Even if the internet speed is fast enough and the information technology is developed enough, education is always a big problem.
How to counsel and educate children? This is a question everyone should think about when they are first-time parents.
In the process of educating children, there are too many variables, and sometimes a sentence or one thing may produce undesired results.
I can't think of any education-related topics to discuss with you today, but I have a movie for you.
A thriller drama "We Need to Talk About Kevin" produced by the BBC in 2011 and nominated for the Palme d'Or at the Cannes Film Festival;
A story in which a "devil" is cultivated due to a mother's indifference and a doting father.
However, although the film is positioned as a thriller, the description of the blood, horror and other plots in the film is very vague, and the focus is on the conflict between the son and the mother.
The heroine of the film, Eva, is a professional woman who dreams of traveling the world, but after meeting and falling in love with Franklin, she becomes pregnant;
Eva seemed at a loss for this sudden pregnancy, she was not very happy, but Franklin was very happy;
Then, the sudden marriage and unexpected pregnancy made her a housewife.
Eva advocates freedom, but is not afraid of marriage, so she can only choose to accept what happened suddenly, but she is not reconciled;
Listening to the crying of Kevin in the swaddling clothes, Eva was very impatient, and her face was always upset.
She pushed the stroller through the downtown area, and all the passers-by turned to look at her, more precisely, she was attracted by the crying in the stroller;
Pushing the stroller to a construction site, she stopped, closed her eyes and listened to the noise of the surrounding construction site quietly, with an expression of enjoyment on her face, it seemed to her, the loud noise on the construction site Better than Kevin's cry.
Slowly, Kevin grew up and became a little boy.
And Eva's dream of traveling around the world seemed to fade away. She began to want to be a good mother and teach Kevin well.
But she didn't know how to teach correctly, she was just trying to play the role of a mother, everything was superficial, and she didn't really understand what Kevin needed in his heart.
Eva will decorate Kevin's room, teach Kevin to count, etc., but these are insignificant compared to the "attention" and "love" that Kevin needs.
When Kevin watched his mother fiddle with her map seriously, Kevin got jealous and splashed paint on the map with a water gun;
When Eva saw it, she was very angry. She grabbed Kevin's water gun, threw it on the ground, and stepped on it hard until the water gun was broken.
As for all the things in front of him, Kevin was not surprised, he didn't cry, he didn't make trouble, he just looked at his mother as if there was no hope in his eyes.
Not only that, when Eva was teaching Kevin mathematics, Kevin deliberately sang the opposite tone, and even crumpled the test questions given by his mother into paper balls and threw them away;
Later, when the mother checked the diaper for Kevin, she found that Kevin was pulled inside, and then she helped Kevin change the diaper, but within a moment, Kevin deliberately pulled it inside again.
The furious Eva picked up Kevin and threw it in the corner, hurting Kevin's arm.
In fact, Eva still cares about Kevin very much, otherwise she just ignores it at all;
And she just didn't know how to express it, didn't know how to communicate with the child, and along with a series of "distancing behaviors", planted "bad consequences" in the hearts of young children.
Kevin was also a little impatient with his mother because of his mother's impatience and "distancing behavior" since childhood, but in his heart, he still really longed for her mother to pay attention to him and love him.
It is worth noting that, from the environment shown in the film, Eva is taking care of the children from beginning to end, while Franklin is more at work, because from the perspective of the house environment, their family background is still very wealthy.
Maybe it was jealousy, or maybe it was to "revenge" his mother. Kevin, who had always had a straight face, was always smiling when he communicated with his father. He played games and played with his father. Baby.
Once, in the "cold war" with his mother, Kevin has always been very cold, but the moment Franklin came home, Kevin immediately ran over and acted coquettishly at his father, and at this moment, Kevin was still showing off Glancing back at Eva.
Later, in another scene of the film, Kevin was lying in his mother's arms, listening to Eva tell the story of Robin Hood. At this time, Kevin may have received a little care and performed extremely well;
Then, when his father entered the room, Kevin asked his father to leave for a while.
And perhaps to retain this good memory, or perhaps because of his mother's expectations, Kevin, who has always been rebellious and rarely showed his athleticism, began to play archery.
All this shows that Kevin really wants to be loved by his mother. He knows that his mother is a little impatient with him, but he is still very eager for his mother to change him.
However, this expectation gradually turned into a bubble with the arrival of the family's second child.
Kevin's sister was born, and Kevin came to the hospital to visit his mother. He didn't pay attention to his sister at all. He even sprinkled some water from a vase on his sister's face with his hands, and was reprimanded by his mother.
At this time, Kevin had begun to feel the alienation of his parents from him.
Time flies again, my sister has grown up, and Kevin has grown into a big boy.
The younger sister likes the elder brother very much. As soon as Kevin came home, the younger sister greeted him, but Kevin pushed the younger sister away indifferently, and then used the vacuum cleaner to suck the younger sister's hair.
Later, when her sister hurt her eyes because of a strong dredging agent, Eva thought it was Kevin who did it, but Franklin rejected it.
But after that, not only Eva but also Franklin began to alienate Kevin.
During a late-night conversation, Franklin proposed the idea of sending Kevin to the military, only to be overheard by Kevin.
Franklin tried his best to hide it, but Kevin was very normal about it. However, at this time the last hope in his heart was all shattered. He knew that his father and mother began to alienate him.
At this point, the film basically comes to an end.
After that, Kevin bought a batch of "U-shaped locks" online, and Eva asked him what he was doing?
He said that in order to record an online song, the school required to record various percussion sounds.
At this time, Franklin was also happy for his son's musical talent.
But as everyone knows, he used those locks to lock all the exits of the school gymnasium, then took the bow and arrow that his father gave him at Christmas, walked into the gymnasium, and became a "devil".
The parents of many children cried to tears outside the gym, and Eva also opened her eyes wide, unable to believe everything in front of her.
But it is.
Then Eva, who came home alone, looked into the yard through the window, and Franklin and her sister were also shot by arrows.
"We Need to Talk About Kevin", we really need to talk about "Kevin"!
Who is Kevin? Who does Kevin represent? Why did Kevin become like this?
This is the epitome of one of thousands of homeschooling.
Although this film was released as early as 2011, and it has been nine years since then, the educational concept contained in it is timeless and worth pondering.
Recently, I revisited the film, and it was not as shocking as I imagined, only constant thinking.
Eva wanted to travel around the world, but was bound by marriage and children, and she was not ready to be a mother, but since she came, she could only accept it;
However, her acceptance was obviously a little reluctant, even impatient. At the beginning of the film, she said more than once in the ear of Kevin, who was still a baby, "If it weren't for you, I might be in France now, and I'm very happy."
It is conceivable how impatient Eva was with Kevin, but she did not give up, but tried her best to play the role of a mother, but she did not know that her careless performance would eventually be broken;
Kevin, who was still a child, felt Eva's impatience, and then Kevin became impatient with Eva. He used various rebellious behaviors to attract Eva's attention and wanted her care.
But received little love, only alienation and cold violence again and again.
It may be that after having a second child, Eva knows how to raise children better and becomes more patient with Kevin;
However, due to her sister's natural aphasia, Eva gave all her love to her sister, and only material care and verbal care for Kevin.
In the end, because Eva did not communicate well with Kevin, and this indifference intensified, it eventually became a tragedy.
Kevin went to prison, her husband and daughter left one after another, and Eva, who was the only one left, was cast aside by thousands of people. Every day, people splashed paint on her house. People passing by would scold her, and colleagues in the company looked down on her.
It can be said that Eva also got the retribution.
But it's not entirely Eva's fault. When Kevin was young, only his mother took care of him, and Franklin rarely appeared in Kevin's sight;
And Franklin was a little cowardly. After his sister's eye injury, he asked Eva to hold Kevin accountable, but he didn't say a word;
And in the process of Kevin's growth, Franklin was a little too spoiled, and failed to discover the child's problems in time, and failed to properly educate the child.
But whether it was Eva's fault or Franklin's, Kevin went the wrong way.
Some people may say that Kevin is like this, but what kind of malice can a newborn baby have, the clean can't be purer!
And between Kevin and Eva, there was only a lack of communication.
At the end of the film, although the family was ruined and scolded by thousands of people, it was still relatively good for Kevin and Eva's ending.
In prison, Eva asks "why exactly?"
Kevin thought about it and said, "I thought I knew, but I'm not sure now."
The last line of dialogue fully reflects that Eva cares about Kevin but doesn't know how to express it;
And when Kevin saw that his mother still cared about him, he suddenly realized that his previous thoughts were all wrong.
It can be seen that what the two lack is only "communication" and "expression".
Why did Kevin become like this? How many women does Eva represent who are not ready to be mothers? Is Franklin qualified as a father?
This film after nine years still needs us to talk about "Kevin"!
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