Jet lag, woke up in the middle of the night. Let's play code.
On the plane back, I watched a movie "How to be single", a feature film without subtitles, so I watched it smoothly. I like to call this kind of movie a living novel movie. The heroine is beautiful, the subject matter is also my favorite, and the ending and answer are not popular.
I have been confused, why I have not been able to find the right person and the right relationship. The answer is another question, why bother to seek relationships?
The happiness that comes with intimacy has always been a huge part of my life, and I don't know why.
When I was in my teens and twenties, I was the kind of person who was in a relationship and could want nothing and nothing. As long as you were tender and sweet, if you were in love, would you be full if you drink cold water. Later, it gradually fell into reality, the sky didn't meet people's wishes, and it was nothing if it lacked, so I began to slowly find the cornerstone to support myself. Despite this, I always feel that life should have an intimate partner and an intimate relationship. Sometimes I feel that there is no lovable person in this life, I feel disappointed and bleak, as if I can't get true and profound happiness.
In the past few years, I have slowly woken up, and people in this world need to be self-consistent.
An independent self is the cornerstone of personal happiness. All intimate relationships, parent-child, partner, friendship, are built on independence and self-consistency, which is the icing on the cake, not the necessity of life.
A person who truly undertakes the loneliness of survival, experience, and struggle can have a true self. It is like climbing to the top of a high mountain and immersed in the afterglow of the sunset. It is like completing the satisfaction of the day's work goals in the middle of the night. The quiet universe belongs to me alone. one person.
I'm no longer the child of anyone, the parent, the partner, the siblings, the best friends in life, those are all important, but they're not necessary for a happy personal life.
A firm climb, a life with mountains to build, and afterglow to look forward to is the cornerstone of life.
More than half of life, suddenly unlocked. I don't think I'll be the same anymore.
My boss once told me that many moments of insight, what you think is inevitable, is the inevitable trend of your life story.
If I were a movie, if it was also a living novel, I hope that one day in the future, there will be such a scene in this movie, when the afterglow from the top of the mountain hits her face, the heroine will start a self-consistent and firm smile.
Finish.
Attached some lines:
You are not gonna find the right guy by bumming free drinks and shutting it up. You just meet guys and fall into their dick sand. Every time a guy looks at you. You just forget who you are. You just got suck in their world . At least if I want a boyfriend. I'm gonna find someone who likes me for who I really am because I know who the fuck that is.
The thing about being single is, you should cherish it. Because in a week, or a lifetime being alone, you may only get one moment. One moment when you are not tied up in a relationship with anyone. A parent, a pet, a sibling, a friend. One moment when you stand on your own. really truly single. And then, it's gone.
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