When he got home, he calmly and rationally persuaded his wife to divorce him, so that they could maintain a more balanced relationship, instead of making anyone feel sorry for the other. The wife's answer was quick, tender and firm: Love is not a 5-minute moan once a week. ...love is not between the legs. … What matters is not what we don’t have, but what we have.
The innocence of women lies in this, the loveliness of women lies in this, and the abhorrence of women lies in this. They can always say heart-warming words with ease, but also easily betray them; they are easily moved and easily forget their own moving.
Women are like that, and so is women's love. One of the most classic jokes is Huang Zongying. After Zhao Dan's death, Huang said that Zhao Dan was like a sea, and he was once in a difficult situation. But she still married Feng Yidai. Someone asked her what she had said before, and she said: Feng Yidai is like a mountain...
It's hard to tell whether it was the wife's betrayal first, or the increasingly gloomy husband who rummaged through his wife's handbag and tapped her phone first. Everything went according to her husband's expectations. The most feared thing finally happened. Husbands addicted to self-abuse go from sitting on the stairs outside the door listening to their wives date their young lovers to peeping in the closet inside the room. To his surprise, what he sees is a showdown between his wife and his young lover because "I can't hurt my husband anymore." Then the plot twists and turns for the next few minutes.
The wife suddenly found those peeping eyes.
The couple looked at each other.
The little lover goes and returns, continuing to entangle.
The husband came out of hiding and ran away.
Husband squatting on the toilet seat in the bathroom.
Chasing after his wife, who held his head in her arms.
A friend said that love is 0.5+0.5=1. That is, two people should take out the good half of themselves to get along with the other person, and hide the bad half. This is extremely absurd. Regardless of whether this should be the case or not, the fact is that in real life this is simply not possible. Who could possibly cover himself in the presence of another for so long? The ninth commandment puts this simple truth before us in an extreme form.
Impotent husband and cheating wife. Voyeur husband and voyeur wife. It was the most embarrassing moment in both of their lives. However, the sequence ends with snuggling in the bathroom.
This is the gesture of love as I understand it. After the warm and beautiful artificial veil is lifted, the ugly reality cannot be avoided. A hug expresses understanding and acceptance - understanding yourself and others, accepting yourself and others. No one in this world is more noble, more moral, and more valuable than anyone else. We are all guilty.
Snuggling is the still picture we see, but the initial movement comes from the woman, who takes the man who has fled in her arms into her arms. In the second half of the film, it's the woman, and it's the woman who always takes the initiative, who acts aggressively to find a way out for their seriously challenged love. Her efforts were evident when she got on the bus back to Warsaw in a ski suit.
Women's sensibility, women's innocence and simplicity have also achieved women's resilience. The ignorant are fearless. Women's "simple ignorance" gives them enough courage and strength to pursue the happiness they identify with. Sometimes, it seems mindless, but its attractiveness is incomparable to men with brains. Tie Ning has written about this in more than one novel.
The ninth commandment does not want another's wife.
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