, have you become their accomplice?
Lolita and Fang Siqi are not opposites. Li Xingxing (pseudonym) may be Lolita, the imperfect victim, or Fang Siqi, the perfect victim. "Lolita" is very likely to be "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" from a male perspective.
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Someone asked:
Could sex between a 14-year-old girl and a man in his 40s really only be rape?
What if Li Xingxing is indeed a very precocious girl?
I am two or three years apart in age from Li Xingxing. As I recall my middle school days, I was surrounded by very precocious teenagers. They act and behave like adults. I know a girl who is "big sister and big". She is nearly 1.7 meters tall in the first year of junior high school. She "stands out from the crowd" among a group of children who have just graduated from primary school. She had a gangster boyfriend at school and thought it was cool. Later, her boyfriend committed a crime, and the police came to the school to investigate her alleged money laundering for her boyfriend. I always remember the expression on her face when she saw the police that day - "Big Sister" has completely lost the maturity of her previous disguise, and a 13- or 14-year-old child was beaten back to her original shape. She has a very vague understanding of the line between sin and non-crime, and she doesn't know what "money laundering" is. She just shrinks helplessly behind the head teacher and calls her parents crying.
I believe she really doesn't understand. Because she is just imitating adults, but she is actually a child who thinks she is mature. She wasn't ready to be an adult, and real adults didn't stop her in time when she tried to make mistakes. The movie Hard Candy tells the story of a fourteen-year-old "Little Red Riding Hood" who takes revenge on the paedophile "Big Bad Wolf".
The girl has a saying that makes people happy:
The movie Hard Candy tells the story of a fourteen-year-old "Little Red Riding Hood" who takes revenge on the paedophile "Big Bad Wolf". A teenage girl has a saying: "Girls can be women, but that doesn't mean they can be women! If a kid tries to flirt with you, you should stop her instead of encouraging her! If a kid says, have a cocktail. You Should have taken the wine instead of toasting her!"
Would you still blame a victim for being "imperfect"? Sex without consent is a crime, regardless of the purity of the victim. We should not expect a perfect victim. Assuming the little girl agreed at the beginning, would she have room to reject Bao during the few years she was under the fence? Lolita wasn't a perfect victim, but she was a victim nonetheless. If you feel bad for Fang Siqi, please don't ignore the pain of every Lolita.
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Recently, "Father's Boyfriend" has been on the hot search.
Leon in "This Killer Is Not Too Cold" may be the root cause of many girls' uncles. Leon has the cold exterior of a killer, but his heart is as warm and pure as a child. His love for Matilda is deep and forbidding, so he rejects her, doesn't touch her, and protects her. At the end of his life, Leon fought desperately just for Matilda to survive. But what about the uncle's sworn "love" for the girl in the real case? Lin Yihan gave the answer in "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise": "What he loves is his speech, what he loves is this context, what he loves is this scene, what he loves is this picture." She will not violate her. Because "love is a hand that wants to be touched and withdrawn".
The real uncle is far less perfect than Leon. Let me ask, how many uncles are willing to give up the dominant position of unequal power, not oppression or manipulation, but simply love a little girl?
In his foreword to Lolita, Dr. John Wray Jr. wrote: "These characters are not only lifelike characters in a unique story; they alert us to dangerous tendencies; they point to evil with powerful influence." The Tower should bring us all—parents, social service workers, educators—to work with greater vigilance and vision to produce a better generation in a safer world.” So , girls, please quit the fantasy of "father boyfriend". If you smell the danger of being violated, be brave and make a "hard fruit"!
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