When I saw the heroine running back from the rain and saying to the hero, "I want you to cancel the wedding", I felt relieved. The heroine finally said what she wanted and finally stopped suppressing herself.
Many people don't understand the male and female protagonists and feel that they are inexplicable and indecisive. That may be because they, like the second female lead, did not let anything stop them when they grew up.
But for some people, the repression and denial in the process of growing up will erect a wall in their hearts, constantly reminding themselves what not to do and where the boundaries are. For the female protagonist, in the early stage, this wall is the view that they are unworthy, and in the later stage, it is the moral code of not being a mistress; for the male protagonist, this wall is the mother's depression and the father's opposition. Both male and female protagonists know what the right choice is, but their experiences and resulting characters determine that they cannot follow their hearts.
For a long time as an adult, I was unable to express my emotions and thoughts freely. I always pause involuntarily before reacting, thinking about whether this is right or not, this emotion is not appropriate in this situation, and I often end up not being able to say what I want to say.
When discussing love with my friends, I said that I don't believe that someone likes the real me. My friend asked if you always don't express the real you, how do you know if anyone likes you. I know she's right, but she doesn't understand that it's always harder for some people than others to muster up the courage to do something.
The same goes for making life choices. The self-identity theory in psychology divides the self-identity into four types, in which people with closed identity let authority figures (such as parents) make life choices for them and directly accept their parents' value orientation and goals; Those who complete go through constant exploration to identify their own values and goals. For a long time in my adult life, I involuntarily made my life choices according to the expectations of my parents and society, and I didn't realize that there was anything wrong or unhappy about it, but slowly I put my thoughts on it. A little bit of depression, played as another person who was more in line with their expectations. At a certain moment, I suddenly realized that my ego disappeared without knowing when. There is often no reason for this perception, but the feeling of depression and emptiness inside me knows that I have to make a change.
In theory, the four categories are not necessarily good or bad, but if it is not your choice at the beginning, your future life may be full of hesitation and swings, and these hesitations will continue to eat away at your life.
Back to the movie: This movie seems to be about love, but in fact it is more about growth, how to find yourself, how to express yourself instead of impress others, and how to make choices. Although the ending was not handled well, the happy thing is that everyone made a worthy choice in the end. I hope that when we face the crossroads of life, we can also see where our hearts point, and muster the courage to follow our hearts. Row.
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