/ Love is more important. /
In the early morning without warning, the sun was gentle and the air was warm and dry.
The sound of the door frame touching the bell is clear and sweet, and who opened the door of the store, it seems that the door of the heart has also opened. So love came quietly.
After a few questioning conversations, Joe's gaze fell on Beck, sometimes gazing and dodge, appearing pure and harmless. Because he fell in love at first sight, his eyes were gentle and affectionate because of Beck, and he fell into infatuation.
Opening in 5 minutes, describing the encounter of love.
Simple and natural.
If I list the advantages of Joe as a boyfriend in the whole show and ignore the other plots, you will definitely think that Joe is a perfect boyfriend:
1. In terms of appearance, he is considered to be a safe and durable handsome. He likes to wear shirts and jeans. In his daily life, he wears formal attire when he goes out occasionally. It is thoughtful to coordinate with his girlfriend. Besides, Joe's hands are very nice.
2. Joe has read many books and is familiar with the writer's life. He is also familiar when talking about movies.
3. Most of the time I am relatively silent and don't talk much, but I always have a chat with Beck, smart, and some sense of humor. The speech and manners are fairly elegant, and the car selection is very good. Bright red retro Buick, an aesthetic that people cannot ignore. It's more romantic.
4. Be loyal to your girlfriend.
5. Always look at your girlfriend lovingly, with affectionate and innocent eyes. There is almost no negative evaluation of people. When dealing with girlfriends, most of them are positive praise and support.
6. Secretly help the girlfriend deal with the troubles, and prevent the controllable troubles from disturbing the girlfriend. I am willing to do housework for my girlfriend and prepare breakfast for two. When my girlfriend is serious about writing, he never interrupts.
7. Joe will gently count their anniversaries, such as "This is the third day of our first kiss." Carefully prepare the girlfriend's birthday party and prepare the cake by hand. It says Everythingship-he remembers all the little details moved by the girlfriend.
If I list his dark side again, you will definitely think Joe is a demon:
1. Peeping and looking at other people's privacy.
2. Enter private residence without authorization.
3. Tracking.
4. Steal or hide other people's property.
5. Imprisonment.
6. Murder.
The image of the perfect boyfriend and the devil are completely opposed to Joe. All his motives for doing evil are because he loves Beck and wants her to live a carefree life in a perfect interpersonal environment.
Joe imprisoned and killed Beck's ex-boyfriend Benji for love. Because he is unfaithful to love and perfunctory to Beck, he is really a bad guy. Moreover, because Benji also killed a young man, Joe believed that Benji's existence threatened Beck's safety and his death was well deserved.
He attacked Peach, Beck's best friend, for love. Because she also has the desire to peep, control and possess Beck, intending to limit Beck's development. Peach spotted Joe who had been following them, raised his gun and shot. Joe was injured, but he killed Peach without any suspense. He felt that this was a legitimate defense.
In order to love, he pushed the lover of his ex-girlfriend Candace, the owner of Candace Records, off the bridge because he had an affair with Candace, and he was rude to Candace, describing her as a licentious person, and let him finally Out of anger, he was ill-intentioned.
In order to protect his neighbor’s child Paco, he directly pierced Ron, a drunkard and domestic violence, with a knife in an accident. Because Paco and his mother Claudia had been suffering from Ron’s violent deeds, he also believed that this kind of violence, People who drink and gamble are also damned.
Until the end of the first season, my understanding of Joe is still very complicated. He really has a cute side, a kind side, a considerate side, a forbearing side, and I don’t want to fully believe in his dark side.
The most shocking thing to me about this work is the problem of the boundaries of the relationship between people. The second thing is to discover how important the growth process is to the development of a person's character.
/ About the boundary /
The human heart is half good and half evil. This is human nature.
It's just that being in a certain environment and certain things happen, it will inspire a person's good or evil.
To the neighbor boy Paco and her mother Claudia, Joe showed great kindness.
Borrow Paco's interesting book and give Paco his only dinner. Whenever Claudia and Ron have a dispute, it is Joe who accompanies and guides him to read, grow himself, and educate others for me and for everyone.
Joe has also helped Claudia complete the difficult detoxification process. In some early mornings, he will accompany the children in the neighborhood to read. These should be as kind and beautiful as an angel to outsiders.
However, in intimacy, especially in the time and space where his girlfriend is unaware, Joe is inspired to be a devil, and more often becomes a voyeur, full of control, no legal consideration, no sense of guilt, and even hurt The lives of others.
He is particularly clear about the boundaries of the relationship between strangers. He has done almost all the good things that others can do. He has never gone too far, nor has he turned a deaf ear to bad things.
However, he is extremely radical in handling the boundaries of intimacy, wishing and self-righteous to break into the other’s private space to spy. Without the other’s knowledge, he believes that the boundary does not exist. As long as it is good for her, she will eventually Must understand.
Joe said, for you, I am willing to cross any boundaries.
There's not a line in the world that I wouldn't cross for you.
Joe is a person who loves strangers out of sympathy, and thinks badly about lovers out of love. He takes it for granted and does not know it.
I think most people will have these two kinds of feelings. It's just that Joe hasn't done so extreme.
In Joe's values, thinking that doing something bad for the one you love does not mean that it is right, but it means that love is more important. In this value system, any evil can be justified, and the reason is very great.
/ About the growth environment /
The reason for Joe's value system is because his adoptive father, Mr. Mooney, considers himself a "good master" of Joe.
When he was a child, Joe's father abused him, and Joe's mother never stopped him. Even the correctional home could not give him a normal life.
Mooney thinks that he is Joe's savior, so he completely overrides Joe's will, and uses the same violent way to force Joe to accept Mooney's "good" way to him, forcing him to reflect on it, calling it self-salvation.
Joe finally surrendered to Mooney in the form of self-anaesthesia, and succeeded in persuading himself that Mooney did so out of his own good.
Just as Joe later treated Beck, doing all kinds of illegal things in the name of love, always fantasizing "You won't think I'm a lunatic".
If someone resists, lock him up for self-reflection.
Mooney's discipline is almost abnormal. But what makes me more frightened is that he "compulsively educate" young Joe in a "overlooking" posture, which still reminds me more or less of the "forced care" that parents have for their children.
If the boundaries between intimacy can be set clearly in advance, are the boundaries between parents and children and the bonds of family affection also covered in gauze for "good for you", but they have never been clear?
Caring is chaotic.
Are those relationship boundaries blurred in the name of love not honey and arsenic?
/ love is tricky. /
Love encounters and first encounters are always beautiful.
Even Joe's neighbor Claudia quarreled with Ron all day long, but at the beginning of their meeting, Claudia had thought that Ron was her prince.
Just as Beck once recalled that Joe was her life-saving straw when she was most desperate, the only one who "saw her" and even saved her.
"Why did you end up in such a field? Isn't that what you want?"
In the time that Beck was imprisoned by Joe, she asked herself soberly many times, isn't all this what she wants most? But after all, he was full of hatred, gritted his teeth and cursed Joe for being a lunatic, perverted, and said angrily that I couldn't fall in love with you.
Love is like this, it starts beautifully, the process is tortuous, and the end may not be happy for everyone, it is more about resenting each other.
Are we just denying the beauty of love?
Or is it compromised to accept a bad truth?
Not reconciled.
Perhaps I have also reached an age, and I no longer look at and evaluate a love separately, and just judge whether it is good or bad. It is unfair to a full-bodied love.
You have to believe in the love you feel and the kindness your lover gives you, and you have to accept that the other person is not the perfect person, or even a villain.
To sum it up in a popular sentence, the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference.
All the attention to you, or too much attention, or even bondage, indeed stems from love.
However, if the boundary issue between two people is not clarified, it will lead to aggressive occupation by one side, and fearful rejection and resistance from one side.
If there is such a couple, it is an exhibitionist and the other is a voyeurism, perhaps this kind of match is also considered harmonious, otherwise any one of them will be a disaster to get along with people who are normally recognized.
I think that the resentment of all viewers towards Joe should only stay in those parts that cross the boundary. And all the love actions within the boundaries, I think it’s wonderful to ask myself.
If he has never crossed the line for a minute, he should be the perfect lover.
When I saw Beck's almost dumping accusation of Joe at the end, and at the same time thinking of those beautiful moments, I felt distressed.
I don't want to believe that Joe has the desire to peep first, then fall in love with someone, and then pry out reasonable in the name of love.
I prefer to believe that Joe is born out of love to be curious about another person, so curious that he can't restrain himself from exploring the other person’s life without blind spots, curious so much that he has not cared about privacy and the law, and I feel that these are not worthy of being the most important thing in this world. Things are on par.
What his traces of growth taught him is a set of free-style care that compulsively encroach on others.
Joe thought that the time he was in the cage had completed self-salvation. As everyone knows, he just completed the complete surrender to Mooney's teachings. In his young heart, he has already established such accustomed values.
This is what makes Joe sad. His mind has never grown and he has always looked like a boy.
Fortunately, Beck is an adult with established values. She doesn't have to give in to anyone, even if it is a strong love that kidnap her.
/ About self-salvation /
Everyone's life has a bad time, only immature people will believe and look forward to the day when Prince Charming will save himself from the current situation.
Everyone wants to have a refuge. When faced with the water weeds when they are drowning, they will want to grab them, rely on them, and sink them.
When the things you want too much are obtained too easily, it is mostly untrue.
Indulging in short-lived beautiful fantasies is really numbing, but in the end, you still have to stumble and get out of the pit in order to complete self-salvation.
Love is more important.
But the world is a cruel place.
end
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