I flipped through this movie on Youku, and even became a member, just to watch the nearly 3-hour movie.
There is no scene arrangement in the movie, and there is no turbulent plot. The male and female protagonists are completed in the bedroom, office, and cheating hut. Is it the cheapest movie of all time?
I have been married for four years, and I consider myself a calm person, but when I see the male protagonist confessing to the female protagonist of cheating, my heart still hurts.
The male protagonist has cheated on his own, and he will go to Paris with his lover tomorrow. It will take at least half a year, maybe seven or eight months. The hostess didn't know what to do, so she asked him if the clothes were ready? Ready to pack something? How to deal with the car? How to pay child support? ...
Most people think that when faced with a major turning point in life, people will definitely be hysterical, at least the male protagonist should be locked out and let him fend for himself. But no, she put him on the bed, hugged him to sleep, set the alarm for him, gently woke him up, and finally gave him a hug.
Is it because the female lead loves the male lead a little more? No, it was because the heroine was the object of abandonment. She was not prepared, so she could only delay her departure as much as possible through her docile personality and persuade herself to accept it slowly. After all, not everyone has the courage to let the male protagonist get out of the house. After all, that means, next, you have to spend a desolate and cold night in an empty house. It takes a long time to get out slowly.
I think the climax part of the film, in addition to the male protagonist's confession of cheating, is the part where the female protagonist reads her feelings to the male protagonist.
She said that she has been living according to the requirements of others. Once she behaves rebelliously, her mother will punish her severely, so she learned that she must disguise her true self and slowly become ladylike and docile in order to be rewarded.
Although she really wanted to work in film, but her father wanted her to become a lawyer, she did not resist and became a lawyer.
After marriage, she pretended to love her children, her husband, and her family, but in fact, she had no feelings for these. When the old lady in the play came to inquire about divorce, she told her that their marriage had no love and had completely shackled her. Now she looks at a table, which is just a table, without any joy. An emotionless marriage turned her into a person whose hearing, sight, and smell began to deteriorate.
After hearing this, the hostess showed a very shocked expression. It turned out that the old lady was talking about herself. People will definitely change for what they understand, and she also begins to reflect, does she love her family? love marriage? Do you love children? Or is she no longer capable of love?
In her introspective essay, she wrote that she had been feigning liking and acting the way others wanted her to behave. She kept thinking, what did my mom want me to do when this happened?
From a rebellious girl, she disguised herself as a docile and pleasant wife and mother. How could her husband despise him? Disguised as a shield, this shield is useless, what else can she be like?
Unfortunately, when she finished all this, her husband was already asleep.
How ironic, this side complains all the guts, there snores everywhere. The husband has not changed, he is still the one who only pays attention to himself, and the wife has begun to slowly change.
She loves him, but during the psychotherapy period, she can control her feelings, so she refuses her husband's courtship.
Unfortunately, when the divorce certificate was officially signed, she became another person. That person pretended to be extremely tough, but his words stinged the ex-husband who had done nothing, and finally led to the ex-husband's domestic violence against her on the spot, and finally divorced.
Psychology has always advocated that you should not let the encouragement or punishment of others shape yourself into another image, but to find your true self. But what if this true self is also scarred and flawed?
This is the case with the heroine. The real woman is violent and full of anger. The longer her flattering personality suppresses her, the more terrifying she is to release. Although it is the male protagonist of domestic violence and the female protagonist, the female protagonist seems to be deliberately making him domestic violence, and listening to every word she says seems to arouse the anger of the other party.
In doing so, she has a sense of control. She can control the emotions of the other party and turn a decent person into a devil in an instant, even if it is betting her own life.
I've seen some articles where children depict scenes of parents fighting. Generally, women will keep irritating each other. After the other party stops, they still keep talking, and even see blood every sentence, until the other party beats them. Don't women know the ending? You know, why is she still trying to provoke each other? Because at this moment, the other party is paying attention to her.
For children, no matter whether it is reward or punishment, they will accept it. What they fear most is to ignore it. But many people's minds have been stuck in childhood, hoping to get the attention of others through various means. If you can't get positive attention, negative attention is also possible. Therefore, some domestic violence is actually a problem of two people, both of whom need treatment.
The ending is more O'Henry-style. Both of them are married to others. After the two partners go on a trip, the two return to their original places to have an affair. The female protagonist even shed tears when she saw the male protagonist cleaning up the hygiene.
After all, the other party still has characteristics that are very attractive to him, but he can't live with the other party for a long time. He can only rely on cheating to comfort his emotions.
Many people say that marriage is against human nature. After all, human nature is to think differently, and human nature is to be greedy and selfish, so there is a marriage law. If so, what about those long-term partners? Those who can last for a long time either know how to act foolishly, or learn to see through everything and are not so serious.
In fact, there is nothing magical about marriage, it is just a compromise, and then compromise. It is really unbearable, separation is also a good choice. The most taboo, unwilling to compromise and unwilling to separate, and finally like a magnet, separate and close again, and there will be gaps when closed.
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