'Oversized Beauty': When a woman lives confidently on the axis of her life, she has the power to change the world
What is beauty? In our current audio-visual environment, there are too many restrictions and prejudices about beauty, especially the society's aesthetic for women, which is more and more tending to be young and thin, and more and more women are also affected by this deformity. Coerced by aesthetic concepts, they cannot see their true inner beauty.
The movie "Super Size Beauty" is not only a relaxed and interesting female workplace inspirational film, but also a deep discussion and question about "what is the real beauty of women" through the trend of the fashion industry.
1. Each of us has a "self with the wrong yardage" deeply judging ourselves.
Renee, the heroine in the movie, complains about her plus-size body, and even fantasizes that God can give her a different look, but judging herself is not a "patent" for plus-size girls. Renee met by chance at the gym and the supermarket. Female models with perfect bodies and beautiful faces also suffer from deep insecurities. It is not difficult to see through the movie that no matter how fat or thin the real self is, we will always have a "self with the wrong yardage" in our hearts deeply judging ourselves.
How many times have we, like the heroine of a movie, judged our face and body shape to be less than perfect every time we look in the mirror? When you go to the store to buy clothes, do you fall into a deep inferiority complex because you don't have the right size? When there is a new opportunity in life, the thought of "I don't deserve it, I don't deserve it" immediately arises, and you have completely denied yourself before taking action?
Even if the aesthetic trend of society is becoming more and more harsh on women, women themselves should take a large part of the responsibility for themselves, let go of the "self with the wrong yardage" in their hearts, let go of their own judgments, and calmly accept their true self. When you focus the same amount of attention on the truth of yourself instead of judging yourself, you will find that your own state is completely different, you will be more confident, more alive, and you can easily grasp the life A new opportunity, like Renee, completely rewrites his life.
2. Whether you can seize new opportunities in life depends on how you view your current situation. Do you have a great passion for what you want to do?
The old version of Renee, who always judges herself in the movie, when she saw the fashion company headquarters recruiting a receptionist, her first reaction was "I can't", but the new version of her is completely in love with herself, full of confidence and vitality , So confidently went to the front desk of the headquarters, and with a passionate speech, won the CEO's approval and got the job.
There is a very important point here, how does Renee see his current situation? She used to work in a very fringe online department of the fashion group, based in a Chinatown basement, and her daily pleasures were limited to a couple of low-level jokes with the male colleagues across the street. But in her eyes, she believes that her work is very valuable, and even though the salary of the receptionist at the front desk at the headquarters is much lower than that of the previous position, she came to apply for it because she wanted to be a receptionist, and she wanted to be a receptionist. Here, everyone who came to visit felt the wonderful feeling that she felt.
The CEO asked her: Many people apply for the front desk because they want to use this job as a springboard to become a model and open an online store to make money. They don’t really love the job of the front desk. What do you think of this job? Renee's answer: these are my fallback options, but I'm only here because I want to be a front office, because I'm passionate about front office work, and I really want to work here.
How do we think about our current situation when comparing ourselves to Narrine? Do we feel like we truly love what we do? Excluding external conditions such as money, promotion, and prestige, can we be as passionate about what we do as Renee and pass it on to others? If we are currently the front office of a company, how do we make the best of this work? How to make every visitor feel like a spring breeze?
I remember that an entrepreneur in Taiwan shared his interesting story. Because he is in the catering industry, he buys vegetables at the vegetable market every morning. When people go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, they will haggle with the owner who sells vegetables, such as 15 yuan for vegetables. Save $3 to $12. But he won't do this, instead he will give more money, such as 20 yuan for 15 yuan of vegetables. Then he would secretly observe the reaction of the vegetable sellers. He found that the vegetable sellers were very happy because they made extra money, so he would give more shallots, coriander, small greens, etc. to the dozen people who came to buy vegetables. People who accidentally got small gifts are also happy to go home with groceries. He found that such an investment is the most valuable investment in the world, the most meaningful caring for others, and a few dollars can make a dozen people happy all day long.
The same goes for Renee, who is the front desk. She will give each customer a nice compliment, a refreshing bottle of drink, straws and tissues to make them feel happy and honored. So when we really want to change ourselves and change the environment, we really don’t need a big move, don’t need a lot of money, but a little more kindness and enthusiasm is enough.
And the little kindness we make will produce a series of "butterfly effects of love" that will continue to be passed on, allowing more people to live a happy and beautiful day. At the same time, the self in a state of benevolence can also seize new opportunities in life, because their vision and frequency are consistent with the ideal opportunity and are of equal value.
3. It is impossible for us to feel inner happiness because we have obtained a certain external thing. On the contrary, we find that our inner heart is originally full and happy, and then we project all external people and things.
There is a sentence in the movie "Super Body", "When the environment is suitable for cells, cells reproduce, and when the environment is not suitable for cells, cells are immortal", and our entire material civilization is actually a process of "cell reproduction and horizontal development". In this process, people enjoy the great convenience of technological development and material life, but at the same time they are deeply lost in the satisfaction of material desires. We are more and more inclined to view ourselves and others in terms of appearance, clothes, and labels, while ignoring the inner beauty of human beings. When Renee appeared in the gym, fashion company headquarters, and on stage, it could be seen that everyone put on the so-called "elite face" and disdained her, but ignored Renee's love for her work and her friendliness to the people around her.
As the book "Healing Codes" said, "We can't feel true inner happiness because of obtaining a certain external thing", but many people do not understand this truth, and their so-called pursuit of success is putting the cart before the horse On the way, they mistakenly think that they can get true inner happiness and satisfaction by possessing many external things, but in fact, on the contrary, life is inherently "unobtainable", and life does not need to "get" anything. Because we have all wisdom and wealth within us.
In the process of pursuing a happy life, the first thing we need to recognize is that we are inherently fulfilled, rich, and happy. We only get what we strive for, but what we need to project from our inner happiness.
4. When a woman lives confidently on the main axis of her life, her power is enough to change the whole world.
With an accurate calculator, can you figure out how much time we spend every day judging ourselves, drowning in boring and meaningless information, or doing things we don't like at all? Since we have so much time and energy to judge and suppress ourselves, why can't we spend the same amount of time and energy to encourage ourselves?
Just like Renee, when she truly focuses herself on the main axis of life, accepts her original true face, and expresses her true thoughts, her own powerful energy and belief deeply It is good enough to infect all the people in fashion conferences, and let them start to re-understand the "true beauty, the original self", and there is no need to change anything deliberately. The version of his own destiny has also been completely rewritten, and the growth of friendship, love, career, and self has been completed.
Everyone wants to be happy and fulfilled, but the real happiness and fulfillment is not elsewhere, it is within yourself, on the main axis of your life, when you are always judging yourself and staring at external things. Sometimes, you don't necessarily see that when you truly accept your original truth, your power is large enough to move mountains and reclaim seas and change the world!
I believe that whether it is for Renee, you, me, and her in life, or for all the female friends who still hide the "wrong yardage" in their hearts, the first thing we need to recognize is that we are complete and perfect. , true, we don't need to blindly pursue any external things to show our own beauty, but only need to recognize our own beauty, that real beauty will lead us to create a bigger picture of life, and ultimately Realize multiple levels of complete happiness in friendship, love, family, career, and self-growth!
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