If a gay wants to come out with his parents, but he doesn't want them to get too excited, he needs to set the stage. Watching a gay movie together at this time is a good choice.
Like "Breakout" and "Adele's Life", if the scale is too large, it's not suitable for family fun. For example, "Brokeback Mountain" and "Boys Don't Cry" are carefully selected, the tragic situation of the protagonist is completely It is in line with your parents' concerns about your future life; it is best to have family ethics films like "The Wedding Banquet" and "Face", which have viewpoints and laughs, and are suitable for side-by-side attacks. In a relaxed and paralyzing atmosphere, parents can understand the life of comrades and expose them to them. Your true thoughts convey the confidence that you can live wonderfully.
If they want to transform you immediately after watching it, they might as well play "God Bless Bobby" again . The film, released in the United States in 2009, tells the story of a mother who couldn't accept her son's homosexuality and caused her son to commit suicide.
The psychiatrist in the film said that homosexuals have a domineering mother and a cold father. However, Bobby's parents are loving, his brothers and sisters get along well, and his grandmother is still a joker. The family life is as happy as a propaganda pictorial, except that his mother is a devout believer.
After learning that Bobby was gay, her mother was shocked. She was convinced that homosexuality would go to hell in the Bible, so that the family would not be able to get together again in the next life, so she did her best to correct Bobby.
She took her husband and son to participate in 60 yuan/hour psychological counseling, introduced him to a partner, and instilled the idea that homosexuality was sinful every day when she was free. In the corner of the room, there were small notes of exhortation pasted, and her mother began to talk about what he was wearing. She was so gay that she couldn't lift her head up.
What made Bobby even more unbearable was the "you're guilty" look when his mother looked at him. He decided not to go to college and went to live with his cousin in Portland for a while, where he met David.
Under the influence of the enlightened and free atmosphere, Bobby went home and had a showdown with his mother, and the result was another quarrel. A lonely Bobby wanders the streets, jumping off a viaduct and ending his young life. Before he died, countless unforgettable pictures flashed through his mind, and finally settled on his mother's sentence: "I don't want a gay son!"
As the saying goes, good boys go to heaven and bad boys go everywhere. Bobby is a good boy. He is shy and kind. He has tried girlfriends, but he resists physical contact with them. When he drives past gay nightclubs, he finally understands what his heart desires.
But Bobby couldn't go far. At the age when he liked to suffer the most, all the restlessness, anger, confusion and self-doubt turned into unsolvable pressure, pushing him to the corner step by step, suffocating him, his wings Not full enough to resist his mother and the religious (correct) ideas that have supported him for thousands of years, only his cousin and David support him, and this little strength is not enough to help him out of his predicament.
In "God Bless Bobby", the mother thinks that she is doing her best for her son, but in fact, she is hiding her own intentions. She sees Bobby first and foremost as a member of the family, not an individual. In the mother's mind, the beautiful image of a neat family and a decent face is deeply ingrained. Seeing Bobby as a side branch on the lawn, she instinctively wants to be trimmed perfectly. She uses the Bible to explain life, not the way the world is supposed to be, but her dogma.
Shi Tiesheng said in "Me and Ditan": " The misfortune of the son is always doubled by the mother ." When Bobby was alive, his mother was full of anxiety and pain. After Bobby left, his mother's world was still full of his shadow. She asked herself, am I wrong? She went to listen to the gay lectures he had heard, went to gay mom parties, read books about it, and found even the slightest solace in everything Bobby had to do, or she would go crazy.
Confucius said, "Learn when you are tired." The change of people seems to be instantaneous, but in fact it is the epiphany after accumulating many confusions.
Mother asked the priest: The Bible says that homosexuality is sinful, do you agree? Priest: The book also says that adulterers and children who disobey their parents should be put to death. The Bible was written by mortals, and those interpretations reflect the thinking and ideas of that era. Mother: So what do you say about same-sex love to people who come here and think God approves of their behavior? Father: I told them my belief that God loves their nature.
The first half of the movie is about Bobby, and the second half is about her mother. At first, the mother felt that Bobby needed God's redemption, and finally she found herself redeemed. She figured out the cause and effect, and came to the church late at night to cry bitterly: "I know why God didn't heal Bobby, because Bobby was not sick, I was wrong, I killed my son."
The climax of the film is when the "Gay Day" was put on the agenda at the Walnut Creek Municipal Assembly, which aroused protests from the conservative people. At this time, Bobby's mother stood up and expressed her thoughts in the face of the live broadcast. course.
"God Bless Bobby" was adapted from real events. The prototype character Mary Griffith enthusiastically participated in human rights public welfare undertakings after the loss of her beloved son to solve the emotional problems of gay teenagers. In 1995, she was awarded the "National Medal of Honor" by the US Congress. It is also a meritorious achievement.
The background of this film is set around 1982, just 13 years after the "Stonewall Incident" and nearly 40 years ago, but such family tragedies are still common until now, from a piece of understanding and tolerance on the Internet to reality Tolerance and acceptance in life goes a long way.
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