How can I never offend others and always be liked?

Isai 2022-11-14 10:00:11

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Have you ever imagined being able to have such an ability—

No matter what role you want to become, you can switch freely

No matter who you are chatting with, you can talk freely

Be able to share cooking skills with a Michelin chef and talk repair skills with a car mechanic with a Michelin tire in hand

Not only can chat with celebrities and dignitaries about state affairs, but also can have fun with ordinary people

I don't know if you have thought about it, but I have fantasized about it anyway.

After all, being whatever you want basically means never offending anyone and always being likeable

Coincidentally, Woody Allen, one of my favorite directors, once made a movie, in the form of a pseudo-documentary, telling the story of such a "human chameleon" -

"The Legend of Xi Li"

The story is set in the United States in the 1930s. A Jew named Xi Li appeared in front of people. The magic of Xi Li is that every time he goes to a new environment, he will show the characteristics of adapting to this environment. It's psychological -- like his own political opinions when chatting with celebrities, he's a pro-Republican aristocrat , full of compliments about the rich, and when chatting with helpers in the kitchen, he becomes a Democrats with vulgar accents, and sometimes biologically—even their races can change at will . Cili has attracted great attention from public opinion, and he was taken to a mental hospital for various studies and treatments. When they tried to communicate with Xi Li, he suddenly became a psychiatrist again, speaking some esoteric terms that he had learned from nowhere. Because of this special ability, the media and the public affectionately referred to him as "the human chameleon" Xi Li. Li was popular and became the hottest star at the time. The peripheral products related to him were sold well, and the songs written for him were also widely sung. When Xi Li became the object of mass consumption, only Dr. Fletcher Eudora cared about it. His illness, insisting on finding a cure for him, she hypnotized Cili, communicated with his subconscious, and found out why he became a "chameleon" Doctor Eudora asked, "Why do you want to show that you are around you? characteristics of a person?" Cili, who was under hypnosis, replied, "Because of safety." Eudora continued to ask when Cili first tried to be like others when Cili said, "In school, how many days did you have? A very smart kid asked me if I had read Moby Dick, and I was embarrassed to say I didn't." With such a precedent, gradually, Xili's body and mind began to change automatically, which is the "Human Chameleon" "The origin of the "Spiral of Silence" I mentioned in a tweet on another public account last month. Someone in the background criticized me by private messages and criticized me for only copying the theory without linking it to reality. The reason for criticizing me is that the theory of "Spiral of Silence" Based on the assumption that most individuals will seek to avoid isolation due to holding certain attitudes and beliefs alone, TA believes this assumption is unrealistic Of course, this assumption of Neumann may not be completely in line with the reality, but at least in my opinion, from the observation of my friends around me , the phenomenon of choosing not to speak because of disagreement with most people does exist. Whether or not this phenomenon is simply because of fear of being isolated, or perhaps choosing not to speak, there is another reason: fear of saying something wrong, but it's also a variant of the "spiral of silence." After Dr. La was cured and was no longer a "chameleon", he said something like this: Children, you must be yourself . You know, you shouldn't pretend to be someone else just because you think they know the answers to all your questions. If you don’t know how you are, how to learn to express your thoughts boldly and say whatever you want . The old man used the story of Xi Li to tell us, never forget your own voice. If you choose to hide your voice today because of other people’s opinions, then Tomorrow you may become a chameleon who is accustomed to being catered to. Be bold and express your own voice, because nothing in this world is absolutely correct and objective except the facts in front of you. Learn to listen to other people's opinions, and learn to follow the facts . Think independently , learn to put forward your own opinions Dr. Li Wenliang said: " A healthy society should not have only one voice ." We are in a post-truth era, and objective facts are no longer the most powerful tool of the media, emotional incitement and opinions Polarization has become a weapon to dominate public opinion, but it is precisely because we are in such a public opinion environment that more than ever we need to insist on independent thinking and bold voice. Do not lose your independence in front of any point of view, do not become "chameleon" Whether that view "represents" the people or "represents" the country Whether that view claims "justice" or "fairness" Whether that view comes from a favorite idol or a closest friend To the doctors: He had a good life, the only thing that bothered him about death was that he had only just started reading Moby Dick and wondered how the story would end.

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