It's been a few weeks since I watched this movie. After watching it, I always feel a little bit inexplicably stuck in my heart and need to write something to release it.
After much deliberation, the reason for the blockage is because this movie has hit on the little filth in human nature that can't be brought out from time to time - jealousy.
Especially as I get older, I look back on the past, and it seems that there is nothing worth recalling, which makes me cheer. Human beings are alive, after all, is a dynamic process that requires constant evolution, not just a good direction or a bad past. Therefore, comparing with others is a very natural behavior, in fact, there is nothing to be ashamed of. However, jealousy is a kind of malice in the process of comparison. People, once a whim becomes unkind, the world of oneself and the world of others begin to be in danger.
Wow, it seems that I accidentally started to enter the broken thoughts of self-meditation, back to the movie itself - "Hello, Brad".
Brad, a middle-aged man, is a typical middle-class American: he has a stable job, a large house in a good neighborhood with a mortgage on his back, cars and pets are standard equipment, and there is no way to give people a sense of superiority . There is also a pragmatic and down-to-earth wife who is not so dazzling in the crowd, but can't fault it. There is a son who is about to go to college under his knees. He feels like his mother, and he can't shine in the crowd.
Like most boring middle-aged people, Brad frequently brushes the American circle of friends (Ins), but also frequently acts as a little transparent Ins that is updated infrequently. After all, this thing in the circle of friends is a peeping glass. Some people like to spy, and some people enjoy the sense of focus of being spied on. In Brad's circle, there are visiting professors at Harvard and New York politicians who often brush their faces on TV; there are people who made a fortune in IPOs when they were young, and retired on the island in middle age, taking vacations, beauties, and wine as their "professionals". old classmates; there are also hedge fund managers who fly around the world on private jets and shock the Wall Street hedge fund with just one phone call, and they frequently update their circle of friends, as if they know that some people need to watch their daily life by watching , to live a good life.
Compared with the excitement in his circle of friends, Brad himself and his life are really too calm. He wanted to post something, but found that everything seemed stupid.
After seeing the movie, I believe that many people, including me, can immediately possess Brad and achieve a high degree of spiritual resonance - seeing people of the same age, who may have been less qualified than themselves at the beginning, have a wonderful life. , Lively and fragrant, ten thousand times better than myself, this kind of inner grievance and anguish cannot be described by the word "sad".
A few days ago, I just saw a certain satellite TV put together the top few who participated in Super Girl in 2006 for a reunion. The original intention of the show is naturally to kill a wave of memories and move fans and audiences. Let the super girls who are still popular after more than ten years and those girls who are no longer in the "super", let's talk about the youth, impulsiveness, ignorance and fearlessness at that time, maybe because of time, it will be transformed into a taste of tea. , Everyone tastes one product, all fragrant.
Hey, who knows, Xu Fei, who was still very confused in the past, started to say loudly that Shang Wenjie, the champion of that year, had no heart at all. Now, on the show, I started to say movingly that you were all the people I cared about the most back then. Xu Fei couldn't accept this presupposition, she obviously had no feelings, but she was hard-pressed between the super girls. The water in Peach Blossom Lake was thousands of feet deep.
If this is Xu Fei's true heart bursting at the scene at the time, then I'd rather congratulate her, because she is still doing her final resistance to "becoming a middle-aged person". Depressed middle-aged people, jealous in their stomachs and dark intestines, will endure it. Put the smile on your face and hang it like a moon. And Xu Fei, who didn't want to be middle-aged, would bluntly reveal their unease and jealousy, and couldn't adapt to the absurdity of disguise.
In the movie, Brad is trying to be a qualified middle-aged man: in order for his son to get a college interview opportunity, he still licked his face and called the most hated college classmate, a New York politician, in a tone of voice. Begging for help from old classmates.
In the adult world, there is really no right or wrong, only pros and cons. When Han Han said this sentence through the movie, he was already a very transparent middle-aged man; when he was blushing for being called a contemporary Lu Xun when he was young, I understood that his mid-life crisis had already past. The advantage of being mature is introspection and self-consistency. The disadvantage of being mature is that all the natural beauty related to you is gone.
As someone entering middle age, I have a lot of panic and fear. After reading a few books, trying to talk to people who are several light years smarter than me, and listening to the old stories of old people who ramble but may be wise old people, I still haven't found a way to resolve the jealousy in my heart, jealousy, there is no need at all learn, it's there.
My favorite author, Alain Burton, talks about "self-esteem = actual achievement/expectation of yourself" in "Identity Anxiety" and "The Charm of Boredom". Therefore, for everyone who loves themselves so much, its importance is unparalleled, and because of this, it is possible to establish seemingly "reasonable" expectations compared with those who started from the same starting point. But because of this, our self-esteem is constantly being squeezed.
The only way to release is to block the outside world, start Buddhism, and pretend that you don't care about comparisons, but whether you can achieve true Buddhism is another big philosophical category. The other one requires "Wang Zhan". One morning, he opened his eyes and checked his Moments again. The former Xueba was invited to have tea because of money laundry; Suicide; as for the new generation of Mark Zugerberg, who made a fortune in his business, well, the plane crashed and passed away. Wow, this wave of friends is real and moving!
"Hello, Brad" gave Brad this "Tianhu" king bomb. He used to be so envious of his jealous friends, a personal setting collapsed, and their lives were all the false beauty accumulated by nothingness. In reality It's all chicken feathers. As for Brad himself, his wife is still there, his son may be going to Harvard soon, and the charitable entrepreneurial projects he is working on are admired by young and wise girls. If you think about it, he is the last king. Wake up laughing!)
The difference between life and movies is greater than that of the Milky Way. We all know that there are not so many kings, there are so many nothingness, and there are so many born lucky and unfortunate. If you can't achieve the true Buddhist system, you will continue to suffer, but don't stop, try to do the things in front of you and at hand, even if life seems meaningless, your circle of friends is blank every day, but you know , I know, we are not stupid.
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