After watching this film, my feelings are complicated but I can't express it. Sometimes people just encounter these things and they contradict each other. No one is right, but there is no way out and no solution. For various reasons, I don't want to watch the documentary, so I don't know the real situation of things. The following discussion is just my experience of watching the show, not for the prototype characters and actors.
First of all, let’s talk about the play itself, the editing including the use of light, shadow and color is very good, four stars; for the screenwriter, I think the love process with Nick is a bit larger. The stronger the oppression, the stronger the resistance. I found a small crack in the game, and I must be enjoying the beauty of the outside world crazily, but the whole online dating scene made me feel a little bored. The screenwriter Samsung; for this incident, it is very complicated. I should leave a blank rating and say it is a good one. Is it a story, is this a big tragedy, is it a bad story, it is clear that there is such a situation, and it can be a wake-up call for some, or most overprotective parents. Since this is a drama review, I gave it four stars based on the drama itself.
This is a complete tragedy. I say this because no one is right. Everyone has done bad things based on good starting points. When a good person does something irreparably wrong out of good intentions, it is probably a tragedy. Can you say that my mother is a bad person, her daughter is frail, which arouses excessive desire for protection, and the information isolation of her grandmother during her imprisonment arouses her exclusive desire for her daughter, perhaps like the first time she was in a wheelchair, she At first, I really thought that I would have to wait for the legs to fully recover, but can a little girl at that age sit still, so my mother said, "If you don't use a wheelchair, it will become more and more serious", it seems that some adults are trying to control the child. Sugar intake will say that eating sugar will cause tooth decay. In order to prevent children from running around, they will say that there are traffickers and monsters outside, but this kind of scaring children can only work when they are very young, and as children grow up, this person gradually becomes paranoid. The mother slowly made up more diseases to tell lies, or protect (control) her daughter, and eventually evolved into what we see, a lie that is too big to tell, and can only take this lie as a fact , use more lies to improve, this is a vicious circle, like a vicious circle, no one can get out. I believe that my mother is not malicious. She truly believes that her daughter is vulnerable. She sincerely believes that her daughter will be safe only if she is within her line of sight. Her desire for control ranges from her daughter's clothes to food and range of activities. Control is stronger than her own hands, but she has gone too far, forgetting that her daughter is long past the age when she eats bad food and spit up, and trampolines can break her leg. The inappropriate way of getting along binds two people, and both of them are tired, so my mother's mantra becomes how much pain I have suffered for you, but isn't this your choice, we could have gotten along easily, it's your choice It's hard work, isn't it? I only talked about the mother-daughter relationship, not about their deception to the neighbors or even the people of the whole country. I think the cause is "protection" and the method is "control". The specific method is "Making up diseases", and being a model mother and inspirational stories are just by-products, not the original purpose of a mother. Some mothers show off their suffering. This is a strange psychology. They will advertise their suffering as their achievements, and they will tell others the history of suffering they have experienced and have not experienced. Why do I say this is Show off, because I have seen many such people. When they are telling the story, their eyes are not the sorrow of Xianglin's Wife, but the faint pride, just like those who show off their success. Of course, my mother was not a good girl originally. She thieves and lies and makes up nonsense. She also deceives little boys. , I would prefer to define her initial lies to her daughter, including being in a wheelchair, dad don't want us, etc., as what almost all mothers do to scare children and speak ill of their partners to make children more dependent on themselves. I really don't want to call a mother a bad person. Although she steals money and goes to jail, she is still a good mother. Even if she does not do well or even badly in our opinion, she is still out of love. Strive to be a good mother by your own standards. Perhaps this is still a struggle with his own mother? Grandma advocates stocking, and mother must prove that all-round protection and care is right, "I want to prove that I am a better mother than you", maybe there is such a thought. I saw some film critics posted information about the prototype of the incident, speculating that the mother was mentally ill, or simply trying to cheat money, but the image in the play should be a mental illness. As I said earlier, becoming an inspirational story is just a by-product of protecting and controlling my daughter. Maybe my mother also felt guilty for deceiving the public. She kept all the money funded by the outside world without spending it, and still lived by stealing. "I want to prove that I'm better at being a mother than you." Maybe there is such a thought. I saw some film critics posted information about the prototype of the incident, speculating that the mother was mentally ill, or simply trying to cheat money, but the image in the play should be a mental illness. As I said earlier, becoming an inspirational story is just a by-product of protecting and controlling my daughter. Maybe my mother also felt guilty for deceiving the public. She kept all the money funded by the outside world without spending it, and still lived by stealing. "I want to prove that I'm better at being a mother than you." Maybe there is such a thought. I saw some film critics posted information about the prototype of the incident, speculating that the mother was mentally ill, or simply trying to cheat money, but the image in the play should be a mental illness. As I said earlier, becoming an inspirational story is just a by-product of protecting and controlling my daughter. Maybe my mother also felt guilty for deceiving the public. She kept all the money funded by the outside world without spending it, and still lived by stealing.
For her daughter, it was love and protection at first, but as she grew up and became curious about the outside world, her mother's arbitrariness gradually made her no longer dependent, and she even gradually wanted to escape. It's very pitiful, and she closed the door in the mother's cry. the door, be a good boy or be yourself? In the early stage, she was indeed a poor and helpless daughter, who wanted freedom and a real life, but was kidnapped by her mother's love, but later I really couldn't like her, and she still pretended to be ignorant after being arrested. After two visits to prison, whether it was for her father or her neighbor's aunt, she was very pitiful at first. When she found out that the other party was not on her side, she immediately calmed down and distanced herself, and discussed with a lawyer how to save herself from punishment. She may have something to do with her mother. Love it, but I think this kind of love is just a human "love of mother", it's just a verbal concept, it's not really love her mother, after her arrest, except for saying a few words, I really Love my mother, is there any expression of love, no sadness, no guilt, no regrets. She doesn't love anyone, including parents, friends and lovers. She calmly washed the blood on the knife after her mother died. Thinking that the red color came from one person, I felt my hair stand up on the screen, and she was killing herself. Her mother can still cheer and plan with Nick in the future, in prison and in court, she is so indifferent to Nick, selfish, and cold-blooded. This is probably inherited from our mother. We do things with our own standards, regardless of the feelings of others. We are more like our parents than we imagined, especially the characters of those parents that we hate. We are really different from ourselves. The disgusting side is exactly the same, and we don't even realize that we are so similar to our parents. Of course, the mother's cold blood is only in the relationship between mother and daughter. She is still relatively warm, as can be seen from the evaluation of the neighbors, but she is so cold-blooded and selfish to her grandmother, and the same to her daughter. She grows junk food. Dee eats all these reserves at home. She doesn't allow her daughter to eat it, but she indulges herself. In the eyes of her daughter, how cold it is. If you don't eat it, it's not a punishment. real punishment. Can you say that your daughter is bad? It seems that her badness is also caused by her mother, and her mother just reaps the consequences.
Is nick poor? Poor, poor daughter? Poor, they did an irreversible thing with the action power of adults and the minds of minors and the judgment of the new society, and why I am deeply touched, because deedee is like my mother, although it is not enough. I'm tied to a wheelchair, but her desire to control me started when I was an adult, after her relationship with my father broke down, so she doesn't need a wheelchair. More than 20 years of Confucian education put filial piety too high position, she only needs to be a mother to control me. I often suffer from pain. My education tells me to be filial to my parents and to respect my teacher, and it also tells me to pursue myself, but it doesn't tell me what to do if the two conflict. But such pain is superficial, because the real pain comes from not knowing how to Choose, and I don't need to choose, my mother will tell me what to do, I just live slowly and only act and don't think. And I don't have any real feelings for my parents, it's more that the established facts of parents and children can't be changed.
I have always said that filial piety is a moral kidnapping. The Confucianism reformed by rulers for thousands of years is no longer the Confucianism of Confucius. The monarch, parents and teachers tell you to respect the monarch, parents and teachers. God tells you that if you don’t believe in God, you will go to hell. I remember seeing it on Zhihu before, the answerer's cousin, who has a high education career and became a humble and polite person, is defined as unfilial because he does not want to get married. If the only judge of a competition has an interest in the contestant, this competition It's definitely not fair. In fact, as mentioned above, your suffering is your own choice. Crying about your suffering with your children and showing off your suffering with outsiders all come from my relationship with my mother. Once you are a little disobedient, she will cry since you were born. When an outsider sees me, the first sentence must be: Your mother is really not easy, you must be filial to her in the future. In addition to the kidnapping of filial piety, what's even more terrifying is that I know that she does all this out of love. She wants to give me what she thinks is good, but doesn't care if I need it, whether I want it or not, and whether it makes my life harder because of it. .
The reason I think this film is too complicated is precisely because the outcome of this event is too extreme, but it is universal, and it is a mystery that everyone can't solve. "You are still young and ignorant" "You will understand when you grow up" "I have grown up and I know what I am doing" "I don't want you to care" These contradictions exist in all families, the screenwriter fictionalized a mother and daughter neighbors , not only to expose some things as friends of deedee and gypsy, but also to compare the abnormal mother-daughter relationship between d and g as a normal mother-daughter relationship.
This is how life is, and I hope everyone can find their own way, reconcile with life, reconciliation with self who longs for independence, reconciliation with parents who intend to protect/control.
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