Next door Lao Fan sang in his heavy and vicissitudes of voice: "I stumbled towards you, and you can't leave alone. We said that no matter what, we will experience the wind and rain together, and grow old peacefully and quietly. I am pregnant. With an uneasy heart and wanting to keep the most precious memories with you, we desperately embrace each other without leaving room for loneliness, powerlessness is our final inevitable ending."
The lyrics of this song "Want to Embrace You in a Mediocre World" have an indescribable sadness, but they are also truly heart-wrenching.
Ordinary People is a 1980 film directed by Robert Redford about the emotional turmoil and eventual breakdown of everyday life in an upper-middle-class American family.
The family of three in "Ordinary People" has no supporting roles. Everyone is indispensable in the play, and together they interpret the unusualness of an ordinary family.
Originally a warm and friendly family of four, because of an accident, the eldest son Buck drowned, and the younger son Conrad was entangled in that accident. He couldn't let himself go and tried to commit suicide. Because of her son's accident, mother Beth had a gap with her youngest son, and an uneasy and tense relationship pervaded the home. Father Calvin cared for his wife's feelings and his son in the family, reconciling the conflicts in the family.
Although the family of three worked hard to live a life without Buck, they could not bear the depression and the cracks in their hearts. In the end, the mother Beth ran away with her luggage, and the father and son comforted each other and hugged each other.
This is a film with superb acting skills and a wonderful plot. The success of the whole play lies in the director's delicate way of showing us a family that is still broken even if it is carefully maintained.
Life is a slow hammering process
Wang Xiaobo said: "Life is a slow process of being hammered."
Life is hard, and everyone's life can't be smooth sailing, and it is always at will.
The adult world is full of scars, work, life, and family, none of which can be cultivated without care. It's not bad if you just cultivate it.
The key difficulty is that some relationships can't be repaired well, like the Calvin family.
Son Conrad, feeling guilty for not being able to save his brother on the sailboat, tried to commit suicide to free himself. Mother Beth lost her eldest son and became sensitive and harsh. Conrad, who was already blaming himself, saw his mother's attitude towards him and couldn't stand it. As a result, the relationship between the son and the mother became tense and estranged. My father struggled to create balance, but he was still unable to do so.
When his mother saw his shirt torn and asked, Conrad changed the subject; at breakfast, his mother handed Conrad a piece of bread, but Conrad refused to eat it, and his mother viciously threw the bread into the trash; took a photo; , Calvin proposed to take a picture of Conrad and Beth, but Beth refused.
Conrad sees a psychiatrist twice a week and still can't get out of the nightmarish family atmosphere. Conrad's relationship with his mother was always anxious and explosive.
Home was originally a warm and full of laughter, however, Calvin's home is deserted, sensitive and grumpy.
There is a crack in the home, how to repair it?
It is said that there are cracks in life, and light needs to come in.
So, if there is a crack in the home, how to fix it?
In the play, Calvin tries hard to play a good husband and a father who cares for his son, but Calvin still can't stand his wife Beth's attitude.
He remembered that at his son's funeral, the clothes he was wearing were forcibly changed by his wife. He found that his wife didn't love him anymore, not his son, but only loved himself.
He cried alone late at night, after his wife found out. Calvin's emotions poured out like a faucet.
At dawn, his wife, Beth, left with her luggage.
In fact, the wife is also suffering, perhaps more involuntarily, because she cannot control her emotions, so she is also suffering.
Watching my wife leave, the scene at the beginning of the movie struck me. A yellow forest looks beautiful, but it gives people a sense of heaviness.
Life is sometimes so helpless, and at the moment when I can't do anything, I think the Calvin family is anxious and painful.
The best healing is time, time will heal some wounds, and time will return justice to everyone.
I once saw this sentence in a book: "Life is actually very simple. You always love chasing false ideals and clinging to the unrealizable things that have passed. Just live every day well."
Everyone understands the big truth, but the small emotions are hard to control.
The mother's departure, I hope is temporary.
I hope Conrad comes out in grief, I hope Calvin faces love bravely, and I hope Beth can come back.
Hope to embrace you in the mediocre world.
Those who have lost will miss them with their hearts, those who live will cherish each other, and life is enough.
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