After watching this movie, it is already midnight.
After eating two Wangzai crushed ice, the emotions surging in my heart gradually calmed down.
This is one of my daughter’s favorite snacks in summer. With the change of seasons, she has dropped out of her snack list. The top snack nowadays is Yili Milk Tablets (eight pieces) for two dollars a board.
Every time I saw her running up and down, she smiled and shouted: Baba (Dad), I will hug her, and then lift it high, at that moment I feel like a warrior, holding the world in my hand. The most dazzling trophy, all the worries and pressures suddenly flew out of the sky, and the sense of abundance surpassed Ma Yun, although many people called him father.
Due to certain life considerations, my wife and daughter and I are separated from each other, and there are not many opportunities to meet each other every month.
My accompaniment function as a father, most of the time, is achieved through video calls.
It is precisely because of this that when I really see her, in addition to joy, it is more guilt.
Xiaobao is two years old this year and has a preliminary understanding of this strange world. She will use some simple phrases to express her aspirations: "Napi Er (milk film)" "Baobao (baby bus nursery rhyme)" " Xiaoxiaoshu (Little Tree of Wisdom)" I probably understand that the reason she repeatedly mentioned these words is because it contains the sweetness that melts in the mouth, the musical notes, and the colorful enlightenment.
And a small incident that happened recently made me feel for the first time that there is a huge gap in thinking between us.
During an occasional video call, Xiaobao showed me her new skill: calling.
I saw that she used to hold up a radio that was bigger than her head, and kept talking hello, hello, after Bao Ma said that the phone had been connected, she sent out: ah, ah, ah, jiligulu jilulu (I don’t understand here. ) In the interesting conversation, Bao Ma and I leaned back and laughed. I still couldn't figure out why she had to send out the three interesting puzzles when she got on the phone. This question has been bothering me for a long time.
Until two days ago, I took Xiaobao to ride the cradle outside the supermarket, and a nursery rhyme gave me the answer:
Two little babies, they are calling, hey hey, where are you? Hey, I'm in kindergarten.
Two little babies, they are calling, hey hey, where are you? Hey, I'm learning to sing.
The noon sun shone on her immature little face, and her body shook gently with the ups and downs of the rocking cart.
Standing next to her, I was instantly engulfed by a huge and unspeakable emotion, and it took a long time to recover.
At that moment, I realized that it was so difficult to understand a child's inner world, and as she grows up, this difficulty will continue to increase, and even the spiritual world of the two people will completely lose contact.
The following content involves spoilers, please read carefully.
This is the first time I have tried to write a long film review. I have not studied film knowledge systematically, so it can only be regarded as an analysis.
In my impression, a good movie may have two factors: the content can trigger in-depth thinking outside the screen, and the form can bring new and peculiar audiovisual experiences. Emphasis on content, such as "Shawshank's Redemption", emphasizes form, such as "Lola Run", or both, such as this "Internet Mystery Trail".
For the convenience of reading, the following film reviews will be divided into two major sections: content thinking and formal thinking.
Content thinking
1. Sexual anxiety of parents in the native family
In the film, the director uses Margot's growth line as a guide, allowing his father to find his spiritual connection with Margot bit by bit.
I thought more than once, did the estrangement between father and daughter really arise after the death of my mother?
Observing carefully, you will find that throughout the story, the scenes of father-daughter having fun together are almost rare, and the only scene in which a Father’s Day gift is presented involves obvious physical contact between father and daughter. At other times, fathers play more of a functional role, such as shooting videos (for recording purposes), such as providing learning funds for their daughters (for payment purposes), or reminding their daughters to take out trash (for supervision purposes). Functional roles are not participatory, that is to say, they are absent in the interactive experience between parents and children.
Of course you can say that the father is busy with work and has no time to spend time with his children, but I think this is not the root cause.
The reason is an old saying: " males avoid their mothers, and females avoid their fathers. "
Toddlers have initially acquired gender awareness at the age of two. At this time, parents must begin to deliberately avoid physical contact, such as kissing, hugging and other intuitive expressions. As the children grow up day by day, it is not just a hug, but even a language expression. , Will gradually disappear, especially in Eastern countries. Eastern culture is implicit and introverted. We rarely hear our parents say straightforwardly in our lives: Dad loves you, mother loves you.
It is precisely because of this that the mother played an important role in Margot’s growth. All of Margot’s spiritual connection to the outside world was achieved through the mother, or indirectly participated in it . This is when the father opened pam. The account was also proved. Facing the campus address book carefully compiled by his mother, he must admit that he knew almost nothing about Margot's spiritual world.
The spiritual world of a child is easier to convey between the same gender (daughter and mother, son and father). This is a fact that every family must face.
2. Moral panic faced by single-parent families
In the film, the female police officer involved appeared in the address book carefully compiled by Margot's mother, and specifically marked: divorced family.
"I heard that his mother ran away with someone, like a little white face"
"You see that he is virtuous, he's just like his dad, no wonder his mother ran away with someone."
"You can't tell me the fuck I'm joking with you? So sensitive, grown up in a single-parent family?"
The world's malice towards single-parent families (divorced families) has not diminished in a day.
Almost every one of us has heard rumors about a child from a single parent family during school. We cannot verify the authenticity of those things, but the harm caused by this is real.
Children who grow up in single-parent families will more or less have certain personality defects. Just like Margot often eats alone in the movie, they are not born to be independent. On the contrary, they are sensitive, vulnerable, and eager to care. , But not good at words.
It is conceivable that the policewoman has to face the hardships of raising her son alone. While she is busy with work, she also has to take care of her children’s daily life. Even so, she can’t conceal her debts because she knows that her child is right at school. There will be countless prejudices and strange eyes. The more you owe it, the more you love it.
Being called a freak for a while, and a baby for a while, the distortion of personality seems to be a foregone conclusion.
The most ridiculous thing is that we can only watch the prejudice arise, but we are unable to let the prejudice die.
3. Can social networks really bring you closer?
Whether it’s Instagram, or Tumblr, the holy land of otaku, there is always a social software suitable for the vanity you.
Turn on the camera, select the filters, and pose. After pressing the shutter a hundred and twenty-five times, you finally took a photo of your choice.
Register an account, upload your profile picture, and type your nickname on the keyboard: "Please call me Queen Queen"
Congratulations, a virtual self was born. No one cares about your hobbies, no one cares about your emotions, everyone just wants to see your photos.
Within an hour, you received one hundred and seventy-five greetings and sixty-seven likes.
All of this has nothing to do with whether you are good or not, but only whether you dare to show up. The more you show up, the faster your fans will grow.
The life of clear soup and water seems to boil suddenly, and the city that was empty is suddenly crowded, and you seem to be a goddess.
A netizen named "Infatuated Kuo Shao" invites you to have a French meal at home with candles.
A netizen named "Lonely Flathead Brother" sent a XXX photo and said that he was invincible and went up to the 28th floor without breathing.
A netizen named "Hainan Peng Yuyan" initiated a video invitation to you. Looking at his handsome avatar, you seem to be a little moved.
Women enjoy unprecedented gender dividends on social software in the new era, while also facing countless temptations and routines.
Margot is obviously not the kind of girl who is greedy and vain. Although she is also eager to be noticed, it is definitely not from visual attention, but from spiritual comfort. She needs an object to talk to to release the depression and sadness in her heart. .
However, as the power train sings in the song:
I just want to find someone to speak, the world is so big, is anyone there, why didn't I answer.
The people who need to be cared most are suffering unprecedented cold on social platforms.
They may not have a gorgeous appearance, they can't sing or shout, they can't perform backflips in a bright gym, and they don't have the money to get a sports car for their favorite anchor. Their sense of existence is very low, so low that if they hadn't initiated a chat with their own post pretending to be other women's accounts, they might never have told the story in their hearts.
Thinking of this, are you still sure that social software is closing the distance between each other?
In my opinion, social networks do provide greater exposure to netizens who have stunts or are good at singing and dancing, improving their quality of life to a certain extent, and realizing the stride across classes earlier.
And those netizens who like, brush gifts, and leave messages are still lonely.
Formal thinking
In fact, the presentation of the film is not much better than the same type of "Unfriend". It still uses computer desktops, cameras, monitoring screens and other media interfaces to interact with each other to complete the plot.
But what is very interesting is that the cold computer interface is stupefied to capture the temperature and the "acting", which is very rare.
After Margot graduated from Yangmu Middle School, the background music gradually became sad, and what followed was the picture above: freeze frame on the dynamic sending interface of Facebook. The cursor kept flickering. I thought she would say something, but in the end she said nothing. Just staring blankly at a sentence on the computer screen: What are you thinking? This sentence seems to be asking Margot and at the same time asking the audience: What are you (guess her) thinking? A sense of loneliness, speechless, spontaneously arises.
When Margot learned that his mother was seriously ill and was unable to go home, the mouse stayed on the menu to delete the entry for a full two seconds.
There was no shouting, no crying, no hysterical performance and conquering during the two-second stay.
It's such a quiet, short, fleeting stay, but it creates a huge dramatic tension.
The loss, anxiety, and struggle of the character's heart are vividly manifested through a subtle operation on the computer interface.
Here I am willing to give the mouse an Oscar for best supporting role.
As one of the most memorable passages in the movie, I have to mention this message from his father to Margot.
When his father learned that Margot might skip class and go climbing, he was furious and typed a large number of threatening and questioning words on the keyboard, including swear words.
Then the camera changed, and after a short hesitation, his father changed the exclamation mark to a full stop.
Then the camera changed again, and my father deleted the original words and only said one sentence: Call me when there is a signal.
With just a few shots, the inner changes of the characters and the shaping of the father's character are all there.
How to export love? That's it.
It just chewed up a thousand words and swallowed it in the stomach, and finally said lightly: Go home early.
And another unforgettable scene happened on the death day of his wife.
That day my father tiptoed into the room and hesitated to ask Margot: Do you want to watch the good voices of America together?
There was a slight disappointment on Margot's face, and then echoed with a strong smile.
The father closed the door carefully and left, leaving Margot alone with a wry smile at the camera.
The smile was like saying: You see, I know it, he won't mention that.
Father dragged the progress bar repeatedly, watching the wry smile on Margot's face repeatedly.
We all know exactly why he did this.
Every time I drag the progress bar, I slap a loud slap on my face.
Every time you drag the progress bar, a hot tear falls on the computer desk.
At this moment, there was clearly no sound in the picture, but we heard the sound of heartbreak.
This is the most extreme expression of silent over sound at this time, and I am completely conquered.
As a father, watching a movie about salvation, it seems to have experienced a huge disaster.
After the violent wind, there was only a long-lasting echo in our ears: How should we express our love in the face of our children?
Walking on the street, it seems that there are traces of love everywhere: I love spicy fish, I love it, I love Shuangpi milk. . .
These loves are probably reserved for those who love to spend money.
And the love we want to express, the love we want to give to our children, may never be said.
I can only wait until the child grows up, and before boarding the train, I hide my love in the oranges I bought with hobble.
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