In two days it will be Women's Day.
In the legal definition, women over the age of 14 are considered women, but most women do not like the word "women", which does not sound beautiful at all.
Although I reluctantly accept that women are women, it is only a self-deprecating wording.
Who is going to be a woman?
We are a new generation of beautiful girls and strong men! 01 When we talk about "Women's Day", what are we talking about?
Just click on Baidu, and two words will come into your eyes - "feminism".
I'm not a feminist and the label is scary - don't you love men? Are you going to be against a man?
I love men, and I don't want to compete for superiority. Let women completely switch roles with men, and the world will not be perfect.
If neither situation is good enough, what went wrong?
When I watched the movie "Men Have to Love Oneself", I figured out what feminism is and what gender equality is, maybe we should re-examine it.
02The authorities are obsessed, too obsessed with their role, when others play us, can we jump out of the original thinking and see the problem clearly.
This is the interesting part of the movie, taking you to a parallel time and space.
Here, men are loli, secretaries, and house-husbands, while women are aunts, bossy presidents, and breadwinners.
Not only are social roles completely reversed, but biological characteristics are also adjusted.
Women are more powerful and aggressive than men, and they bear children because they are stronger than men and have the ability to conceive.
The biological basis may be an important aspect, in the long-term evolution process, the formation of social culture and stereotyped requirements for gender roles.
In modern life, although men no longer need to hunt and defend against beasts, they still need it on a conscious level.
If their thoughts and behaviors go beyond this set, they're in trouble - are you still a man?
Damien suffers from obsessive-compulsive disorder because of this childhood trauma.
He brushed his teeth compulsively and forced himself to be a "man".
However, he is indeed, proud of the spring breeze, successful in his career, and full of male hormones, and he is messing with flowers everywhere.
For such a group of people, under the mainstream culture, they are very prosperous, they are the ultimate "men", and life treats them very gently.
But civilization should not only focus on the strong, but also considerate the weak and marginalized.
Walking on the road, his eyes cannot be separated from the long legs of the beauty. Damien slammed his head into the street sign pole, swayed, and crossed into the feminist society in the parallel universe.
In this world, he has become weak.
03
Psychological research will tell you that men are more aggressive than women.
And male aggression is not only directed to violence, but also interpreted as ambition, desire to conquer and charisma.
However, when generalized theories are extrapolated to unique individuals, distorted stereotypes are formed.
This logic is reversed in the movie.
The real danger is not in whose hands the rights are, but when we stop thinking and take it for granted that the world is like that.
In a feminist society, you see this, where men are soft and submissive, and women are powerful and in control.
Such a complementary relationship seems to be reasonable.
But as long as there is a situation in life, that line of balance is torn apart, and the individuals in the relationship become embarrassed due to the lack of flexible coping methods.
The birth of a new baby in the family, the derailment or bankruptcy of the breadwinner, can make a relationship that used to seem perfect in the past.
I can't assert that in families with better character fluidity, it's not immune to the above problems, but it's definitely better than that.
Like the lack of mobility of social classes, the solidification of social roles will also cause many problems.
In order to meet social expectations, we are burdened with specific roles, and we can not tell whether it is the result of free will or brainwashing. One party is responsible for the beauty.
He devoted his limited attention to the infinite weight loss and makeup business. Under the media and cultural atmosphere, he was anxious about the two pounds he gained.
Do you really care about weight that much?
A friend of mine gained 20 pounds at will when she found out that her boyfriend didn't care about her weight at all.
I am particularly proud, because her boyfriend's love for her and recognition of her value are not due to her fatness or thinness.
Heart of beauty in everyone.
Whether it's fitness or hair removal, there's nothing wrong with it, but the question is how much do we place our sense of value on our appearance and body. Besides the dimensions of the body parts, what is left?
In the film, most of the women who are targeted by the camera are successful and have a lot of social resources.
At the top of the ivory tower, they set social rules, but others can only follow.
With such a one-sided evaluation system, as long as you are a little less successful, you will unconsciously fall into anxiety and self-doubt.
Fear of the powerful self of the other half, unable to control.
Worry that the other person is well-informed and wants too much, and you can't give it.
Once, a boy talked to me about this anxiety.
I was thinking, what made him feel that he couldn't provide the other party with better material conditions, which made him feel so failed.
I comforted him, "The two of you can work together!"
Hearing such an answer, he was suddenly relieved.
When self-worth is bound to a single dimension and cannot be recognized, the personality collapses.
There must be differences between the sexes.
But we have more in common than differences.
When it falls on each person, it will show a variety of possibilities.
When we magnify the differences and points of difference, the rigid way of thinking blinds us, making us ignore the uniqueness of the individual, and cannot fully see the true face of the other party.
Even too lazy to get to know each other, "What else can girls do? Play dramas, Taobao!"
What do you think of when you hear "female doctor" and "female driver"? 04
When a culture encourages gender role polarization, both men and women are burdened with unnecessary pressure to conform to gender requirements.
Even so, after watching the film, it became clear to me that gender is not just a matter of differences, but a real, high and low point.
In the movie, you will find that the pictures that you are accustomed to in life are extremely acerbic, which is a true portrayal of our society.
What it describes is not a real feminist society, but more like a cosplay of a male-dominated society.
The ubiquitous "female gaze" places men in a showy, feminine perspective.
Sexual harassment, disrespect for men, occurs frequently.
To be regarded as prey, regarded as "trophy".
When the whole society looks at men in this way, in front of the screen, I feel that they are so small and insignificant.
Not to mention, politics, business, academia, almost every industry is dominated by women.
A society designed by women, in which men survive, can only be vassals and have to compromise.
Just like in a right-handed world, left-handed people have to do it even if they are bad.
After watching these episodes, I suddenly feel that gender equality is still only a concept.
In the movie, the patriarchal parade is far from the revolution, and the demonstrations are not even considered.
There are a few people who look more like performance art, and they look down on them together with the class.
Why are they marching and what do they want?
Isn't it a world of mutual help and love, a more diverse and inclusive world? 05
At the end of the story, Damien had a fierce conflict with his girlfriend, bumped his head in the scuffle, and traveled back to the patriarchal society together.
At this point, the tone of the film suddenly darkened.
The girlfriend was walking on the road, alone and out of tune with the surroundings.
She drives a sports car, is a best-selling author, and here, she's just a stubborn female secretary.
Once wanted to conquer all men, now, she is the one who resists being conquered.
Damien has experienced life in a feminist society, and after returning to a patriarchal society, he did not return to his former self.
He chose to side with women.
Because he finally understood what it was like to be a woman.
If we can experience the existence of another gender like the protagonist, maybe we will understand what position they are in and why they have such demands.
Because after all, we are all human.
Human feelings are the same, and human needs are similar.
We are not hermaphrodites, we need the other half, the other sex.
They are your relatives, lovers, and friends.
They are always by your side.
Their lives are part of yours.
So, why celebrate Women's Day?
Because we still need to understand, work hard, and create a new world that is more suitable for both sexes.
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